baby sleeping at night

Monica - posted on 11/21/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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my son is 4 months old and is still not sleeping at night, is there anything I can do to help him sleep at night so that i can sleep?

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Jessica - posted on 11/29/2009

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All bubs are different and will sleep through the night at different ages! (Also, most sleep studies define 'sleeping through' for a baby as 5 hours not 8.) Some babies do well on a routine, some just get stressed out. If you make sure they are not hungry (but DON"T give cereal to fill them up without medical advice - it is just calories without all the vitamins in milk, if they are waking hungry they need those vitamins too!) and that they are comfortable when they go to sleep then they will sleep as long as they can. My bub started weeing a lot more at 3 months and we needed to put her in a bigger nappy overnight, that helped. There's a growth spurt at 4 months that can disrupt sleeping patterns but it's only temporary, so you might find it resolves soon without you doing anything!
Research suggests you should not do controlled crying (leaving them to cry for longer and longer periods) for AT LEAST the first six months as you are just teaching them no-one will help when they need it. At this age they are to young to manipulate you, if they wake and cry, it is because they need you! Unfortunately society seems to think babies should be like adults, but they are not....

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Holly - posted on 11/28/2009

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not sure myself, but have read that if there is no sleep associations (ie: feed to sleep, rocking, walking, music) that you can try gradual extinction. This is put them in crib at sleep time leave for 2min, then gradually increase til 8 min (of crying), then 10min for subsequent nights..... try it

Lisa - posted on 11/28/2009

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My son is now 20 weeks. He's been on the Gina Ford routine since 1 week old and has slept on his front since two weeks old. Basically the routine states that you start the day at 7am and finish the day at 7pm. I totally recommend it. Alfie has dinner (solids) at 5pm now and his last bottle at 6.30pm and then in bed for 7pm. Unless something happened during the day/ change in routine or upset and he ate all his food then he sleeps til 7am. I think its all about routine and a full tummy. There are times when he'll wake at 5am and this usually means that its time to start increasing his food a little throughout the day or that he slept too much in the day. He sleeps for no more than 3hrs during the day but its usually around 2 hours spread over 3 naps. If he wakes chatting to himself we leave him. I know some people bring babe into their beds but i'm trying not to get into that as i know others with 3 yr olds who this is still a regular occurance for. I think if you do it regularly now you'll never be able to break the habit. Eventually he gets bored or tired again and goes back to sleep or i have to feed him coz he needs more food but that's just trial and error.

Good luck.

p.s apparently boys are harder/longer to get sleeping through the night than girls!

Chrissy - posted on 11/28/2009

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my little one is 4 months and sleeps from about 11pm till around 8am, sometimes a little earlier up but usually the same. The best advice i was given and would definitely recommend is, that you give your baby their feed at night time, if you have to wake them then so be it, then let it settle for around 15 mins or so then give your baby a bath and then feed them again, this helps their tummy to be as full as it can be resulting in hopefully a full nights sleep for you, and if bath time isnt an option foe you that late on.....the feeding then leaving for around 30 minutes then feeding again should also work just the same, babies that stockpile feed before bed tend to sleep longer even if you dont manage all night, you may grt a good 6 hours or so anyways. hope this helps and hope you are having a good nights sleep very soon! x

Rebeeca - posted on 11/28/2009

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My daughter was sleeping 6 to 9 hours a night up until she turned 3 mths. Now she is up constantly during the night. We have tried the Fisher Price acarium, white noise, towels under her legs and beside her and a hot water bottle in the crib. We figure she is teething and really needs a portable boob with her now. I am just hoping she out grows this stage and sleeps better again soon.

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My little girl turned 4 months on the 19th and for about 1 month she has been on a set schedule. It did not take her long to adjust to the schedule. At 7:30pm every night I give her a bath (it calms her) then I feed her 4oz of cereal with a bottle mixed in with formula and warm the bottle up (warm milk helps you sleep better) she usually crashes around 8:30pm but usually still wakes up at 3am on the dot! but goes back to bed after I feed her and doesn't wake up until around 7am. I think some babies will just always wake up until they are older. But setting a schedule is very helpful

Eunice - posted on 11/28/2009

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make sure u feed him very well. my daughter is 4 months in 2 days and she is sleeping almost the whole night. i feed her well and she is quiet through the night.

Sophie - posted on 11/28/2009

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my son is now 4and a half months and has always been a good sleeper....til a few weeks ago when he started waking every 2hours for a feed, the last two weeks he has been in solid food which has worked wonders, he is nice and full at bedtime and sleeps from 6.30 till 8am, on the odd nite he does wake up and wont settle i give him a drink of water, i also find having the same routine every day is most helpful. hope that helps in some way because i do feel for all the parents out there whos babies dont sleep, my first son was a poorly boy when he was born and i spent most nights walkin thru round the house with him and even now hes nearly two its rare he sleeps thru the night even tho he is much better now, so i do understand how shattered u must feel.

Amanda - posted on 11/27/2009

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I agree, children do fantastic on a schedule! My 3 year old started sleeping all night at about 3 months, and my youngest is 4 months and started sleeping all night at about 2 months. When they know what comes next they expect it, and if they don't like it, they will make a fuss about it. But, if you stick to your schedule (and your guns ha ha ha) after a few days they will learn that fussing about a part of their schedule they do not like is pointless. You are the parent, and believe it or not, you have the ability to manipulate your schedule and your days to however you want them to be. They are babies, they are impressionable, and they are very resilient....make your days (and nights) how you want them, and sooner or later they will follow your lead. Good luck!

Lana - posted on 11/23/2009

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Thats so funny how different all babies are. My daughter HATES being on her stomach, i cant imagine her sleeping like that! But I agree with the schedule, I have been on the same schedule for almost 2 months now, and my daughter slept thru the night every night from 2 to 3 months, now she wakes up at 6:30 to eat and goes right back to sleep. I give her a bath at 10:30pm and then a bottle with 6oz and 2tblspoons of cereal in it and she falls asleep right after the bottle, if not while eating then five min or so after I put her in her crib. I only feed her 4 1/2 or 5 oz during the day so the bottle at night is a little bigger and she just knocks out :) Also the longer they stay up before bedtime, the longer they sleep once they fall asleep. Good Luck!!!! :)

Jamauria - posted on 11/23/2009

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My daugher will be 4 months tomorrow. I place her on her belly to sleep and she sleeps throuth the whole night! I check on her breathing every now and then but she does just fine!

Nakita - posted on 11/23/2009

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my 4 month old has been sleeping through the night since she was 2 months!!. try putting him on a seduale, i bath my little girl every night at 8:00 no matter what, then she stays up till about 9:30/10 then she gets a bottle then bed, and she out till 9:00 the next morning!! good luck!!

Amy - posted on 11/23/2009

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My daughter will be 4 mos on Saturday. I have been putting her on her belly for about 3 weeks now. She sleeps through the night now. It started the first night I put her on her tummy. She had been sleeping less and less during the night in the weeks prior to that when I was still putting her on her back. She finally got to where she wouldn't sleep for more than an hour and a half at most and that was all night long. We were both tired and cranky! I didn't start putting her on her tummy however until she was already rolling over to her tummy on her own. I know we're not supposed to put them on their bellies but sometimes you've both just got to have some rest. btw . . she is much happier now, she's not having meltdowns every day, and we've not had a single problem with her breathing on her belly.

Monica - posted on 11/23/2009

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I have to say that i am lucky he only gets up one time to eat but he does not always go right back to sleep.

Wilma - posted on 11/21/2009

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My 4 month doesnt sleep during the night yet..bedtime is 11pm for her, up at 2, 4 and 7 for feedings

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