Shelley - posted on 11/25/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )
ATM, most nights my 4mth old girl's bedtime is 12 - 1am. I have spoken to child health nurses and they make me feel like a failure and an irresponsible parent for allowing her to do this. I have tried so many times to put her to bed earlier.
The child health nurses have recommended that I give her an evening bath instead of a morning one. I tried this and she ended up with a cold, I gave her a bath at 8pm and the windows were closed and she was dressed approriately so I do not know how she managed to get a chill. The other recommendation for us was to let her cry while patting her to sleep. Both my husband and I aren't comfortable with this option, although we did try it for a few days and she keep resisting and then was more out of sync than anything, not as playful, overall not as happy.
She sleeps through the night and wakes usually around 9am for a feed, then back to sleep at 11am after her bath and another feed for anywhere up to two more hours. When she wakes, she feeds again, we play together and I then give her some 'tummy time' and from there we get out of the house for a walk or shopping or visit friends etc. She will then have another nap of up to 2 hrs around 3pm after another feed. She is awake from then to 1030pm, feeding 2hrly in between. She will wake again at 11, fusses and feeds on/off until 12-1am.
She dislikes car trips, butr eventually falls asleep. She will nap in her pram. We use J&J Bedtime Bath & lotion which does help, with this heat I've opted to use powder instead of lotion to prevent nappy rash/heat rash. She is breastfed, occassionally with a bottle of expressed milk.
She is a happy bub and is developing all-round quite nicely. We don't have much of a problem with her bed time as we believe it is not effecting her development and are prepared to sacrifice our early nights.
Could you please provide suggestions and if what we're currently doing is wrong as the nurses have suggested and if we really should be establishing a rigid bed routine at this stage. Will it effect her ability to sleep and sleep earlier later on as she gets older? Could our daytime routine do with some fine tuning? If so, how?