my daughter is sooooooo naughty

Christine - posted on 07/12/2012

my daughter does the same thing and knows what "NO" means but usually just laughs.. she seems to think its a fun game.. she even will laugh and then kick my belly when i tell her that her baby borther or sister is in there...

Elizabeth - posted on 07/08/2012

She has to learn that hitting is unacceptable behavior. In my experience as a daycare nanny, and mother of a one year old, I have found that time outs IF DONE CORRECTLY are the very best form of discipline for young children. I assume, since she is potty training, she is about two? When she misbehaves:
1. take her to a designated area like a naughty chair or step (NOT her room)
2. Get down to her eye level and briefly explain what she did wrong
3. Walk away and leave her in time out for 2 minutes (one minute for each year of age)
*the first couple of times she will probably get up several of dozens of times. Ignore her and just keep returning her to the naughty spot to restart the two minutes. It will get easier after the first one or two timeouts.
4. After her time out is done go back and get down to here eye level to reexplain what she did wrong.
5. Tell her to apologize (she can't leave timeout without it)
6. Tell her you love her and give hugs and kisses.

It is important not to skip any steps, remain calm YET FIRM. Please trust me that this is really an amazing technique. It may be hard the first two times, but (as with my boy and the hundreds of children her age I have cared for) it is SO WORTH THE EFFORT!

Elizabeth - posted on 12/22/2010

my daughter is 16mths and has done this since she could sit up i feel like i have tried averything i dont really know what to do when she was a baby i could never take her to baby areas at mother and toodler groups she always had to be with other ones as i was terrified she would hit a new born she hits, bites, headbutts, shouts at everyone if she doesnt get her own way ive been told she will grow out of it. if i tell her no she turns her back to me and carrys on, when i move her away from what she is doing and say no she at best will laugh at me otherwise she hits out

Joel - posted on 12/22/2010

my daughter is also a handful and acts up the most when she is with me but the problem is we are spoiling them. i have a cousins who is 4 and is so spoiled its hard to go out in public with her. i would say try and use time outs that seem to be working alittle with my daughter.

Nicole - posted on 12/20/2010

i find the best thing is to say no, that will ouch/ that is mommy's or daddys and redirect with one of his toys, but sometimes he doesnt listen - the best thing has been to send him to a designated nauhty corner and tell him to sit there and calm down. he then gets up, sometimes he throws atepmer shortly after, but now he knows when he has done wrong and will pick up his bottle and walk to the corner on his own andlie down, calm down and come back with a smile on his face about a minute or 30 seconds later.
the first few times i had to hold him down and i actually smacked his leg once cos he was thowing himself about and hurting both of us, whacked me in the nose that i was streaming with blood. pitty i had to resort to a smack. but he has never thrwn another wobbly like that again! thank goodness.

Emmilene - posted on 12/19/2010

when she has a fit dont pay any attention to it . I have one just like her

Amanda - posted on 12/17/2010

Try using the uhah sound for no as it means no is used less often, also I hear them use stop at daycare rather then no. Try not to over react to the tantrums as the kids do mirror our behaviour Good Luck

Katie - posted on 12/15/2010

Also try not to say no too often. Or if you do then explain why they cant. When my daughter hits we say "no hitting, but you can give high fives" then she goes around and gives everyone high fives.

Katie - posted on 12/15/2010

I know what you mean. My husband and I have gotten on the same level for discipline and it seems to help. If she is doing something naughty we count to three and if she hasnt stopped what she is doing by the count of three we put her in time out (a designated spot) for one minute (one minute per age). She almost always stops by the time we get to 3. If its something really naughty and needs to be stopped now we just put her in timeout. And its very important that after time out you sit next to them and let them know why they were in time out. Then you give them a big hug. Same for daycare, let them know your routine for discipline or ask what there routine is and go off of that.

Christa - posted on 12/14/2010

My little boy is exactly the same, you just have to remember that the she is doing it with you is because she feels most comfortable with you, I have noticed Bailey gets worse when he gets tired so watch for those signs. I also always try and remember he may understand no but he doesn't understand why he can't so try to explain it to her, when he bites me or other children I just touch him gently and say gentle hands and don't bite mummy that hurts, biting is often be there way if expressing themselves because they can not talk yet and it is very frustrating for them. Just try and be patient and remember everything is just a stage, next month will be different. 17 months is quite early for toilet training but if you think she is ready try the mornings when she wakes up, it is a common time for them to do a wee.

Tshego - posted on 12/09/2010

Hi, my son Kgato is 16months old, he has such a temper. When he touches or picks up something he is not supposed to, and you take it from him, he will fall down and start kicking and screaming. Then he would pick up the nearest thing to him and hit you with it. But he knows when he is doing something wrong because he would look at you before he does it, and when i shout he would come and kiss me as if to make me forget that he was being naughty. He is not too bad yet, i just hope he does not get worse. i also need help with potty trianing, he refuses the potty, and next year i want him to go to school.

Nomusa - posted on 12/08/2010

I think its important for you to be firm coz its obvious she knows what she is doing if she only acts like that with you. Try not to say no too often and when you are correcting her stay calm coz children tend to play up more when they can see that you are getting frustrated. My son is nearly 17 months and what i do with him is when he is constantly being naughty i ignore him and he will scream n throw things while looking at me to get attention and i pretend as if i cant see him then he will come to me and try to give me a kiss. at times i pretend not to want the kiss n tell him that if he is naughty he doesnt get a kiss coz i know that bothers him he will keep on trying to kiss me then he gets it at the end and it works for me, try it.

Katie - posted on 12/08/2010

how old is she?... my daughter started doing this just after she turned one, she hasn't been in daycare so I didn't notice her doing it to anyone other than her dad though not as bad when he was around... after a few very long months she stopped doing it. I just kept saying no all the time. a few times I tried being especially prasing of her when she was good but it didn't help too much. good luck