My one year old likes to hit, bite, scratch, and pinch!

Caitlyn - posted on 08/08/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )

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My son who is 13 months is very aggressive and hits any and everyone especially when they get in his face. He does it when he is playing but also when he is mad. Anyone else having this experience?

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Jennyfer - posted on 08/24/2010

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I have the exact same problem! I do daycare in my home and my son has been biting, pushing and taking things from my neighbors son who is 3 months younger. He has bite my husband once too. Not sure what to do about it!

Adebola - posted on 08/16/2010

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Well , i don't know if its like that with most of the one year olds. Mine is doing same, infact, he pulls the cloth of every child he comes in contact with. Like kind of fighthing them. I think its a phase in their life. As long as we try to make them know it is wrong at anytime they put up such behaviour. i guess they'll change as they grow older.

Fiza - posted on 08/18/2010

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yes mine too.whats worst he throws tantrums too like flipping himself backwards..

Ashley - posted on 08/17/2010

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My daughter will do that and she bites. I stay away from the word no and I use...nice, ouch, that hurt...and I use a firm tone in my voice. If she continues after a few times, I remove her calmly from the situation or the room, for a few minutes and let her calm down, then bring her back and tell her to be nice. So far it is working. The parenting class called Love and Logic has been the best thing ever, I took it twice and loved it, and it works!

Nicole - posted on 08/11/2010

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yes, infact it's happening right now.
i have tried so many things but the best thing for me has been to let him know it was sor by saying OWCH! but not shouting or screaming, buti do rais my voice a bit so it's a declaration, not just a word or sound. then i give him a smack on his nappy, not hard but so it makes a sound and that he realises it's different to the normal soft, loving touch. and then i put him on the floor, walk away and close the babygate behind me or completely ignore him while he throws a temper tantru because i wont let him. ill come back to him in about 5 min. pick him up and console him.
hit/scratch/bite/slap/kick or punch me! he has given me a few bleeding and many swollen lips. lots of bruises, many raw and bleeding scratches. i have tried so many things. this might be a bit of a contraversial way of dealing with it - but unfortunately it's the one that works for us. 1 year olds dont quite get the sit in a corner because you were naughty approach!

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Stacey - posted on 04/25/2013

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Where do you find the love and logic parenting class? Ive heard about it and how it works very well. Im hoping that I have this under control for now but am losing patience and I need a more permanent solution.

Tatum - posted on 10/19/2012

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My son just turned one and hes been hitting biting scratching punching throws things right at u exspecialy at ur face and he kicks idk how to stop it its driving me nuts hes blacked my eye headed butted my nose and bruised it busted my lip i hope to find out how to fix it but it sounds common

Wajiha - posted on 08/24/2010

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My daughter hits and bites when someone takes something away from her and when its not given back to her, she cries like anything and then chills out when ignored. Too many 'no' is not a good thing, so normally i ignore her if she throws a tantrum. If not, then i say no to her and remove her from the area.

Lyssa - posted on 08/24/2010

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Oh My I thought I was the only one. My 13 month old son does the exact same thing, bites, claws, scratches, hits. I'm not too sure what to do about it. if I say ouch he laughs and thinks it's funny. If I tell him no or tap his hand he smacks me back. I don't believe he's old enough to realize what a time out is. He's throwing horrible temper tantrums. I've tried time outs where i put him in his crib and shut hsi door for about 5 minutes and go back and get him, but that doesn't help either he just screams the whole time during the time out and forever afterwards. I'm not sure what to do either

Ashley - posted on 08/23/2010

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I am still a firm believer in Love and Logic Parenting Class, So far it is working well with my 13 month old, and the fits have decreased already.

Kati - posted on 08/23/2010

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My son does the same thing! His biggest thing is pulling hair, so I pull his back (not as hard of course) and tell him "see that hurts when you do that". He has learned quickly not to do that any more.

Ridwana - posted on 08/20/2010

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Hi! My one year old boy Aydin is the same. He even pulls my glaases off, and has started screaming and shouting at me. I'm not sure what this is

Candice - posted on 08/19/2010

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My son does the same exact thing when he doesn't get his way. I thought my child was the only one who went from being a sweetie to being a meanie. Nice to know I'm not alone.

Amie - posted on 08/18/2010

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My boy is 13 months and we have all the same probs that you do he will a;so go for your eyes and really get his nails in there it takes all you have not to drop them when they really hurt you . We have started to just tell him NO then put him down and watch him blow up!!! then when i pick him back up i tell him nice touching and he will rest hi head on me its cute. I have found that my husband and older son (who is 10) dont help with this at all because they find it funny!!

Editor - posted on 08/17/2010

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mine also behaves in same way when she sees a child of her age but i just remove her from the child and put her on my back by the time i put her down she plays well with the kid

Mikaila - posted on 08/15/2010

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the problem that i am having is that my little sweetheart thinks that she can hit me as long as she gives me a kiss after. i get very frustrated bc i have been very constant with her in telling her no or putting her in time out but she is just not getting it. it makes me feel bad bc all the sudden mamas girl doesnt want to be around mama.

Darylann - posted on 08/15/2010

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My Lily does this to me...she sinks her nails into my neck and chest...when I tell her no and that it hurts mommy she giggles...sometimes i tap her hands while saying no but thats funny to her too. I try to keep her nails cut short so that it doesn't hurt me as much when she does it but I haven't gotten through to her yet that its unacceptable for her to do so. Little stinker :) Can't be mad at her, she is too cute!!!

Tifani - posted on 08/14/2010

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my 13 month old does this all the time he thinks he is playing and i'll say you are hurting mommy or say no he just started doing it when he gets mad and when he does this i'll just put him in a time out for a few minutes to calm down

Krissy - posted on 08/12/2010

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my girl has taken that up lately i also say 'No' in a firm quite voice and some times a tap on the nappy makes her stop . i rarly do the tap only when she carries on and wants to fight me hand tooth and nail- espech if she doesnt want to sleep and shes over tired . her big bro doesnt help much as he tends to try to do that to her but i guess siblings love then hate each other . she has learnt what no means and sometimes smiles and trys to see what i will do if she trys it again and agin etc..she now gives up as everyday it just keep on reaferming it also placing her down on the floor (if at home) or back in her trolly helps also if im out and im hopeing she'll get out of it soon enough.

Jessica - posted on 08/11/2010

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Um yes, but mine likes to do it as a sign of affection. So when I take him for example from his Dad he will pinch and scratch me. I know it is his little way of saying 'I love you' but I try to discourage it by either saying 'no' in a dissaproving way or just ignoring it. That seems to be working (I have less scratch marks on my arms and chest!). I also give him lots of hugs and kisses and tell him I love him.

He will also do it if he gets really excited with other children at play groups. Again, I go for a discouraging 'no' and if that doesn't work I physically pick him up and move him to the edge of the room away from the other kids so he forgets what he was doing...

I think it has to be a relatively common thing in boys, I see lots of the others doing the same thing. I would be son interested to hear how other Mums deal with it as it is difficult and a little tough on the girls and less agressive boys!

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