My son won't go to sleep on his own! And makes me lay down with him when he makes up still!!

Natalie - posted on 05/17/2010

My son wouldnt go to sleep unless i cuddled him to sleep and i just couldnt do it anymore, i wanted him to learn to put himself to sleep.
I started to put him in his cot with his dummy (only has his dummy for naps and bedtime) and i would put his musical mobile on and say goodnight and walk out. As soon as he started crying, i'd go back in and pat his bum and soothed him and walk out and kept repeating it until he fell asleep. I found that if i patted his bum enough to make him sleepy, then walk out the room, he would then do the rest and put himself to sleep. Its a long process but it worked a treat for me! He now puts himkself to sleep.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/17/2010

my son started sleep better when i put him in his own bed and a differant room! keeping him up more will make him more sleepy and letting him cry alil wont hurt even if you live in an apt they should understand... if you continue to go into the room to get him when he crys he will think taht you will alwya s do it so put a stop to it now it will get better!!

Teresa - posted on 05/17/2010

sometimes us mums need to let our babies cry, i had to because my boy was the same but its great now cause i can give him his bottle them he goes to sleep on his own he sometimes wakes at night so i have a small bottle on hand ready to get him back to sleep

Joanne - posted on 05/17/2010

My little girl has also started wanting to fall asleep in my arms, I've tried to let her cry it out but she just vomits everywhere. She's never slept all night which doesn't bother me it's the not going to sleep by herself that's sending me around the twist! If you find anything that works please let me know.

Genia - posted on 05/17/2010

for a baby born in July 2009 this is perfectly normal! So many people expect babies to sleep through the night all by themselves at such an early age...when it's not the reality. It happens, sure, but it's much more common for babies to continue waking and eating in the night even past their first birthday, and needing comfort to fall asleep well past that! If you want to gradually, gently (no screaming) get him used to falling asleep without you and soothing himself back to sleep at night try reading The No-Cry Sleep Solution and creating a sleep plan. It will take a lot of time, self-discipline, and consistency though.

Christina - posted on 05/12/2010

my son had this problem for a while.. he was still sleeping in our bed every nite.. i started keeping him up more during the day..(he takes 2 1hr naps) and at about 930pm i give him a big warm bottle and rock him to sleep..sit with him for like 5 min till he is out cold.. then put him in his bed. he often wakes up once in the middle of the nite and i give him his pacifier and he goes back to sleep. you need to get nitelites.. if you turn on the light when the baby wakes up he'll never go back to sleep... its hard but you have to get used to going back in fourth for a week or so then it will get better..