what do you miss from before you had a baby?

Jenni+shane - posted on 04/28/2010

i love been mum its best thing in world. i miss getting up in the morning when i want to and at night times when she decides she wants to stay up like right now its twenty past ten and she wide awake up on the floor.and like a few of u have said just getting my purse and key and leaving not anymore all the stuff i have pack for her even if i going leaving house for five min

Stephanie - posted on 04/28/2010

Freedom...sleep...not having to worry about anyone else.....But I do LOVE being a mum...it just takes more adjusting to than I thought.

Catherine - posted on 04/28/2010

i miss having a lay in bed!!!! oh and having a full nites sleep. am working from home so not too bad

Cristina - posted on 04/27/2010

I love my daughter very much but sometimes I remember what it was like to just lay in bed with the hubby on the weekends and snuggle lol or when we would just decide to go dancing and we didn't have to worry about a babysitter. :)

Faith - posted on 04/14/2010

SLEEP!!!! I co-sleep with my son and he wakes up to nurse several times a night.. and I just do not rest well.. that and time to clean or do anything.. my husband is away at tech school and was away for basic traning pretty much missing 6 months out of our babys life and mine and its all on me so I cant just hand him off and say OK I am cleaning or taking a naop.. oohh I miss sleep..

Raina - posted on 04/14/2010

I have an eleven month old daughter and I LOVE her more than anything else in this world!!! But...I do miss the alone time me and my husband used to share and the freedom to basically do whatever, but at the same time I would not take her back for anything!!! I am so proud to be her mommmy. She is beautiful, smart, funny like her daddy, and she makes me smile everyday. Sure it's hard sometimes and my husband and I are very young (21 and 20) but we love her more than anything and even though it's taken him almost a whole year to really appreciate her and warm up to the idea of being a daddy, neither one of us would take her back. I think it's hard for men, especially young men, to deal with the "baby stage". Being a parent is something that just comes naturally to us women, men on the other hand really have to mole it over in their minds and accept it. All in all I know we both feel blessed to have her and we plan on having atleast one more child 4 or 5 years down the road. I love my family!!!

La-Shawn - posted on 04/12/2010

i agree with you it just seems as though your never going to come back home....but i do miss going out with girls for a couple of drinks....now every time i do go out all i can think about is my lil girl i love her so much and i also miss the time me and daddy spent before we had her

Carissa - posted on 04/10/2010

i miss going out without planning. i miss people being excited to see me, all they see is the baby ,but i guess that's part of being a mom. my baby is a year now, so i'm strting to be reintouced to my old pal sleep.

Carla - posted on 04/09/2010

That's easy...SLEEP! haha. I'm a mother of a 3 1/2 year old boy and 8 month old twin girls. It definitely changes life having children but you just adapt to it. Oh what I would do for some sleep though.....

Megan - posted on 04/08/2010

i have three great beautiful boys 5 , 3 and 8 months i have the prevledge of staying at home with them i love being a mum cant see myself doing anything else the only thing i miss being able to do is go out when i want and to come home i want and to have a bath in peace lol but they are only small things in life .........

Elizabeth - posted on 04/07/2010

My son is absolutely the love of my life, but there are things I miss. Materially: my body, drinking a beer socially during happy hour, and drinking coffee. As soon as he's weaned I'm getting a trainer, having a beer, and picking caffeine back up! Otherwise, I miss having large chunks of time to get things done. It seems like I never get more than an hour at a time to do anything, even at night (he's 8 months old and still up constantly at night). Luckily I'm a ABD doctoral student so I don't have much I need to be doing within a certain daily time structure, but if I did I would be in trouble! My husband and I do date night once a week while family watches our little man - that is a must.

Julie - posted on 04/07/2010

I'm a SAHM and my hubby works 70+ hrs a week and we have no family in the area so mostly I miss things like going to the grocery store etc by myself. Getting 2 other little people besides myself dressed and fed to leave the house EVERYTIME makes me occasionally miss the times I could just run to the store to get something! Most of the time they make boring trips out a lot more fun so it balances out all the extra work to get out the door.

Lauren - posted on 04/07/2010

To be honest the thing i miss most are my friends!! Im a stay at home mum and most of our friends are single or those that are married dont have kids yet, so they still like to go out quiet often and stay our late. Now with 2 kids (3yr old boy and 8month girl) money is virtually stretched to its limit so going out every weeks just isnt feasible!! They also like to meet at 7pm so by the time you get your food its almost 8pm and the kids are tired and wanta go to bed which in turn stresses my husband and I out as we either scoff down our food and leave or have to take turns eating or entertaining the kids. All in all it just isnt worth it. Saying that tho we have a few friends who will meet us early or help look after the kids so we can eat or even are happy to just have take away at our house so the kids can go to bed with less stress.
I think this feeling is made worse because i am a stay at home mum, I love my kids to bits and def wouldnt change it for the world but being at home everyday with not alot of adult conversations my friends have become my outlet to "let my hair down" and "get outta the house".

Jolene - posted on 04/07/2010

I miss my freedom too. Just going to the grocery store is an adventure with two kids. I remember when used to just drop by the store after work. I also miss being able to use the computer without shooing the 2 year old away and moving the 8 month old who is trying to pull himself up on the screen of the lap top. One paragraph just took me 15 minutes to type. I love my kids but there are parts of being a mom that really suck.

Carrie - posted on 04/07/2010

i miss my pre-baby boobs!! and just being able to go out to dinner , th e moovies, the drive in, golfing etc without reason, and probably taking my sweet time shopping. besides that, i wouldnt change a thing.

Rhonda - posted on 04/06/2010

As selfish as this seems, I miss my freedom. Just getting up and leaving the house and not worrying if I had enough diapers and milk and toys and blankets and...............ugh. But hes nine now, and I still love it!

Amanda - posted on 04/06/2010

I think every good parent feels the same way, you think of the things that will change after your baby comes but then after they are finally here, you don't think of things that way, you think of how much your life has improved and you think, wow, what did I do before you my precious baby. One thing I miss is being able to pick up and go. My husband and I would decide to go to a movie or out for a date all we had to do was find the car keys. Now if it is something my kids can go to (we have a 3 year old girl and a 10 month old boy) we have to go through and make sure we have everything in the diaper bag, everybody is fed and changed and has used the potty all of that, or we have to get a babysitter and with two little ones it isn't always easy. But it is so worth it! We wouldn't change anything, my husband and I have found ways to have date nights at home. We are very lucky and very blessed!

Jeni - posted on 04/06/2010

i love my little guy, the only thing i would say i miss is my body :(
but id way rather have the most cutest baby in the world than the hottest body so No, there not really much i miss.

Melinda Mendy - posted on 04/06/2010

I have a 17, 14 and 4 yr old and my husband, tonight i miss quiet. Is just 5mins of quiet to much to ask for.

Amy - posted on 04/06/2010

kathleen...im so sorry for your loss...no parent should ever have to know what it is like to lose a child, i cant even imagine that, but hopefully you find solace in the fact he is always with you....but it sounds like you have so much to be greatful for, and about the mom never stopping I KNOW...my mom is the best, im 30 years old and im still her little baby!!! we absolutely love our daughter and wouldnt change a single thing about how our lives are now...i truly feel now that i am a mom my life is complete. to have this little person that loves you so completely and unconditionally, its an amazing feeling...so if i miss a nap here and there its definitely worth having her in our lives!!! i just cant believe some day she will be a teenager and eventually a mom as well...its just crazy to imagine!! and eleni...definitely not complaining about a single thing...being a mother is the best and most rewarding thing we could have ever done and i am so blessed that our leigha chose us to be her parents! it seesm like just yesterday she was born...and now she's almost 9 months

Eleni - posted on 04/06/2010

I love that belly picture first of all. What do I miss? Absolutely nothing. Having kids has changed our lives. It is the best thing ever. It has taught me to be so grateful for what we have. They make you see what life should be about. Being happy and having fun. Loving people for nothing, no matter what, not judging anyone. We have a 4 1/2 year old, and a 14 month old. They never stop moving. I love every minute of it. It took us 10 years to have our family. Not complaing about anything. Things change to quickly. Enjoy them while you can. Things could be alot worse.

Kathleen - posted on 04/06/2010

I miss my chidren being babies. I wish I could have had a dozen babies. God blessed me with 3, after having some misscarriages. I know understand Amy, how sleep deprieved you are sweetheart. I had my boys just alittle over a year apart. I remember feeling frustrated then feeling guilty for feeling frustrated but I was just sleep deprived. My daughter came 3 1/2 years later. I found myself being a single mom. I remember being so sleep deprived one time I was in the supermarket with all 3, pushing 1 cart with them in it and pulling one with the groceries in it and one of the girls in the store came up to me and asked if I was OK. I said sure and didn't have a clue as to why she would ask me that and she said, well, you are nodding your head up and down as you are shopping and moving your carts. I was so embarrased, I didn't even realize I was doing that! Between the boys having so much energy and my daughter being so very alert, I was very sleep deprived and was just nodding my head as the boys were asking, can we have this Mommy and that. I was also say uh huh, uh huh, maybe, we'll see as some sort of Mommy reaction!! Now it is more than 20 years later and so often I wish I could make them little again. You see, my oldest boy, Jimmy, was only on loan to me for 18 1/2 years. The Lord took him home to heaven after a very difficult battle with cancer. Oh how I miss him. My other 2 are married and I have been blessed with 4 grandchildren. My Michael is met our wonderful Ashley who already had our precious Julia when we met her. Michael became a father at age 19 which brought my darling grandchild Chase James. He just turned 5. My Laura had a baby boy, James Tyler at age 17 1/2, then got married and soon after, at age 19 1/2 had a daughter, our precious Jade Skye. So I am blessed with 4 beautiful granchildren plus my Ashley who I love as a daughter. So, dear Amy, enjoy every moment. Allow yourself to be human and rest whenever you can. Leigha Christina, what a beautiful name. I love being on Circle of Moms and I love hearing the stories Moms write. Oh and just as you probably know, being a Mom never, ever stops. No matter how old they become. I am middle aged, one of four, and our Mother still worries about us sometimes. Being a mother and a grandmother is the most joyful wonderful (and sometimes painful) "job" in the world" I hope this is taken in love, no bitterness here. I know I will see my Jimmy again one day. I pray God blesses you and your family and all the families here and keeps you all safe in Jesus Precious Name. Bye for now my circle of Mom friends!!

Louise - posted on 04/06/2010

I miss everything that I had before, that I don't have anymore. Life is so lonely now, stuck at home, and people just don't come around anymore.

Mariah - posted on 04/06/2010

I miss reading I could read about 20 books a month bt now btw school wrk and taking care of my baby (who i wouldnt trade for the world) im lucky if im able to read one book a month.

Kerry - posted on 04/06/2010

I have 6 kids, ranging in ages from 17 to 7 months! I think the thing I miss most is getting time to myself! Even locking myself in the bathroom doesn't work anymore. In order to get time to myself, I have to plan at least 2 weeks in advance, just to make sure all the kids are taken care of. Oh well, only 18 more years, and then maybe...

Maggie - posted on 04/06/2010

i currently have a 2.5year old daughter and 2 week old son. i love being a mom and i wouldn't change a thing. however, i miss my old clothes, i miss going out to the bars with my friends (that is more of a selfish thing i guess... even though now i hate the crowds at the bars), i miss the freedom of picking up and going whenever i want, instead of having to think about packing for two kids under the age of 2 a 31 year old husband and myself. my mind never shuts off with things that i need to do for my family. don't get me wrong, i love my life and my family, but there are definatly days where i wish i had my old self back... or at least get the old me (but improved me) back before i'm 65 :)

Heidi - posted on 04/06/2010

I miss my ski days. And being able to go workout whenever I want. And my skinny pants.

Laura - posted on 04/06/2010

Being able to sleep in and Sex are top on my list. I think the same is with my husband too. He sometimes feels a little back burnered. I know though that we would never change having a baby for the world. We are so happy to be parents. I am also happy to be a mom. I think though that when my baby is sleeping that is when I can get so much done, but then i am tired and he is wide awake. The 2 minute nap syndrome has happened in this house hold.

Kayla - posted on 04/06/2010

i miss being able to just walk out the door and be gone.....now we have to pack a diaper bag..... check the weather to see if little guy needs a jacket.....make sure the car isnt too hot.......yadda yadda yadda

Lisa - posted on 04/06/2010

I have 4 children ages 6-11. I miss having my husband all to myself. Sure we have all night to be a-l-o-n-e,,,,but I miss being able to talk to him about things other then the kids and their schedules and who's going to pick them up and drop them off. BUT! Even just writing this makes me feel guilty about even feeling this way, I absolutely love being a mom, and I'm sure as they grow up there will be time to just talk.

Melodie - posted on 04/06/2010

I have a 1 1/2yr old and a 6 month old sons, and I didn't think too much would change except having to look after another person, but was I wrong, I miss being able to shower and go to the bathroom when I needed to, now it's like waiting in line at a drive in theater at intermission, wait and wait and wait next thing you know you don't have to go anymore or your having a shower when you should be sleeping...lol. but they are the best in this world to me.

Devon - posted on 04/06/2010

I love my kids more than life itself and its because of them that I get up every day. But the one thing I miss most is being able to do nothing. And watch a (adult) TV show when it comes on, instead of watching in my bedroom with the door shut after the kids are in bed. LOL.

Ruth - posted on 04/06/2010

Ji there! The only thing I really miss is being able to just pick up & go!!! A friend calls up & says, "Hey pack a bag we're going away this weekend" & off I would go on an adventure!!! Now adventures are still fun, but require a lot more than just a bag!!! LOL I love being a mom as well. It is definitely the most under-rated job out there & should really be appreciated more. I think if the government paid mom's to stay home & raise their kids (at least until they're in school full time), what a wonderful world it would be!!!

Waulonda - posted on 04/06/2010

I don't miss anything.

Tabitha - posted on 04/06/2010

I love being a mom too. The bessed blessing I have is when picking up my son from day care is twhen he notices I have arrived he stops what he is doing and runs to me with his arms high in the air yelling 'Mommy!'. For me it is quite different though. I am a single mom with only the help of the college day care. My son is slightly autistic and is behind in comprehension by a year. This makes getting together with friends hard b/c lots of people have a hard time with something different and my son is definitely different. So, for me, the things I miss the most are spending time with others with and with out my son. B/c I don't have a sitter outside of the day care at the college I don't get out at night and b/c son is so different I don't have others in my life that want to spend time with me with my son. I love my son dearly but I feel so trapped. He and work are my only interactions in life, have been for a long time. I dearly miss connecting with others and spending time with others. B/c of my ache for quality time and conversation from others it makes being a mom to the biggest blessing in my life hard.

Tracy - posted on 04/06/2010

I love being a mom, but i miss the alone time, with my husband...we don't ever get a break..we are not lucky to have grandparents for our children that want to babysit, or just give us some alone time...i dont regret my kids...but my husband and i could use a break...

Barbara - posted on 04/06/2010

I think everything I do miss, I enjoy 10x more when I am able to do it :)

Adrianne - posted on 04/06/2010

I love being a mom as well, but I too miss being able to take a nap whenever i want to lol. But its a small price to pay for what i wouldn't give up for anything in the world. I love waking up and seeing their smiling faces at me :) and i love being the most important thing in the world to someone ♥

Jakcie - posted on 04/06/2010

I have 3 kids they are awsome i have been a mother since i was 16 now im 24 so i dont rember when i didnt have kids it was 8 years ago a long time well about 4 years ago i a little boy he has cp and dont talk well some times i cant understand him soo i feel over whelemed but i would do everything for my kids i would not change a thing the are perfect in there own way and i love all 3 or them the same!!!!!!

Shenae - posted on 04/06/2010

Prior to having my daughter, hubby and I were able to sleep in. Now, we're up when she is, whatever time that is. I'm not complaining, though. I enjoy every moment I have w/ her.

Carolyn - posted on 04/06/2010

At first when I was reading this I thought that there is nothing that I miss, mainly because I don't care to do the things I used to now that I'm a mom. Before I had kids I was a kid(had my first at 21). Now my favorite things are the things I do with my family BUT I read everyone's answers and I agree very much with Brandi Wright. I also miss uninterrupted bathroom breaks.

Crystal - posted on 04/06/2010

I miss sleeping in on the weekends other than that I really don't miss a thing. My kids are what keeps me going. They make life so much more worthwhile. Our children are the only thing that was missing from our lives before we had them.

Brandi - posted on 04/06/2010

UNINTERRUPTED bathroom break! =) Who can argue that one?? LOL I am a mom of 4. I married 2 and birthed 2. They are 12, 7, 2, and 10 months. Cody is 12, and Lexi is 7. They are my step kids, but they call me Mommy and I LOVE IT!!! Well, gotta run! My 2 year old, William, and 10 month old, Ethan, are like BO and LUKE DUKE.....fearless!

Roxy - posted on 04/06/2010

Same here I miss taking a shower without any interruption, taking a bath is the only time for me to feel relax but I'm always in a hurry because I can hear my 7month old crying even if there is a nanny she only wants me. I can't even finish a book after giving birth because when she's asleep I really want to do nothing.

Dawn - posted on 04/06/2010

I would have to agree with the sex part and the nap. Most of all though, I miss not having to pack half the house to get anywhere even for short trips...UGH!!!

Lisa - posted on 04/06/2010

sleeping in past 7 a.m. my 4 year old is up everyday at 7 a.m. no matter what time she went to bed the night before.

Julie - posted on 04/06/2010

I agree with every woman on here! I miss getting up and going, miss going to the movies, definatly miss naps, sex (although it is getting better now that's she's 2) I don't know about some of you, but I did "loose" some friends (the ones that don't have kids)... But with all that said I wouldn't give her up for ANY of it!!! I love being a mommy and I love my little girl more than I think possible!!

Rachel - posted on 04/06/2010

I have a 3 1/2 month old daughter Haylie, and I love being a mom soo much. But there are a few things I really miss. I miss being able to sleep through the night, I think all moms miss that lol, and I miss being able to just run into the grocery without having to lug in a car seat and a diaper bag. But I wouldn't replace what I have no for what I had then. I love my baby to death and I wish I could have 2 more just like her :)

Christi - posted on 04/06/2010

Well once Denver was born I missed sleep period cause he was such a colicy baby! Once Bryson was born I missed taking naps with Denver when I was home and at least 6 hours of sleep at night. I am down to no naps now and only 4 hours of sleep! I wish the boys would take naps together but that is wishfull thinking..LOL! All in all I would never take it back, I just move forward and pray to God to give me the strength to keep going each day! Don't want to miss a thing!

Stefanie - posted on 04/06/2010

ive got two kids in the space of five years, boy and girl. i had my son when i was 17. and my daughter last december.
i do miss alot things, like going out with my mates and socialising, i never really had the chance to go out with my friends to clubs without worrying about a babysitter. but i had my son through a dark time, my head was pretty screwed up so if it wasnt for my son coming then i wouldnt of been around today. having kids is the best thing in life for me. it put me on the straight an narrow and made my life complete!

and oh yess! i miss my sleep too! i use to have 9 hours straight and now reduce to like 6, my other half get the layings cos he works. men aye! lol