Any tips on how to night train a 3 and a half year old??? (wetting the bed)

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Amanda - posted on 03/31/2009

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I know this seems like a huge hassle.. but on top of making sure they use the washroom before bed... you can set your alarm (we will say 2am for example), wake your child up and have them use the washroom again (you could also do this just before you head to bed. If you happen to set you alram for 2 am and go to take them to the washroom but the accident has already occured try setting your alarm an hour earlier... if the accident hasnt occured then set the alarm the next night for 1/2 hour- 1 hour later until it is no longer needed)

Also, your child may be scared to get out of bed in the middle of the night... try leaving bathroom light on or at least having a pretty bright night (in both bedroom or hallway& in bathroom)

One other thing you can try (during the day) is muscle control.. when your child is going to the bathroom encourage them to stop and start the flow to strengthen the bladder muscles (a good idea for boys is to put a cherrio in the toilet and have him aim and shoot at it, stop and then start again)

Heather - posted on 03/25/2009

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Some children are not developmentally ready to stay dry at night until the age of 7 or even 8-which is normal. I would use caution on the limitation of liquids-you don't want your child dehydrated. My son requires a lot to drink-some kids do not. My son who is not potty trained often wakes up with a dry diaper/pull up, it just depends on when they are ready. I do agree that they sometimes wet more if wearing a diaper/pull up as it is there to use. To avoid some of the mess One Step Ahead/Leaps and Bounds (can be found online only) has pads that you lay over the sheet to contain the mess-you just take that off and your sheets/mattress are safe.

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User - posted on 04/01/2009

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i put a dimmed night light in my 3 year old sons room and his potty... bought potty related books and initially let him choose a potty. mothercare do a fab magnetic reward chart- when he suceeded usin the potty so many times a week... he got to choose a suprise... a new book..car etc...



i found the dimmed light a huge sucess because the main of the problem is that my son felt afraid crossing the dark landing... or if he dared... it would usually be too late... goodluck . let us know how u get on x kelly

Jaqueline - posted on 03/26/2009

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Great advice...



I'm in the same situation, age & all. I've been told to try these tips.
1) no drinks an hour before bed time
2) make sure they pee before they go to sleep...doesn't always work to keep her dry but I try.
3) remind of rewards if they stay dry...make a big big deal if they are dry in the am.
4) if they are thirsty, limit it to a sip or 2 but try not to.



 



Bottom line, though.... some kids will not be able to make it through the night for many years, it will happen w/ time (if you already did tried the above).  Just make sure he knows it's not his fault :)  Changes and stress can also lead to wet nights even when they're able to make it through the night (like moving, new school, etc). You can always ask your ped- they know best :)  I hope that this was helpful.  He will be able to make it when he's ready.

JJ-larissa - posted on 03/25/2009

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My daughter wouldn't wet the bed if she had underwear on ..she said she wanted to feel like a big girl...so I would put them on every night and I would have a garbage bag underneath the sheet so that if she did make a mess it wouldn't go on the mattress. she would wake up and i would have to change her bed almost every night but after awhile(4-5 days) she stopped peeing in the bed.She would wake up so proud of herself..It takes alot of time and hard work... she was toilet trained by 22 months.

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Dehydration was a concern, but our pediatritian assured us that the kids would get their liquid from a lot of the fruits and vegetables they liked to eat (melons, citrus, salad, greens, etc). They were both fine. Both were trained by 2yrs old. Guess we were lucky.

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My son is going to be 4 in June. He's been potty trained since he was 2. The one thing that worked for me was the limitation of liquids. At 12 months I weaned him off the bottle. From then until now, he receives only 1/2 of a chlld's cup of milk, water or juice with his meals. After dinner (around 6:30pm) he does not get anything else to drink and he has to go to the bathroom after dinner and before he goes to bed. He had a few accidents at first, but after about 2 weeks, he was staying dry and making it to the bathroom in time. It was difficult making other people adhere to our rules (grandparents were famous for giving too much to drink), but we just stayed away until my son got used to the idea of drinking less. Now him and his older brother still cannot drink a full glass of liquids (they can't even finish a juice box)! Try it and see how it works!

Amy - posted on 03/16/2009

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Our daughter is also having issues with wetting the bed at night. We have found if we really watch her liquids before bed she does really well. She seems to go in phases though where she doesn't wet at all and then she will wet every night for a few weeks and then it is back to no problems. This is my third child and I have noticed each one is very different when it comes to potty training they will get there when they are ready.

Holly - posted on 03/13/2009

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I kept my daughter in diapers at night until just a couple of months ago. Then I took the diapers away but she wet the bed a couple times a week so I put them back on her. After she started wearing diapers again she peed in her diaper every night! Way more often than she was wetting the bed before. So, I decided that the diapers just made it worse and if I wanted her to stop wetting the bed I needed to deal with the mess. I've found that a fleece blanket laid under her at night protects the rest of her bed. It took a while but now she very rarely has accidents.



With both my kids I have found that it is essential that they go pee right before bed. Even my son, who was dry most nights from 18 months, would wet the bed if he didn't pee before bed.



Good luck,

Holly

Nicki - posted on 03/11/2009

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I have the same problem with my son.  I have tried the underwear thing and it did not work so well.  My son would wake up in the middle of the night sometimes if he wet his pull up.  However, when I put him in underwear, he did not even wake up.  I felt aweful because he slept in urine most of the night.  It was more hassle than it was worth.  I toughed it out for one week of wetting the bed every night then I gave up.  I put him back in pull ups and suddenly he has been wetting during the night only once or twice a week.  I think it is basically training ourselves.  My son drinks a lot.  He drinks water, milk, juice, whatever.  I have noticed that I can not just cut him off an hour before bedtime.  Starting at about 4:00pm, I have to watch him and make sure that he only has one glass of milk with dinner and a total of a glass of water (kids glass) that entire time, otherwise, he wets the bed. 

Jamie - posted on 03/11/2009

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I still have my daughter in pull ups during the night...have you guys tried doing underwear yet at night? I think that might be the best way...but I fear the mess?

Heather - posted on 03/10/2009

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Quoting Shawna:

Any tips on how to night train a 3 and a half year old??? (wetting the bed)




I'm in the same situation, age & all. I've been told to try these tips.
1) no drinks an hour before bed time
2) make sure they pee before they go to sleep...doesn't always work to keep her dry but I try.
3) remind of rewards if they stay dry...make a big big deal if they are dry in the am.
4) if they are thirsty, limit it to a sip or 2 but try not to. 

I'm expecting this month & was really hoping to have my daughter out of diapers before hand. Has had only 4 dry nights, 2 nights were at a friends house. She's such a sound sleeper unfortuntately. Days are dry thank God.

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