The mind of a 3.5 yr old little princess

MaryBeth - posted on 01/20/2009

I say the same thing - multiple personalities. I am hoping it ends by 4 but is there really a magic number? She is already in school full-time so I can't say that will change her. However, she is very different there very quiet, shy and cooperative. Patience is the only thig that will help us through this.

Karen - posted on 01/19/2009

Wow, I feel so much better reading this... not that everyone has a bossy little princess.. but that I'm not alone! She is the sweetest child ever and then a split second later she's a tantruming, bossy, emotional disaster! When will it end?

MaryBeth - posted on 01/18/2009

Juel I think that it is a girl thing but also like you said it is just easier to do things her way so we don't fight - we do give into them more. Marissa just pinched her brother for no reason and the answer I give she is a baby just ignore her. Far from the truth she has not been a baby for years and she knows exactly what she is doing but with her strong mind it is not worth the fight. However, at school she is very easy going and actually gets bossed around. How ironic!

Juel - posted on 01/17/2009

My daughter is the youngest of 4. She has 3 older brothers but like you said MaryBeth, you wouldn't know she was the youngest. She bosses everyone around. Sometimes is just seems easier to do things the way she wants just so we don't have a fight. I don't remember her brothers ever being this bad. She changes her clothes at least 3 times a day and will even pick out what her brothers wear if she is awake before they go to school. Is it the age or the fact they are girls do you think? I can't wait till next year when she goes to pre-k and I have the house to myself for the first time ever!!!

Shannon - posted on 01/17/2009

Seems like we all have strong willed bossy 3.5 year olds! Maybe it was something in the stars! LOL

MaryBeth - posted on 01/13/2009

Keli, I totally agree. I always said as long as they behave when I take them places I can deal with the craziness at home especially since you can ignore it. However, in public it is not so easy to ignore. Thanks again and eventhough it may seem difficult with your girls so close in age it does get easier and they will be very close. My boys are extremely close and always have a playmate. I sometimes wonder if I should have had one more so my daughter had that playmate but I felt 3 was enough. Too late now the age differnce would be too much defeating my purpose. Thanks for the advice.

Keli - posted on 01/12/2009

Also MaryBeth, I wanted to comment on what you said about your daughter being good anywhere but home. A magazine published peoples advice to give to others. I'll write you what one person wrote... "Let your Home Be a Haven." A lady wrote "My children always seem well behaved when they are anywhere but home. My mother reminded me that everyone needs a place to fall apart, even adults, and if that place isn't your home, where would it be? As always, she was right--we all need a place where we're comfortable enough to have a bad day and know that the people around us will love us no matter what." I've always tried to remember that since I read it! Because my kids are the same way! Hope this helps!

MaryBeth - posted on 01/12/2009

Thanks Keli for the support and it does help knowing we are not alone and will eventually laugh about these things one day. My mom says I was the same way and now my daughter is paying me back. I can take the pay back because I did not turn out so bad. I will also look into reading that book too! :)

Keli - posted on 01/06/2009

Hi MaryBeth! I know what you are going through! My 3.5 yr old is very strong willed and bossy! I've even started reading The Strong Willed Child book! She is my middle child. I have a 6 yr old and 2 yr old. The two youngest are 15 months apart. So there is alot of fighting with my bossy 3yr old and my 2 yr old who is not as bad but still going through those 2's! My daughter doesn't do that about clothes, but my best friend's daughter does and has for years. She is about to be 7. She has gotten better lately but still has battles every once in a while. She will complain about clothes that she has worn before and never complained about. I've been with them picking out shoes and she loved them in the store but when she put them on in the car, she pitched a fit saying they hurt! So, I know I'm not offering much hope, but the mom has just figured out that if she ignores her about it, she will eventually hush. But good luck to you, and just know you are not alone!!

Sarah - posted on 01/05/2009

I totally agree! My little girl is the same way! My daughter usually does not care about her clothes though :)

Josie - posted on 01/02/2009

My daughter is also the youngest of three! her siblings are 10 and 15, with half siblings of 16 and nearly 18!!! She is determined in everything she does too. She is out spoken and extremely bossy!! She just seems to get on with it, taking everything in her stride!! It's a wonderful age and being difficult is cute! She was a tiny baby born at 35wks 4lb 4ozs and was spoilt from day one. Having older children you'd have thought that I'd learnt but sadly No!!! She is ready for nursery but because of location and her sister being in her final year of primary school I chose to take her to playgroup until she is ready to start reception!!! They aren't small for long enough!!! Everything was calm until she arrived and basically her personalityhas taken over!!!!