my son is born 20-06- 2006, not yet toillet trained

Debbie - posted on 04/29/2010

So glad I'm not the only one! My son was born 6/13/06 and while he CAN use the potty and knows how to, he refuses. My ped said it's best to let him do it on his own. I also have 6 older children. My older son trained at 4 years, my daughter right before her 4th birthday so I'm hoping he does as well. Above all I WILL NOT stress him out with this. Every child does things at their own pace and he will too.

Lucretia - posted on 04/24/2010

My son born 06-20-06 When my sone was one he could no longer fit in the diapers so we moved him to pull-ups. It became very expensive and I decided that when he was 2yrs he would be potty trained. We bought him underwear with the plastic on the outside and let him where them all day at the sitter. he did not like being wet at all!!!! So when he hit 1 1/2 he did #2 in his underwear and that was it never again. So I know boys can be challenging, but stay on them, because you don't want their 4th b-day to come around and still in pull-us or diapers. Kindergarden is around the corner

Sarah - posted on 04/09/2010

Hi. Our twins were born 23/06/2006, our son was dry during the day last summer, and so was our daughter. They had to be dry because they started school in september. 4 weeks ago, after a few "dry mornings" my son was left in pants at night, one accident the first night, since then everything is fine. Our daughter has been dry at night for a week, no accidents yet. I think she's cracked it. If when they have an "accident", you're firm and explain that weewee and poo go in the toilet or in the potty, they'll understand because they always want to be like you. And I do agree that pull-ups just confuse the issue.

Danielle - posted on 04/08/2010

My son (born on the 15th) is not yet potty trained either. It took him a lot longer than other kids to regulate, which I think slowed him down. He had bad reflux when he was a younger toddler and infant. Anyway I just had a doctor's appt yesterday and asked the doctor what she thought about it. She asked me really what she called the deciding question. When you showed him the potty what did he do? Did he angrily say no, did he look confused, was he curious, or scared? Well in all honesty my son is just scared of it. Don't ask me why, I have little potties too, he's scared of both of those. But my doctor's advice is especially because he's scared that she wouldn't recommend forcing it. There's still a full year to start school where we live and otherwise there are pull ups and other things that can be used in this case. I don't think it's a good idea to force your kid to potty train unless he's refusing just because he's in a "no" phase. My daughter (2) is in a no phase. So I do grasp the difference. I hope that I helped you and didn't babble too much :)

Chaun - posted on 04/25/2009

Hi, my daughter is finally trained, and i did it in less than 2 weeks! I thought all was lost because she wasn't consistant, and she only went if i placed her on the potty. I found an article on line about potty training over the weekend it worked. The first day I kept her naked from the waist down. She didn't like it at all, but she was aware of the accidents. The pullups and diapers slow them down. Every time she had an accident I was calm, but firm, and told her, that wasn't good, and asked her where does pee pee belong? She would say in the potty. She never pooped on herself. I did this for two days in a row, threw out diapers, and bought 3 packs of underwear, with the intent that they are for training, so that I didn't get upset if i had to throw one away. The first week there were a few accidents. After the third day I let her start going to bed in underwear, her mattress was still one of the crib mattresses in her toddler bed, so it was protected. Only the first night did she have an accident. The other nights i would make sure no drinking after dinner (bedtime is 8:30). I made sure she peed before bed, and when i was going to bed (normally around midnight) I would take her to the toilet, or around 2am if i was awake (my friend set an alarm for 2am every morning that first week.) After doing this routine for a week, she hasn't had another night time accident. She wakes up dry. I don't have to put her on the potty before i go to bed anymore either. Get rid of the pullups! It's worth it, and in no time you won't miss them at all.

Lynn - posted on 04/21/2009

Don't make the mistake I have with my daughter. Don't give him any alternative to the potty. Pull ups and Easy ups only make life easier for you, they don't really do anything to help train him. At night they're okay, because obviously he doesn't have the control he needs to avoid wetting the bed. Put underwear on him, even when youre out. If he wets them and starts complaining, tell him he'll have to tough it out till you can get him to a bathroom or home. If he does it at home, let him sit in it for a good half hour before doing anything about it, and then clean him up really good to avoid a rash. I know it sounds cruel, but I was training my daughter for over a year, and I was religious with it. It wasn't until I took away the diapers during the daytime that she caught onto the fact that messing in your panties is not the most comfortable predicament to be in, and she got herself together and started using the potty regularly. Alot of the time I think kids have to learn by having to experience the consequences of not doing something the way they are supposed to before avoiding them. If he knows the drill, and youre certain he can manage in the bathroom, there's no reason why he can't benefit from this approach. Don't coddle him simply because he's stubborn, if that's the issue. Then he's got you where he wants you.

Ahlam - posted on 04/07/2009

that is exactly what i thought would work for my son i plan to remove his diapers during the day now that is warm and see how it goes but only at home; i think i will let him wear a pull up if we are going out until he can tell when he wants to go to the toilet and i will do the same thing with my youngest who is 20months old maybe i can toilet train them together

Stephanie - posted on 04/06/2009

Hi there, my son is also not toilet trained yet. He knows how to go, but only on his own terms. I have tried to "force" him to wear underwear for a day, but it really caused him a lot of stress. I have decided that I am going to let him decide when he wants to stop wearing diapers - within a reasonable time period of course. I suspect he will most likely be completely trained by the end of the summer, but if not - he will be enrolled in preschool in September where they do encourage it, so maybe he will follow his peers at that point. Good luck.

Mandy - posted on 04/04/2009

I've tried it both ways with both of my children. With the 1st child, we used pull ups at night and with the 2nd we just went to undies at night. They both potty trained very well during the daytime. With the 1st child the pull ups did delay his night time training. The 2nd child was night trained with no accidents within about 6 months.