Anyone else's kid not potty trained at this point (35 months)?

Christy - posted on 04/29/2010 ( 44 moms have responded )

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My son will sit on his potty but not do anything else. I see all these posts about potty trained kids at this age but anyone else in my boat? It's not due to a lack of trying, BTW......Just curious.

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Donna - posted on 06/22/2010

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Don't worry my son still isn't trained, yet his older brother was toilet trained at 2 1/2 years in just 1 week. Every child is different. I am a preschool teacher and in my experience it varies greatly. Don't be sucked into the age and stage theory.

Michelle - posted on 05/05/2010

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I used to be just as frustrated as you are, but my child is turning 3 on 29 June and is potty trained now, it took 4 month to get it right, don't force him though, he will be ready in his own time. My daughter refused to go on the potty but took well to the toilet. Try and take him to the toilet when you go and tell him you are going to wee on the toilet do he also want to wee on the toilet. And praise him for sitting and doing his thing on the toilet every time - it makes it much easier.

Ragan - posted on 05/03/2010

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Hi, my son will be 3 next month and he is not showing much interest but I have 4 older kids and my suggestion to you is not to push it, parent who push it have to deal with alot more accidents and bed wetting. My other 4 were at least 3 1/2 before they trained, once they are ready they will know, just suggest it but don't push, kids are too stubborn at this age :) I hope this helps

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Christy - posted on 06/29/2010

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I HATE to say this but it makes me feel better seeing other moms on here having the same issues I am having. We are still working on it and it has been over a month since my post......Now he tells me when he has to pee or poo, sits on the pot, and nothing. Put a pull up on him afterward and he goes right away. Guess it's a start, LOL! Thanks MOMS! Love to all!

Barbara - posted on 06/28/2010

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my son is getting ready to be 3 by the end of next month. i keep trying to sit him on the potty and nothing. i got him in pull up and when he goes he decided to pull the pull up down and then off.

Dewi - posted on 06/16/2010

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My son just turned 3 about 2 weeks ago. When we introduced the toilet when he was 2 & a half yrs old, he refused to go even if I'm letting him hold on to me. So we tried again & praised him afterwards, tried bribbing him, & nothing worked. He would cry & now when he poos in his nappy he won't say anything, until I can smell it. I get so frustrated now & praises & bribes just doesn't work no more. I guess they'll do it in their own time & when they're ready... I hope someone out there has a good tip for me too. Good luck.

Mandy - posted on 06/14/2010

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I totally agree with Ragan K. We didn't push and out little man let us know. I have friends that have pushed(even with girls) and it was a HUGE backfire. They will let you know when they are ready- boys are harder then girls too, keep that in mind. He'll get there when he is ready. Good luck. :)

Rachel - posted on 06/11/2010

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Our son isn't potty trained yet either. It's really not a big deal, especially for boys. Some just need more time! We have gone with a low pressure approach. The more pressure boys feel under, according to what I've been reading and my pediatrician, the longer it will take and the harder it will be to potty train. So, we let him run around without a diaper for several hours a day and then are vigilant about asking him if he needs to go potty and getting him on his seat regularly during that time. He's been getting more interested and excited about it, which has been encouraging.

Christy - posted on 06/10/2010

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Wow, thanks for all the responses! I think I might just let him slowly get potty trained. He does watch his dad and I pee, and he is excited to sit on the potty.. He does inform me when he has already gone in his diaper which is a start. He pees in the potty consistently after a bath. At least it isn't in the tub! LOL.

Aiysha - posted on 06/07/2010

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My Sharifa will be 3 years old in 2 days time ,she's already potty trained since she refused to put on diapers last 7/May,2010 she did very well,even night time now no more diapers.Potty training will come naturally for toddlers.Today is her first day for her summer camp classes from 4:00-8:00 PM

Sarah - posted on 06/04/2010

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For sure! We have b/g twins-turning 3 tomorrow. They do ok in the morning but after naptime they want nothing to do with it. Hang in there. I have stopped putting a date on it-when they are ready it will happen :)

Lacey - posted on 06/03/2010

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I am going through the same thing. My daughter just seems to have no motivation to use the potty. She has done it before during the day. She knows how to pee and poop in the potty. However, she just refuses to go to the potty most of the time. She will be 3 on June 30th.

Jennifer - posted on 06/02/2010

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I have been working at a snail pace with my little girl for a yr. she will be 3 june 21st. I wanted to first introduce the potty, now if i let her go naked all day in the house she will go on her potty,(few times on the floor, I think on purposes) and I even found her on my big girl potty pooping yesterday!!!!! yea problem is me I put her in pull ups when we leave the house and never take the time to the potty. She started vpk Tues and they said she really needed to be trained.

Jenna - posted on 05/26/2010

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use the regular potty too! just get the adapter for it, it will be easier for you and not so hard to change him.

Jenna - posted on 05/26/2010

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Open door policy, if mommy and daddy leave the bathroom door open while they potty the kids will be more interested i n whats going on. With my soon to be 3 year old boy, we have had the open door policy here at home, and ive let him roam around the house naked keeping a close eye on him and when i saw the slightest squat or trinkle i picked him up and ran to the bathroom sat him on the potty by the 2nd day he knew he was supposed to go on the potty. i have him sitting down, he did excellent for the first 3 weeks, thought to myself heck yeah no more pull ups! but he got lazy for a few days and back on track its been a routine hes in, boys take time, all pediatricians will tell you that they go when they are ready, and thats the step im taking. he goes to the potty when he wants others he just waits, pooping takes wy more time.

Tina - posted on 05/26/2010

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in the same boat here my son will be 3 june 17 in he will pee in the potty but will not poop in it

Robyn - posted on 05/19/2010

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My almost 3 year old (june10) sounds like quite a few of the responses..A few months ago all gung-ho to use the potty was doing great..now....not so much.her cousin is 6 weeks older and he's fully potty trained so had him come stay for a few days and she thought it was funny he used the toilet..I have tried letting her use the toilet but she doesn't like the seat and will actually put her butt it the water and start laughing :( I'm hoping with the nice weather and lots of outside play with out a pullup will help..and not getting frustrated ..we just put new floors in so when she pees on them i cringe...i feel better knowing i'm not alone..good luck to alll you moms out there :)

Mandy - posted on 05/18/2010

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I struggled for a time with my son... I know how frustrating it can be.. but he decided (after watching his Gramps visit the loo several times) that he would wee standing up... so left the potty in the front room and kept him with no pants on while we were indoors and he just started to wee standing up with the potty, he then started using the step at the toilet and now he just stands on his tippy toes.... and for the number two's.... Once he had mastered peeing in the potty.... I stopped all Nappys and didn't buy anymore... It took two or three days of having the vax on standby... but used a reward chart and amazingly because the nappys were not in sight, he never asked for them... This has only happened in the last month... so fingers crossed that your little man is dry soon... xxx :-)

Nicole - posted on 05/16/2010

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Oh--and we're trying "elimination communication" with our second who is now 8 months old and she is using the potty regularly. Having her baby sister pee in the potty was really motivating for my 2-yr-old! We'll see how this experiment goes as she grows!

Nicole - posted on 05/16/2010

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Potty training has definitely been the hardest thing we've done! After a lot of frustration, I decided I would have her sit on the potty for two minutes (timed on a timer) every hour and a half. If she peed before the timer went off, she could go play. Otherwise, she could get off when the timer went off. Then I just praised her if she went and said nothing if she didn't. With a good bit of consistency (home and away), she just started going on her own. Hang in there!

Crystal - posted on 05/13/2010

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My oldest will be 3 June 26th. She just started using the potty consistently 2 weeks ago. Previous to that, we used pull-ups. She would go potty for the babysitter during the week, but as soon as I would pick her up after work and get her home, she refused to go potty. If I put a dress on her and left her naked from the waist down, she would go to the potty, but as long as she had a pull up or training pants on, she wouldn't. I also have a 10 month old daughter, so big sister thought it was cool to have a diaper like baby......not cool for mommy!! So after months of frustration, and crying (both her and I!) and 2 minute time outs in the corner everytime she went in her pull up, I decided to take her to Walmart and let her pick out her own big girl underwear - What did I have to lose? lol.........she picked out Tinkerbell and Princess Tiana undies and couldn't wait to get home to put them on. In 2 weeks, she's gone from refusing to use the potty to actually going into the bathroom by herself and using the potty everytime she has to go. We still do the pull up thing at night, but those "big girl" undies did the trick for me!

Delia - posted on 05/12/2010

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Getting him to sit on his potty is half the battle! He's really normal. Don't worry one day it will just click............just don't get stressed about it or that will have the opposite effect. : )

Jamie - posted on 05/12/2010

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Alexa goes at daycare, but when she gets home she won't go :-( I will stick her on the potty, and she will say "I'm done!" and get off, even though she hasn't gone.

Jackie - posted on 05/12/2010

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I tried very hard with my daughter, for about three weeks. I think she knows how to hold it, and we tried very hard for three weeks, wearing nothing but panties during the day. But she has no problem with just standing and making a mess in the floor, and she NEVER wants to go poop in the potty. I always made her sit on the potty after she had a drink, and she never told me when she needed to go. She has proven in everything else that she has to do decide when she wants, and determined not to do it any way but hers, so I decided to give it a break without getting frustrated.

Tracey - posted on 05/12/2010

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My son will be 3 in June and he has been up and down with the potty. When I am home on the weekends I try to just let him run around the house w/ out bottoms on and when he has to go he tells me and we sit on the toilet and he goes, but once I put a pull-up or even underwear on him he thinks it is a diaper and he goes in them {a few times he has told me he has to go when he has the underwear so that is a good sign}. It is frustrating, but we keep trying and hope he will want to do it more and more as we keep trying. Tough when you work full time and really only have the weekends to work on it, but as everyone says, they have to be ready so just hoping that will be soon!

Rhonda - posted on 05/12/2010

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My daughter is 2 and will be three in june. i let her decide when she was ready. She still has mistakes every now and again but other than that she is great. I started rewarding her with stickers cause that is what she likes. Find something that he likes that isn't that expensive and reward him for his job well done. I just wouldnt push to hard my sister in law did that with her child and he is now four and he dont care to go to the potty all that much. he will go when he is ready. Gook Luck!

Kristin - posted on 05/11/2010

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my son is almost potty trained- he wears big boy undies throughout the entire day and is only in a pull up at night time. my advice for any parent is just keep working at it. when we first started, i saw my son on the little potty every 20 mins. (it was quite frustrating at times), but he really got the hang of it. we are still working on the "2"; it seems as if he doesnt want to disappoint us so he holds it (which isnt good). the little seats that go over the big potty's work like wonders. we actually have two of them- one stays in the car for when we are on road trips. just keep working at it and he/she will get the idea. i really noticed that my son would progress when he was ready to- it was like an OH I GET moment....

Robin - posted on 05/11/2010

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My daughter will be 3 in June. She does not seem a bit interested in potty training. We have tried pull ups, underwear, and she still goes in them, doesnt act like she cares... she fights us to change her diaper. I dont know what to do to try to get her more interested or if i should not worry too much and let her decide?

Chantelle - posted on 05/11/2010

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MY son will be 3 in June and He has been potty trained since he was 25.5 months. We were on vacation when he turned 2 so when we came back we potty trained him, took a total of 6 weeks but it happened. He now can sleep without a pullup on for nap times and we are still working on the over night thing, but he has been waking up lately with less soaked pullups. We had to take him off diapers as they were causing serious infections in his area which was making the dr think he would need ot be snipped... but since hes been off diapers hes been good. We never did the pull up thing during the day, we let him run nude for 2 weeks (he had accidents but he got the idea)... we tried pullups for a week never worked so we put him straight onto underwear and it did the trick... 1 week onthem his pee was down... another 3 weeks n his poop was down.... i dont know if ti will work, but with the no pull up thing it worked for us, my daughter is 16 months an dis intrested, when hse is 18months I am going to start trying with her... Hopefully they will soon... my aunt suggested a sticker reward chart, n another person suggested treat rewards like mini m&m's never tried it, but maybe itll work....
GOOD LUCK EVERYONE!

Beth - posted on 05/09/2010

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Glad I'm not the only one!! My sweet baby will be 3 in June, she has a "special potty" and loves to tell me to "seet down" and go with her, and just sits and plays and acts cute. She will urgently tell me PeePee - but that's because she has a wet diaper and is insistent that I change it (especially if she is getting ready to have to sit somewhere ie; chair to eat, car seat to go somewhere) We keep talking it up, older sister (9) tries to get her to go also = thinking maybe it's a "I want to be like Big Sister" thing, but still no luck. And what's even worse (it would be funny if it weren't so disturbing) when she goes to bed at night (and sometimes for nap time) if I don't put her in zip up jammies with the zipper in back (yes sort of like a straight-jacket, at least that's what I think as I'm dressing her) she will take all her clothes off and wake up crying in the middle of the night - butt naked and soaking/cold -- it's more than frustrating and I'm wondering what it's going to take. If nothing else I'd like to be able to just put her in regular jammies - they way they are supposed to be worn!! Any suggestions would help!

Shanon - posted on 05/08/2010

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my lil man will be 3 next moth and he has NO INTEREST in doing anything with his potty other than standing on it to brush his teeth. I have made sticker charts, bribed, took toys away, I have tried it all. My bff (mother of 2 boys) said let him come to you! I am trying but I keep thinking in the back of my mind it will be his wedding day and he will say to me, ok Mom I'm ready to use the potty now! (ha ha)! heard a great Idea, I am going to try....put cheerio's in toilet and tell him ti hit them like target practice! just a thought... Best of Luck! keep in touch!

Aiysha - posted on 05/07/2010

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My girl sharifa will be 3 years old next month, it's been months that she goes to her potty and doing her thing at least once a day,but only yesterday she refused to have diapers on at home and will inform me once she feels to pee,but just one hour ago she had an accident on my carpet she's worried but i just told her "it's okay,we can wash but next time if you feel to pee or poo go quickly to your potty"and it seems she understand she gave me her sweet smile.I hope this is the start!

Randy - posted on 05/07/2010

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I have been trying the potty training thing going on 3 weeks now. There are some days that my daughter will stay dry (if I time it right to put her on the potty every hour or so) and then there are some days that I have to change her diaper or pull up every hour or so. I am so frustrated. I have tried to put big girl underwear on her and she pees in them and on my floor. So frustrated!! Any advise would be great. I have tried everything. Please help!!

Connie - posted on 05/07/2010

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My daughter isn't and she's not interested in using the potty. I'm not concerned - she was premmie and is still tiny and my precious last child. She'll potty train when she's ready. She's aware now of when she goes wee or poo so that's a start!

Bernadette - posted on 05/06/2010

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my child is 3 and since he was 2 he will tell you when he goes but will not go on the potty in the summer ill let him run around in underwear and put out a potty

Penny - posted on 05/05/2010

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We are almost there! He will be 3 in June and we are still trying..My little guy has taken a liking to going when we go. He will make sure he watches his daddy and then go. The funny thing is sometime he thinks mommy has a thing and make me "go" when he sitting on his potty. We bought him a potty chair as well as a smaller seat to go over the potty. all children go when they want to . Evnetually he will understand that he doesnt like the wet diapers. My son says pee pee mommy !!! and we are off to the bathroom sometimes its dry..sometimes its wet... It also helps being in daycare. with him being the only child he sees the bigger kids doing it and he doesn't want to be left behind............

Candace - posted on 05/05/2010

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My son would sit on the potty but not use it also. We went to my mothers for Christmas one year and he saw his cousins, one was his age and the other 2 yrs older (brothers) standing at the toilet on stools peeing in the toilet, so he joined them. After that he was basically trained. My daughter did the same with my grandson, and it worked very well for her also.

Zayni - posted on 05/05/2010

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Such a relieve that i'm not the only one.the worse is when parents of kids the same age look at u with discuss as if to say,WHAT THE HELL...............believe me i have tried everything.everyday without fail he will use the toilet on his own.but only once a day.i surpose it's a start.i need to send him to daycare as he is very lonely at home with the nanny(we are new in town and don't know lots of people with kids) and they won't except him unless he is potty trained.

Nichola - posted on 05/05/2010

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My son will be 3 in june a couple of weeks a go he showed some interest in using the big toilet as he doesn't like the potty. He was very good and let me know when u wanted to tinkle and he did but now he doesn't seem to be interested very frustrating as he cant attend nursery until he is out of pull up's. Please Help

Debbie - posted on 05/05/2010

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My daughter is not toilet trained. She will be 3 in June. It is so frustrating. We have had no success at all.
I tried the whole leaving her in no nappies for a few days but it didn't really work at all. She peed once on the toilet, we made a big deal of it, gave her treats etc, but the next day she then wet the floor and pooed on it.
So we have gone back to nappies. 3 days was enough for me.
Any tips would be appreciated.

Jane - posted on 05/04/2010

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boys take longer, don't worry. don't give up! it will happen. if you don't have one already, get a DVD/book combo for him to watch and a book to read.

Ashley - posted on 05/02/2010

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yes i have twins that will be 3 in june and i know exactly what you mean and the harder you try the worse it gets so if anyone knows a good way to get them to go potty please feel free to let me know . thanks

Meaghn - posted on 04/30/2010

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My munchkin goes from using the potty all day to not going near it and wanting only diapers. Frustrating as heck for me! The other day she just opened the flood gates on my carpet, without even a pause.

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