I have a 4 yr old girl and i just found out something very disturbing about her yesterday from my cousin.

Alisha - posted on 08/13/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I have a 4 yr old girl and i just found out something very disturbing about her yesterday from my cousin. I was told that she wanted them to leave the room so that she could put her mouth on her baby brother's privates, they also told me that she has also tried to touch his privates when his pamper is being changed. I've told her father about her inappropriate behavior before in the past but he didn't want to hear it, he said it was my problem. her past behavior was that any male that was around she always was jusmping in their lap and bouncing up and down on them they would tell her to stop and put her down but she would try and get back up again. I need help, does my daughter need to see a doctor about her behavior or is this something that she will grow out of on her own? is there any way that i can speak to my child so that she may understand that this is very inapproriate behavior and that little girls should not behave like this. She starts Pre-kindergarten in the fall and im afraid she'll do it in school. i'm scared to leave her places because she seems to have a behavior problem as is already. Please help any advice is welcome!

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Christy - posted on 08/14/2011

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Something has happened. No child at this age should show an interest in oral sex to this extent, period. Is there ANY relative you can think of she is EVER alone with that MIGHT have abused her (either physically or watching something bad on TV/computer)? I used to be a case worker and worked with sexually abused SMALL children all the time. This behavior is a giant red flag to me, based on my experience. And I do not say any of this to scare you. Please take her to a respcted DR, if you get someone involved that thinks she is being abused be prepared.

Not pointing fingers at your husband, why is he so evasive about this? If it were my daughter my husband would be all over this issue, trying to figure out what is going on.

Good luck and message me privately anytime.

Kristy - posted on 08/31/2011

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Alisha, I agree with Christy. Your little girl needs to see a doctor, probably a child psychiatrist. Your husband not wanting to "hear it" throws up a red flag. Are you and your husband still together?

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Mary - posted on 09/28/2012

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Sorry, this is learned behavior. You need to figure out where this is comming from.

Fay - posted on 09/21/2012

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I would have to agree with the other ladies. The oral sex part does raise a red flag to me too.

The rest I would say she just needs to learn boundries.

Good luck.

Kat - posted on 03/09/2012

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I would definetly get her checked out and talk with her about the behavior but talk calmly. I as with other moms on here believe the behavior has been learned. I have two girls one who is 4 and another who is 6 and neither of them did anything like that.

Charlene - posted on 02/06/2012

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is there any one else watching your child besides you? i would have her check by a doctor ,also ask her father does he have any pornos around , some men hide the fact that they look at sex tapes and she may have gotten a hold of one . also you can ask calmly ask her questions like ask her to reinact what she do and ask her who did she see doing that you may want to ask her a couple of questions a day not all at once because you dont want her to shut down on you . i wish you well :)

Bridgette - posted on 01/07/2012

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I definitely agree that this has been taught to your child. Children may start to notice things that are natural (like my son is the same age and notices that his "boy parts" react to different things) But these things that she is doing are LEARNED behaviors. This doesn't come natural to a child. Not even close. She has to have seen this somewhere. :-(

Alana - posted on 09/27/2011

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I agree with Christy Flowers. Look into it because someone might be a pervert and taught your daughter that and no little girl should know that or do that. Get her checked make sure no one is making her do that. Good luck

Christy - posted on 08/15/2011

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I also thought of this later, are there any kids she hangs around that may be teaching her this?

Alisha - posted on 08/13/2011

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No, she hasn't seen anything like that before and she only watches disney channel and nick jr. so u see my concern but i will definately look into her seeing a doctor about this.

Darla - posted on 08/13/2011

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Has she been around adults who she may have seen doing that? If so I would stop contact with them and watch what she sees on tv too. I would definantly get a doctor involved. She had to seen or someone may have told or did something. Good luck.

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