Is your child going through a second phase of separation anxiety at 19 months?

Monica - posted on 01/09/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My son first started having separation anxiety at 7-8 months, again a little bit at 12 months and now all of a sudden it is back in a big way. He cries and clings when we drop him off at day care, and usually he loves going and can't wait to play with the other kids. Also he has started to cry and scream when we put him down at night, whereas before he always went to bed with no problem. When we mention "night night" time he starts to cry and get upset. Anyone else having this second round of separation anxiety?

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You mean I'm not the only one going through this? LOL! I've been sick for a couple of weeks, so we haven't been going anywhere, and I'm the only one he's with all day. He has to play in whatever room I'm in, and naptime has gotten difficult. We cured the bedtime issue by having his Daddy lay him down. That seems to be working. Not seeing me last has helped. However, we went to my nephew's birthday party last weekend, and he was way beyond clingy!!

Heather - posted on 01/27/2009

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Will went to the separation anxiety early on, from 10-15 months. He improved and I decided to try childcare at the gym so I could start weight training again instead of just walking. But now at 19 months he's worse than ever. He also cries the whole time in nursery at church, even with familiar ladies who have taken care of him since birth there. His grandmothers watch him one day each during the week when I work and he cries bitter, bitter tears when they leave. Bedtime was rough for about a week, but we stuck to our familiar routine and he seems to have moved past that.



From all the other comments it seems like maybe this isn't so unusual?

Shevaun - posted on 01/23/2009

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I am going through it as well!  Olivia is a fairly easy baby to deal with in most respects, but we just spent three weeks with Daddy for Christmas.  My husband works up north about 7 hours away and he normally comes home for 4 days and is gone for 10.  This past trip, he was home for that whole three weeks and she became attatched.  We started going back to our playgroups after the holidays and I've had to leave the room for various reasons, for very brief moments, and she does get upset.  She asks for Daddy everyday, and it's really difficult to explain to her where Daddy is.  He's home next week, so that should help ease it I hope.  Thankfully, she has her older brother to help her through alot of it.  He's a big help and is very used to Daddy coming and going, as Jeff's been doing this since Logan was 2.  He normally only did it in the summertime, but decided to stay up there this year, and when he began it, Olivia was about 10 months old, so it didn't affect her too much.  But this past time, BIG anxiety!  Thankfully, it hasn't translated to bedtime though.  I hope you guys get through it all soon!!

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My son Ethan is going through it, all of the sudden he screams at night because he wants to go to bed in my room instead of his. He was always right to his own bed the same time everynight but now only wants me. For the sitter he kisses me bye fine through!

Vicky - posted on 01/22/2009

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my son started nursery 3 weeks ago and since then everytime i leave him there or with anyone he screams!the nursery staff have asured me he is fine within 5 minutes but it just pulls on my heart strings that he gets upset this way as it never happened with my older two boys!

Monique - posted on 01/21/2009

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My little girl does it to. I think that it has to do with them understanding more and they are actually aware of what is going on. They associate "night-night" with going to bed. I am not sure with the day care. You would think that they would get use to going to daycare. My only thing would be is if another child hit them and they associate that. You could always ask the daycare how your son is after you drop him off and what his behavior is when they have him.

Sally - posted on 01/21/2009

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 Drew has it BIG TIME! Its horrible, I was really really bad for 2 weeks and the past 2 days he has calmed down. He loves his school but it literally freaking out when we leave. Plus I get the flipping out of our arms at bedtime, :(

Neshaya - posted on 01/17/2009

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Mine only does it at night when it is time to go "night night". The babysitter is fine, every now and then she has her issues, but it is the night thing that's getting me. She never did that, but she is getting better now.

Jennifer - posted on 01/10/2009

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Actually, I am!  A few weeks ago my little girl would go to bed, no problem.  I'd put her i n her crib and she would wave bye-bye and put her head down. 



Now I mention "night-night" and she says, "uh-uh".  I put her in the crib and she cries and clings on to me for dear life.  The first few nights that this began were really hard.  She would cry for what seemed like an eternity and me or my husband would go up to get her out. After this going on for many a night I finally let her cry it out.  Believe me, I felt like the worst mother in the world!  The crying episodes have gotten shorter each night and she has been getting better about going to bed. 



 



I have no idea why all of a sudden she started this!

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