Heidi - posted on 01/25/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am a stay at home mommy of one very spoiled four year old girl. It's the middle of winter and we're very bored and don't get out much, so sometimes tempers flare up in the house between me and her. For instance today we went shopping for snacks and when we came home she proceeded to try to eat everything i just bought. OK, that's fine, but when i walked into my living room and found koolaid spilled on the floor, cheese stuck in the carpet, sugar all over my couch, and banana peels strewn all over "for the cat, she said" i kinda lost it. I told her to help me pick up and she was constantly not listening and trying to go hide in her daddy's room with daddy. I finally broke and made her sit in a time out. When she got out of time out, she was still crying and really upset, saying "you don't love me" and "i always knew you didn't like me" and "you're always mad at me" I tried to sit her down and explain that people make mistakes and even though i don't like some of the things she does, that i will always love her. Later that night when it was time for bed i found a similar problem, sitting on the couch i could hear her in her bedroom crying pretty hard and saying "nobody loves me" Im lost, i try to do so many things with her, give her my time, go outside and play when we can, but even though we have the best of times together, she still thinks i hate her when she does something wrong, or makes a mistake. What can i do to reassure her that I will never stop loving her? It breaks my heart when i hear her say these things, and have even told her it hurts mommy's feelings when she says this, but she just tells me that i hurt her feelings when i yelled at her and put her in time out. I can't win..... help.......