Leah - posted on 02/25/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
I know, I know....most kids this age are defiant. But lately, I feel my 2 1/2 year old daughter has given defiance a whole new meaning. And I guess I'm seeking help more for myself and how to handle it. I have to admit that I don't always keep my temper in check, and I often find myself hollering at her when she tells me NO or throws a temper tantrum. I've tried walking away and ignoring it, but sometimes that works, sometimes it doesn't. Lately, I've adopted a very consistent technique of placing her in time-out, walking away, setting the timer for 3 minutes and then explaining to her (or having her tell me) why she was in time-out. But this morning, that just wasn't working. I found myself getting frustrated, I took her by the ear and gently tugged on it to get her back into time-out. She started kicking the wall in front of her. At this point, I feel that my emotions were out of control, and so was the situation. It rarely reaches this point, and she's actually been really good lately. But this morning, she relapsed.
It's important that I mention that I'm a single mom of 2 kids, my oldest being a mere 10 months older than the youngest. My older daughter is very sensitive and quiet. Also very obedient, I rarely have a problem with her behavior, I guess I just sort of expected my younger daughter to follow suit (I know, I'm crazy to have expected that). So I'm a little lost on how to handle it when she loses her temper (I have a short temper myself, I think I know where she gets it from lol). It's also important to mention that these melt-downs don't happen very often at all, she understands a great deal, and I'm usually able to get her to listen without even placing her in time-out. But when they happen, boy do they happen!! What to do with my spirited daughter....?