Temper tantrums

Amber - posted on 11/14/2008

my 17 month old daughter is also going through frequent tantrums. she screams and cries over just about everything that doesn't go exactly her way i have been puttin her in time out on the couch until she calms down. i may start trying to ignore her and see if that helps. i know they say that's the route to take at this age--ignoring the fit, but i also want her to know that behavior is unacceptable and wrong. i'm like you--not sure what to do, but gotta do something!

Jessica - posted on 11/13/2008

I've been told to ignore the tantrums, don't leave the room but pick up a book, play with one of her toys etc. and when she comes back over to you welcome her back

Rebecca - posted on 11/04/2008

Thank you for all your help

Linzy - posted on 11/04/2008

I have this same problem with my twin boys, especially Cadien. Lastnight he got mad at me because I took a wash cloth away to bathe him. And trying to get him dressed was even harder. He started throwing a fit and making a growl like sound at me and trying to hit me. So I made him sit against the wall in the hall way where I could see him till he could stop screaming and crying. That just made him cry louder, till he realized I wasnt paying him any attention. Me and my husband have decided to put them in time out. But we dont but them in their beds because we didnt want them to associate that with them being bad and not want to ever get in their bed. Different parents have different methods. Find what works best for you. Goodluck to you.

Richelle - posted on 11/03/2008

If you have a play pen or some where u can put your child when she starts having bad tantrums and leave her there, kind of like a time out, until she calms down she may not do that behavior as often. My son used to have bad tantrums and scream at me until I sat him in the play pen and told him he was going to stay there until he calmed down and he did calm down pretty quickly. He still has tantrums but not real bad ones and he has stopped screaming at me or my husband. But you should do something that works for you.

Shannon - posted on 11/03/2008

When my daughter started temper tantrums i started ignoring her and starting a conversation with anyone else in the room (even the dog) and she quickly stopped. I know its not easy to do in public but if your at home, that would be my best advice.

Lynne - posted on 11/03/2008

My daughter Mikella does these fits as well. Mostly when we take her away from something she isn't supposed to be playing with. She usually throws herself onto her back (often hitting her head on the floor) and screams and kicks and cries. As hard as it is, I just ignore her. She'll usually stop when she realizes that her tantrum isn't getting her any attention. I don't know if it's the right thing to do, but it seems to work.

Sharlene - posted on 10/29/2008

my daughter does the same thing...but its usually when we say no or naughty or when she wants to get up and play at 2am, were just starting to give her 'no attention' when she throws the tantrums as i have heard from many people thats the only way they'll learn

Julie - posted on 10/28/2008

Stick her in a playpen and leave until she calms down....no attention is better than negative attention. That's what I did, it didn't take long to stop the fits. If she starts up again, it's right into the playpen and she stops instantly to come out. When you take her out, don't try to explain anything, just go on with your day (they are to young to get it)

Diana - posted on 10/26/2008

Hi Rebecca, I just read a book written by Dr James Dobson. The book is called The new strong willed child. I was having the same problems, my daughter was crying for everything if she didnt get what she wanted. After reading this book, I have started using his advice and now everything is starting to get better... My biggest nightmare was brushing her teeth, now, we have no trouble at all, and I love it! I hope you have a chance to read it and maybe you can use those tools to help you raise your little baby!