When should adults stop walking around children naked?

Alisha - posted on 07/22/2011 ( 251 moms have responded )

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My mother and sister are constantly walking around the house either topless or with nothing on when they are about to go in the shower or when they get out. I feel uncomfortable when I see that because I keep myself covered up around my kids especially since I have 10 and 11 yr old boys plus my sister has a 5.5 yr old boy and he seems to like looking at his female cousins when they are in the bathroom.

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Aixa - posted on 10/19/2011

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dear! I come from a place of love where the body is a natural thing, I have seen both my parents and my brother and sister naked my entire life and never felt it was anything sexual about it... my parents explained to me about the body, it's beauty and all the other things when I started aking cuestions, and I have a 4 year old, that sees my body and others with respect, whenever he has seen me naked and asked questions I answered honestly and clear, never feeling embarrased or ashamed for what is natures way and I just believe that as he grows he will grow more concious about private time, but as it is now, he showers with both my husband or I and he walks in the bathroom or our bedroom no problem, we do not walk around the house naked all the time or anything like that but when we change or come out of the bathroom, I never feel it is inapropiate, he is my child and came from us both, I can not imagine it being sexual,I thnk it is our choice how we adress the issue, but as I say, my sister and my brother and myself have seen each other naked even being adults and even my brother have been in our births, and never has been sexual or inapropiate..it is all how we feel it and present it to our kids, and what we have in our hearts to teach them about the world...

Sheree - posted on 10/13/2011

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Well, we dealt a bit with this issue when my daughter was younger. She just LOVED to run around naked & lift up her shirt &/or skirt... But we talked to her about what "private parts" are. We were careful to not make her feel embarrassed by any part of her body. It is natural. We referred to whatever a bathing suit covers as being private. For boys & for girls is different. I guess we started dealing with this at about age 5. She will occasionally try to catch her dad naked but we try to keep it light & say that it's private & that he gets embarrassed.



I think it's important NOT to instill shame or the concept of body parts as being "dirty", but it seems inappropriate for opposite sexed adults to be naked in front of each other once they're about 6-8. My daughter & I do change & bathe around each other. It's no big deal at all.



The real issue is that if it makes you OR your kids uncomfortable AT ALL, you should really address the issue. Be nice & diplomatic about it but let them know that it makes you uncomfortable & ask them to please cover up.

Trish - posted on 07/24/2011

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In my opinion, adults shouldn't be naked around children after the children are old enough to realize what private parts are and ask about them, so about 2-3. My hubby and I sometimes walk around in underwear but the boys know not to walk in on mommy when she's dressing and my daughter knows she's not allowed to take a bath with daddy. As far as the adults walking naked in front of the 11 and 10 year olds, they really should be aware that this could be illegal (indecent exposure) depending on where they live. Believe it or not, some of the people on the sex offender registry got there because of right-before-the-shower moments that were not intended to be a crime.

Sheree - posted on 10/19/2011

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I really do love what Aixa wrote. I believe that it is so sad how hung up, uptight & overly self-conscious our society is. Also, how sexually the body is usually viewed.

The body is not something that should be a source of shame for ANY child (or adult, really). It should also not only be associated with sex. Bodies (in any state of clothed or naked) should be viewed as beautiful & every bit a part of us & our being healthy people.

However, that being said, I do think a separate issue is of great importance in your original question. That is the issue of your comfort with the situation. You are clearly uncomfortable... concerned, at least. Listen to yourself. What do YOU need to do to be ok & to be true to yourself? These are YOUR children & you need to follow up as you feel is best.

In a sense, it really doesn't matter what anyone else feels or believes about your situation. YOU are the parent here. Believe in yourself & your instincts & do what's best for you & your family.

I'm sure we'd all love to know IF & how you decide to follow up with this issue. Please let us know how it turns out! Good luck!

Amber - posted on 12/24/2013

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You'll know. When one expresses they are uncomfortable wtih nudity, either verbally or physically, maybe it's time to cover-up. I don't think "looking" is something to worry about. So far the occassional nudity in our home isn't an issue for me and hubby and twin 12 y.o. girls. We only have one bathroom! I would have thought they'd be more modest by now. However, I have robes at the ready! Sounds like you're ready for a robe or two.

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Emily - posted on 10/19/2014

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When to cover up depends on the parents, I guess, and in my case never. My mom and dad were so comfortable with their bodies and I think they passed this on to their children. I was the big sister with 2 younger brothers and brief nudity in our home was never an issue at any age with me, my brothers or parents, from birth to age 19 when I left for college. We did not spend time hanging out in the nude, but we did sleep in the buff. So, yes, every morning and bedtime was clothes-free. No one thought twice about a nude walk to the kitchen for a snack before bed or a trip to the laundry room before a shower. We all went through a brief, summer time, backyard, all-over tanning phase as teens. Every family is different and I realize mine is probably in the minority. I think my parents are wonderful and did a fantastic job raising me and my brothers. My husband once thought it strange, but is open to my view with our two children, so there you have it.

Norma - posted on 06/22/2014

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we know thateir are millions in the world that have nude familily life~~~and do not consider either the parent or the boy or girl child 's body body needing to be hidden..from other family members~~~.WHEN kids are not raised in a family that abides with all members being nude around the home,,,,,,then kids just naturaly wishing to know what the human body looks like,esp. the opposite sex .This does not make these little kids perverts,they are just naturally cutious.
~~~Now .In parts of Europe .you see families swim togather nude,or all sauna nude to-gather....but in the American socirety this healthy attituide of reguarding the body as being wholesome and beautiful,rather than nasty,is LESS prevailent,perhaps because of the ghosts of the Puritans .
~~~~many ,are taught from birth,that the nude body is bad and nasty....but I think that one might agree that it is not the nude body ,or ANY of it's parts that causes problems,but it is the warped thinking of an impure,or violent and self-centered mind that is the danger ( that is..)..wishing to harm certain body parts,.....in other words, a mind that is filled with sickness.

Erin - posted on 06/18/2014

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For the five year old, he is not being sexually aroused. He is curious. Explain to him that girls have girl parts and boys have boy parts. Different gender parts do different things. I also suggest that the females lock the door when they go to the restroom, because there should be privacy in the household. For the ten and eleven they may be enjoying the nudity. I say you recommend kindly to your mom and sister to cover up.

Norma - posted on 06/18/2014

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HI ALL MOMS ! am a single breastfeeding mom ,I have 6 boys up to to age 11...and we always bathe togather,either out side in the springs or inside in our huge hot tub........I see here that some moms and kids wear clothes most of their time....but our climate is warm year round so clothing is not needed.My kids express that they love this life-stule.. that we live nearly 24-7...we home-school,co-sleep.organic gardening......they have not been raised with body shame,and guilt,so no anxirty. We know that our bodies are beautiful;;;not nasty...We never understood the need of many PARENTS...to believe that FAMILY members need to hide their bodies from each other...............this seems very illogical and just plain silly...........any moms agree?

Amber - posted on 12/24/2013

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My 12 year old twins still go topless in our backyard pool probably because I rarely wear my top when swimming at home, though not when we have guests. Although inside the house we can be a little careless sometimes, but not a major issue now. I think they'll cover up when they feel the need.

Breanna - posted on 10/08/2013

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I have to say that my brother and I grew up with our mother walking around half naked. Maybe it was our small apartment and one bathroom, but sometimes she'd use the bathroom and I'd be the one to close the door, she'd walk around topless in the kitchen with a towel barely covering her (because she would have something on the stove and plan to take a quick shower) or she'd be completely naked and dress in front of me, the same treatment for my brother. I don't think I've been adversely affected, I'm definitely not uncomfortable with the situation but I wonder if I'll strive for more modesty when I have my own kids. I kind of think for my mother it wasn't principle or anything she just wanted to feel comfortable in her house or trying to multitask (getting in a quick shower while the chicken baked), I guess something like this should be played by ear; you can't tell how kids will respond to certain things.

Rachel - posted on 02/21/2013

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My kids was never afraid to cover up. My kids never said to cover. When they were little, they ask about the parts but never wanted it to be covered up. They are 16 and 20 now. I never wore clothes at home since the 20 year old was 4. If I do wear something, they would ask me if I was ok because that would be out of our norm.

User - posted on 02/17/2013

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we are all girls in my house... so we don't cover up much. but i do teach them to wear clothes when we have guess. when daddy is here and when the are other places.. i grew up in a house of women but never felt comfy because i was bigger. i want my girls to be comfy in their own skin

Lisa - posted on 02/16/2013

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Eh yeah, I'm sorry bit being so modest that your child freaks out because they see your bra strap is not something you should be proud of. It's teaching her that the body is shameful.

Lisa - posted on 02/16/2013

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If you have no issues with nudity, then chances are your kids won't either. Kids pick up on the cues of their parents, and build their modesty levels on that. Basically as long as you both are comfortable with being nude, then be nude *Shrugs*.

Brielle - posted on 01/06/2013

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My oldest child is 7 and I am still naked around her. I go naked in front of my nephews who are aged 16, 13, 9. I don't see the problem with this. Nudity is not something to be ashamed of.

Jessica - posted on 01/04/2013

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My mom walked around naked until i moved out (before and after her shower).
I would say when it becomes uncomfortable

Brandi - posted on 01/03/2013

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I'd buy them both a robe and tell them you would appreciate it if they would use it!

Brandi - posted on 01/03/2013

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Your mom and sister are very wrong for doing this in front of your boys. By 10 and 11 years old, they are very much so noticing the opposite sex and that's just gross to see your grandma and aunt naked. As far as your sister's son, he should not be allowed in the bathroom with his female cousins.

Cari - posted on 12/27/2012

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keep your clothes ON PARENTS. that is my advice. common sense. bye. and good luck. go shopping for clothes. ha ha ha !

Cecilia - posted on 12/27/2012

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Well Cari i guess that was the question but to say never is one thing. As i said I am modest. I try to avoid my children seeing me naked, even as toddlers. My point was there are different levels. People are more comfortable than others. I know people who get in the bath tub with 2 year olds. I personally don't see anything wrong with that ( they take a shower before hand) In some ways it's much easier when they are little to keep them safe in a tub this way. I also know people who allow their children to bathe together until they are around 7. If they are the same sex and are comfortable with it, i see no problem with it.

I guess the question would be when do children have awareness of sexuality? That would be when i would think it does become a problem.

Patricia - posted on 12/27/2012

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My daughter is 10 and she told me that she does not like to see me in short shorts or a top with no bra on even in the house-haha. So I stopped. I didn't realize it bothered her that much. I want to respect her though.

Cari - posted on 12/27/2012

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well change the blouse.. with a bra on. it is fine. but I thought you meant naked walking around the house.. that for me .. well I never did that. that is personal... no idea. I mean change your pants ( with panties on ) is fine to me.... but naked no.. but hey everyone is different.. Good Luck.

Cecilia - posted on 12/27/2012

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Cari so you're saying its not okay for my 2 year old to see me change my clothes at night?

Cari - posted on 12/27/2012

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well you never walk around children in the nude. PERIOD.. come on.. hello???????????

Cecilia - posted on 12/26/2012

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I personally don't do the whole naked thing. Never have. The most my kids see me naked is my 2 year old when she insists on being in the bathroom while i shower. I keep the curtain closed and i pull the towel into the shower and wrap myself.I believe in modesty. I also have a 12 yr old daughter who i've raised to be the same. She will not even change with me in the room and i respect that. She gets mad at me if i wear a shirt where you can see my bra strap. That is just how we are and i don't mind how my kids have turned out because of it.

I also don't care what others do in their own homes. It doesn't affect me or my life in any way so feel free. Nudity doesn't hurt anyone it's just i choose not to.

Elisabeth - posted on 12/09/2012

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In Summer I am naked most of the time in my own home.



My kids have grown up seeing my naked body and as far as I am aware they don't have a problem with it.



A body is a body is a body. We all have one, they all look different and kids should grow up not having a clue that being naked is anything to do with sex.



I have two boys aged 19 and 14 and a girl aged 6. The boys stopped walking around the house naked once their 'bits' grew but until then they didn't have a problem with their own nudity. My daughter however prefers clothes, lol.

Kris - posted on 12/08/2012

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Well, i'm not exactly comfortable with body. Even in bed, in the dark, alone, I'll cover up my butt and belly, even if it's 90 degrees. I'm so uncomfortable about it, it's turned into something my ocd took control of.



I'm not trying to say it's wrong, I just don't think it's right. I believe you should teach your kids that there's nothing to be ashamed of about the human body, but at the same time, they need to be taught that it's not socially acceptable to go walkin around town in your skivvies. It makes a lot of other people severely uncomfortable. That's why nudity isn't legal in very many places in the states. I just think there should be an age limit for boys to see woman, and girls to see men. With everything that goes on with kids these days, I'm afraid it would start something that only gets worse the older they get.

Brandi - posted on 12/08/2012

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i think it all comes down to your comfort level and how u want to raise your kids...we can all sit here and go on and on about how wrong it is or how natural it is but in all reality its about YOU and YOUR beliefs...i for one would be quite uncomfortable going to visit someone who answered the door naked lol...so id say to the people who do believe in that stuff should have some respect for those that dnt =) the same goes for kids if ur not comfy allowing ur children to see that stuff then put ur foot down...=)

Kelsey - posted on 12/08/2012

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lol we always deadbolt our door so we have a couple seconds to get dressed :)

Kris - posted on 12/08/2012

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Feel lucky Kelsey. I can't even walk around my house in my undies unless it's at night, when I know my in laws won't come over. In our family, we just walk in the house without knocking. So if my sdad in law comes over and i'm walkin around in a bra and panties, he might kinda freak out a little lmao

Kelsey - posted on 12/08/2012

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I do not usually walk around naked unless my kid is in bed..like after I have a shower I might just sit in my towel on the couch and watch my t.v show but usually when we come home I take my shirt and pants off and wear a pair of shorts and my bra and my daughter 3.5 will just wear panties

Kris - posted on 12/08/2012

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Uh, 10, 11, and 5 r a bit young for boys to be seeing naked woman, and they're way too old for your family to be doing that. It will teach them that there's nothing to be ashamed of about the naked body, but at the same time, it can cause some pretty wrong thoughts about family members.



I stopped being naked around my daughter when she was about 3-3 1/2. And I was never naked around my son. The closest I ever got to naked around him was feeding time. I don't like the way my body looks though. But yea, it's definitely time for them to cover up. I think it disrespects you as a mother. As if they're saying there's nothing you can do. At the very least, they can wear a robe. Your boys don't need to see that right now. It can cause.....what's the term.....something like premature sexuality, I think. Where they start to sexualize women before they're ready to.



I'll walk around them in my undies, but I don't wear any sexy undies, so they don't really have a reason to look at me.....unless I have another giant smiley face sticker stuck to my butt, or a price tag on my back.....my husband is mean to like that :p. I won't sit on the couch and watch a movie with them in my undies, but I'll run into the washroom to get something out of the dryer, then go back to my bedroom. So it's only for a few minutes so it doesn't make anyone uncomfortable. Except my husband. He can't stand it lol. I think I do it sometimes just to get to him :D



To Jenny: walking in while your sitting on the toilet is one thing. Unless you're sitting there naked where they could see everything, then there's nothing wrong with that, cause they can't see anything. At least that's how it is with me. My kids have the habit of looking directly at me if I say anything to them. Instead of standing in the hall, talking thru the door, they just burst in and act like I'm sitting at my desk lol. Or they'll be putting their dishes in the sink or getting a drink, and they'll look in my bedroom, cause they're nosy as all get out, and my bedroom door doesn't stay closed, and we don't have a bathroom door for our bedroom, so they can see me when I'm in there. So I tend to keep myself covered as much as possible, cause my son REALLY doesn't need to see what I've got down there. He doesn't really want to anyways. He freaks out when I ask him to put Bengay on my lower back, and he sees the very tippy top of my butt crack, like it's some deadly virus that will eat his hand off if he touches it rofl.

Samantha - posted on 09/05/2012

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there shouldnt be an age to stop, being free and open is a spiritual experience, the human body is a beautiful thing, it helps with anxiety and to respect one self.

Taylor - posted on 07/21/2012

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Anyway it depends on the family so it should go with how the parents decide to raise their kids.

Taylor - posted on 07/21/2012

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I really doubt you were raised as a nudist and all of your siblings and you suddenly ALL disliked it. The story smells like it's BS to try to make your point is all.

Lauren - posted on 07/17/2012

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my children are 2 and 3 and have never me other than topless..... i think maybe just before they reach school age would be ideal as it just stops problems at school ie boys wanting 2 look at girls and then at such a young age starting 2 ask questions..
i defo think at 10 and 11 its wrong to be naked infront of them...

Caroline - posted on 07/17/2012

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We have a pretty laid back house in regard to nudity. Me and my husband walk around naked a lot as do my kids. My oldest son is 10 and he seems to be fine with it as do all his younger siblings. I don't feel at all uncomfortable about it.

Sarah - posted on 07/15/2012

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I agree with this. But, still it is in the back back of my mind that even pedifilia does not cross societal lines as a disfunction. If it is accepted as normal in a cetain society, the offender would not be considered "sick". This is disturbing because its usually obvious that children are not physically ready to have sex with adults and in my opinion should be discerned as wrong in even indiginious societies. This is obviously a whole other topic, but I'm just saying that this argument is not always sound. Personnally I use the Bible as a guidline. I do understand not everyone does, and try not to judge.

Mary - posted on 07/15/2012

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My oldest (twins) are six and they still see me naked. I'm not planning on changing that anytime soon.

Laura - posted on 07/13/2012

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yes! I certainly understand that your relative was not sensitive,but was instead disregarding in this way..

In our case,my 9 kids ages up through ages 12 say that they really like,and prefer the nude family lifestyle..that is THEIR choice that they have emphatically made for themselves,and we moms honor and respect their decision.Now as we have use of very large amt of my parents land with forest,springs, ..and home-school while we are here ,we can have this life-style 24-7 ,also other moms and their kids are there..........

There are so many,esp. in America,and Britain,that have the same concepts,as the mom who believes that a mom and her 2 yr old must not see each other naked,

......Now, in a lot of places in Europe,families go on a pic-nic-in the park,and play ball totally nude,I know that this is shocking to many Americans,and many other cultures...it's all how one sees it,the body as vulgar,or one who accepts the creation as natural~~the vulgarity is in the mind....the beauty ,or vulgarity is in the EYE of the beholder....we can try a new thing.,to see what is innately PURE,......with pure eyes.

Sarah - posted on 07/13/2012

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I'm not judging you, rather letting you know, as a person who was raised like this. I grew up and WAS offended by this relaxed idea of nudety, as were my brothers. She never did respond to our wishes, and to this day hates underwear. I love my mother, but honestly we all lost a little respect for her because of this. In her case it was selfish and lazy. I dont like sitting in her house because there is vagina fluids all over everything. Even though I was raised like this, I preferr a greater amout of modesty even among family. Your children could grow to feel the same way. BTW If a child is unselfconcious being naked at home. I dont see any issue, but after puperty i really wouldnt want my kids that comfortable. But, when my daughter is an adult I would have no issues changing in front of her. As adults my cousin (who is like my sister) and I would shower together. I am open minded about nudety. I think the issue here is WE DID NOT WANT TO SEE OUR MOTHERS VAGINA ALL THE TIME and she didnt respect us.

Laura - posted on 07/13/2012

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Sarah,I understand from what you related,that you had issues as a child,that is unfourtionate to be sure,but you realize that many families have a different experience and out-look...many thousands of family members in this world are nude families,and they prefer that......feels good,are very comfortable,and see no reason to hide their bodies from each-other ~our kids are happy,and love our life-style...no one can say that this is right for,YOU...people have different ways

Blossom - posted on 07/12/2012

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Oh I should've added, that we began to talk about the differences between men and women and why it's imprtatnt to not allow anyone to see or touch certain parts of our bodies. I can't remember how old he was I just know he was old enough to recognize that I didn't look like him. Hope this helps.

Blossom - posted on 07/12/2012

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LOL! I stopped when my son was old enough to say eew mommy what's that?!?!?

Stephanie - posted on 07/12/2012

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its not really a negitive thing to keep your clothes on in front of the kids but i can say my children are forever running run without any clothes on witch i dont mind but i can say if a man was to be naked around my children i would have something to say! but yeah it is only an opinion and evryones is diffrant :)

Laura - posted on 07/11/2012

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I never reported anything,to any one,I always take responsibility for my own territory I don't understand what happened?I have always thought ,as you,,that folks can disagree without being upset,yes,yes.......in my life I have always tried to be cool,and ,I have not been angry...having a simple difference of opinion,is very fine!.......my belief here is that family ,can be naked if they choose, ( it so just happens that there are no men here) some other families do not choose to be a nude family....so i say, to them, "go for it "...........................I.am personaly not one who goes to nudist places.,no need

Michele - posted on 07/11/2012

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I think it depends on the kid. My daughter became very self conscious around 5 and stopped changing around anyone so with her I made sure I was covered as well because I didn't want to make her uncomfortable. She slept with me until she was 12. My son, on the other hand, who is now 9 does not believe in privacy. He will walk in on me when I am using the bathroom or showering, etc... He does look away while talking to me but that is because I have told him to. He knows that I have to have my underwear and bra on before he can look or come in. I try to stay covered for the most part but I always am sure to have these two articles of clothing on. Frankly, I am sure that my undergarments cover more than a lot of the girls at the beach. He also sleeps with me. We are a close family and I think that if I make a big deal about it that it will make him ashamed or self conscious and I don't want to do that. By next year, though, at age 10, it will be fully clothed only. That is when boys start to notice and and become curious about things.

Sherri - posted on 07/11/2012

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Stephanie she doesn't mean any disrespect. If you post something publicly here you have to expect someone may comment on your post. So please don't take it personally and scream at people because they disagree with you.

Stephanie - posted on 07/11/2012

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I C MY LAST POST MUST HAVE BEEN REPORTED!!!! THIS WOMAN WANTED AN OPINION AND THAT I GAVE ! SO DONT COME ON HERE TELLING ME YOUR OPINION AS ITS UNWANTED..... WHY ARE YOU GETTING SO UPSET OVER THIS ANYWAY? ITS A QUESTION A WOMEN ASKED FOR OPINIONS YOU NO WHAT AN OPINION IS , IT MEANS ALL DIFFRENT PEOPLE SAY WHAT THEY THINK!!! NOT SOMEONE COMING ON TO CRITISIZE OTHER POPLES OPINIONS OK SO GO AND ANOY SOMEONE ELSE AND DONOT INCLUDE MY NAME IN YOUR POSTS!!!

Stephanie - posted on 07/11/2012

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YES MY KIDS WALK ABOUT NAKED BUT THEY DONT NEED TO C ME NAKED AND I WAS RAISED PROPER OKAY! AND TO BE HONEST I GAVE AN OPINION DIDNT A SPECT SOMEONE TO RIGHT ME PAGES A THE BIBLE!! I WOULD NEVER LET ANYONE NAKED AROUND MY KIDS AS I DO NOT DO THIS MYSELF!!!!!!! YOUR OPINION IS YOURS AND MY OPINION IS MINE !!! IS THIS NOT WHAT THIS WOMAN WANTED (OPINIONS) WELL I GAVE MINE SO IF YOU HAVE AN OPINION GIVE IT DONT AIM IT AT ME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Stephanie - posted on 07/11/2012

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i would never walk around naked in front of my sons as kids pick up more than wee think . maybe when they are mths old but not years old , why people think that this is alright i will never know!! not only do they ask questions but i cant imagin what they would ever think !!
personaly i would not let this behavior happin in front of my kids , i would never do this ither . mayby have a talk to them and make them understand what they are doing is wrong

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