Anyone still have their 19 month olds on dummies?

Jolene - posted on 01/13/2010 ( 34 moms have responded )

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I'm not worried that my daughter still has her dummy but I get a little paranoid when I'm out and about and I give it to her when she is really whingy. People look at me like its the worse thing in the world sometimes. She has it when she is teething and very whingy as it seems to sooth her. Especially when she is teething. Just wondering what other mothers do and if you still have dummies for your child?

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Penny - posted on 01/24/2010

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my daughter is 19 mth and still has a dummy. usually when she is napping or participially grizzly. personally i think is ok for her to have her dummy for these times but i agree i have coped a lot of judgemental stares from many people for giving her a dummy out in public. the only thing that has helped me is to remember that we know our children better than anyone else in the world and a dummy is in no way dangerous to a child. i am sure when the time is right for our children to give up there dummies we will be the first ones to know. i do worry however what that time will be like when it comes. its not fair for people to judge mother on things such as these. its hard enough being a mum without the added guilt that people put on us!

Jennifer - posted on 01/23/2010

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yes my daghter still has hers, she doesnt seem to want it during tthe day so it it just a nighttime thing, if shes grumpy cause she is ill or tired and trys to speak to me ill tell her i cant hear you you have something in your mouth she'll then take it out andd give it to me and start again! she is 19 months too i also have 4 elder girls who all had dummys until the age of 2 and a half then the bin man came round and gave all the dummys to new babies! this worked a treat at giving them up if they were still atteched to them. dont worry what others think you know your child better than anyone

Lori - posted on 01/23/2010

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Yes my son is 19 months too and still has his pacifier. He had started to ween a way from it but when I had my second son halloween he has started to take his away. In fact I don't have any of the "big" pacifiers left, just newborn. He gets those and chews on the and uses one to take a nap and go to sleep. I do think it helps him chew on something with the teething too. Hopefully I plan to take it away in the next few months. I might have to just take it away from the baby and never get him hooked on one either.

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yea my 19month old daughter stil has it too...i try to limit it to onli when shes going to bed or having a sleep during the day. although sometimes during the day she finds one that she has stashed somewhere and has it until i realise... iask her can i please have it and she usually just gives it to me without a problem...

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My 19th month old takes his at nap and bedtime and when we are in the car. When he is still, he tends to need something to chew on... when playing he doesn't miss it. Out of sight usually means out of mind for him, so we try to keep it put up. Will start to wean him after he is finished teething.

Nichole - posted on 01/22/2010

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My little 19 month old has his 24/7. I am going to try and get his away by 2 or so, its comforting, he loves it. He's my 4th child, my others didnt really care alot, but he's hooked. I don't care what other's think..if there 4 or 5 ( a little much) but under 3 or 2 1/2 I think its ok..

Yvonne - posted on 01/22/2010

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they are still babies!!! all my babies had dummies till about 2 and a half, and they chucked em in the bin themselves, the one that didnt have a dummy sucked her thumb and now at 15 years old next week shes still a thumb sucker!!!! so u tell me whats best!!!! dummies till age 3 any day!!!

Elisa - posted on 01/21/2010

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Hi Jolene! My daughter has her dummy too and she's 19 month olds as well. I'm not worried about it at all, she uses it when she sleeps and when she's a bit upset, especially when she's teething (as you said). I talked to my pediatrician about it, and she said, since I haven't took it away until now, it would be cruel to my baby to remove it before she's 3 years old.... I probably won't wait till then, but I will wait some more time. Also, it seems she's ditching it by herself, and I think the fact that I've always kept the same size (0-6 months) might have helped. good luck, I hope I've this helped!!

Amy - posted on 01/21/2010

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OK assuming that we are refering to a pacifier, I can understand why you feel paranoid. My mom and every other mom I come into contact with wants to take it out and throw it away.I say no. It helps me to remain sane, especially when she is whiny. I cannot stand whinning it makes me want to scream, I do not but the thought crosses my mind after a full day of whinning. I say let them have it til about age 2 or so and then wean them off of it. Neither of my older children took one, but my daughter does. My hubby hates that she still has it, he wanted it gone at 6months....

Michelle - posted on 01/21/2010

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Is a 'dummy' a pacifier? My 1st daughter had one for a few months when she slept but I took it away one day and she never noticed. I have a friend who recently sent their pacifiers to the pacifier fairy...packed them up in a package and 'mailed' them away. I've also heard of passing them down to a new baby if you have any friends/family with new babies. I've heard using a pacifier too much at this age can affect their speach and eventually their teeth. I wouldn't be at all concerned about what other people think...you have to do what you think is right
good luck

Jana - posted on 01/20/2010

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Our daughter still has hers, and that's when we give it to her. It's for night night time or when she is not feeling well or just whiney! We plan to take it away at 2 years. I don't care what other people think....they're not dealing with the cranky baby!!! Just do what's good for your baby!

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I finally got rid of it when my son was 15 mos because he got an ear infection and I didn't want to contribute to it. I also finally took him off a bottle. If anyone is looking to get rid of the paci, a friend told me to cut the tip off and still offer it to him in his crib. He won't be able to get good suction and will tire of it. Well I tried it and that was it! He held onto it for about a week then gave it up completely! Couldn't believe it!

Anyway, do what feels right for you and your child. Don't worry about other people!

Kimberly - posted on 01/20/2010

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My 19 month old still has hers. We limit it to bed, just waking up & in the car. We do not plan on getting rid of it until teething is over. My other children never took to it so this is different for me also. But not all babies follow the "rules" others like to impose on them.

Sarah - posted on 01/20/2010

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My son still uses it, but only for naps and bedtime. I understand using it for teething though. My son has horrible bite marks on his fingers from chewing on them and he doesn´t like teethers. He never used to be so attached to his pacifier until he started teething and we put it in his mouth all the time to keep his fingers out. Now he loves it! But they say that they will lose interest eventually and I believe it cause he now takes it out of his mouth voluntarily and even when he sleeps he usually sleeps with it in his hand instead of in his mouth and then when he wakes up he puts it in for a bit until he´s good and awake.

Kerry - posted on 01/20/2010

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my son has a dummy aswell. going to take him off it when he is 2 like i did with my other son.

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My son still uses his at night... I just started telling him that it needs to stay in the bed and I ask him to put his sucky to bed. He usually does it himself by when he doesn't, I just take it away, put it in his bed and we leave the room. It only takes him a few minutes to forget about it. Then whenever he asks... I just tell him Sucky is in bed. He got upset for the first few days but now its kindof a game... He know that he can have it when he goes to bed... and on top of that, he is napping really good too!

Sam - posted on 01/19/2010

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my son still has his dummie when he upset and sleeping that it, i think that 19 months is a normal age for a child to still have dummies as they still teething and still needs the comfort. people should not judge u for giving your child their dummy when they needed it weening a child off a dummie is very hard and will be even harder while their teething!

Ginger - posted on 01/19/2010

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I must have a very stupid question. What is a "dummy" ? My son is 18 months old, and I've never heard of that before. Are we talking about a pacifier? If so, I've never ever heard it referred to as that before. LOL @ myself. We call it a binky, or a pacifier, and fortunately, my son only sucked on one for a week or two when he was first born and then started pushing it out. I guess we got lucky w/ him being our first. Good Luck to you.

Paula - posted on 01/19/2010

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hi yes my daughter of the same age still has a dummy mainly to take to bed and as you said for when she is teething she has always found comfort in her dummy but it is gradually becoming less of a need for her but do whatever is right for you and your lil girl who cares what other people think !!!!!!!!!!!! xx

Jos - posted on 01/19/2010

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Hi, my 19 month old still has a Dummy to sleep, the other day I told her to go & put it in her bed (cot) & she plucked it out of her mouth & went & put it on her cot & walked out! I stood with my mouth open with amazement laughing & have stuck with the dummy for bed only since & she seems ok with it. I still have one with me for the car & if we are out & she had gotten overtired as a backup. For teething have you tried the Amber necklace? we go one off trademe for $25 & it was the best ever - when we left it off for a weekend I couldnt figure out why she had gone so whingy...& then I clicked put it back on & with 24 hours - peace! lol Dont stress either way with the Dummy I reckon, as soon as her talking increases she will be easy to reason with & there is always the dummy fairy later on....(you post them all to her & the fairy gives her a toy she really wants in return) this worked a treat for my mates 3 1/2 year old...



Good Luck!



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My son is 19 months and still has his pacifier almost all of the time. He gets itchy skin from his food allergies, and the pacifier really helps to soothe him and keep him from scratching. Also if he doesn't have it he bites his hand or fingers--he is done getting his 1 year molars, finally, but he was teething for a long time and got really hooked on it. He also holds a second pacifier in his hand when he's sleeping! So, I'll work on weaning him off of them eventually, but as long as it helps keep him from doing behaviors like scratching that are bad for him, we'll stick with it.

Angelique - posted on 01/18/2010

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My son is still on the dummy. He's starting to ween himself off it. He only takes it now when he wants to sleep in the evening and during the day for his nap time. I believe that they should wheen themselve off it cause then it's not so emotional as when mommy takes it away.

Beki - posted on 01/17/2010

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Before having children I thought dummies were horrid! But with my daughter she wanted to continuously bf even though most of the time it was just for comfort and not actually feeding. So my midwife sent my other half to get a dummy, she took to it instantly and my mind gradually changed. When I had my second and 3rd children both boys, they both wanted to be thumb suckers which I think is far far worse than having a dummy, you take away a babies thumb! lol I have always tried to restrict usage to sleep times and if they are ill I don't like to see babies constantly sat with them in their mouths, but sometimes they do need it just for comfort when you are out shopping etc, what would people rather see an unhappy baby screaming because he wants a dummy or a happy contented baby with a dummy. It's a small thing for the happyness of a little one for a small amount of time.
My youngest is almost 19 months, he still has a dummy and would glady have 10 at a time if I allowed him too lol He has taken to hiding them in the letterbox and hoarding them there, as he knows mummy puts them away at wakey time haha I will take it away at 2 years when he can understand more as I did with my older two children, I've never had any problems taking them away completely and hope it goes as well with my little man when he is two later in the year.
I haven't really experienced anyone looking down on me whilst we have been out if he has one, but knowing me I probably wouldn't notice them if they did lol As long as our little ones are happy, it isn't doing them or anyone else any harm, so don't let it get to you, just carry on enjoying every minute of being a Mummy :o) ♥ xoxox

Manda - posted on 01/16/2010

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My son has a dummy AND a teddy, some days he is fine and will get up leave them on his bed and is happy to go play...then nap time have them....other days he clings to them like there is no tomorrow, im trying to get my son into only having them at bed times....but its your child its upto you what you do with that, some people leave it up to the child to give them things up others make them...who cares what others think

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I restrict dummy's for bed time and when im daughter is tired and whingy, i take them away at other times. My personal opinion is that dummy's are ok for children under 3, i think after then children can cope without them.

Marlee - posted on 01/16/2010

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my daughter gets hers for naptime and bedtime or if shes sick... we don't take them with us outside the house... we started limiting it when she was about 9 months old...

Serene - posted on 01/16/2010

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My son takes his for bedtime and naptime only. Its limited everywhere else we go. I started to wean him off of it all of the way but, he started teething and chewing on his fingers and crying so i gave it back to him. His dentist told me that he should be weaned off of it by the time he is 2 years old. Which i plan on doing once he is finished teething; his molars are coming in.

Latonya - posted on 01/15/2010

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What is a dummy? From the post I am thinking it means pacifier. LOL! Unfortunately I have nothing to offer because my 18 mth old hasn't used his since about when he was 3 mths.

Veronica - posted on 01/14/2010

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My son wouldnt take his after about 6 months. But that was his choice not mine. I dont think there is anything wrong with what you are doing. Every baby is different :)

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My daughter is 19 months and still has her dummie. She only used to take it for naps and bedtime but when she was teething she started taking it a lot more to sooth her. I get the same reaction from people who are shocked that i have her "addicted" to this thing. I don't really care what other people think, she's my baby and i know what is best for her and when i feel that she is ready i will ween her off it.

Nicky - posted on 01/14/2010

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Who cares what other people think!! If it works for you bub, then let him have it. My friends daughter still has a dummy when she is tired and more when she is not feeling the best,, and she's 3.

Orlaith - posted on 01/14/2010

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My little boy is 18 months and still has his dummy, although I have started to limit the time he has it, he really only needs it when he is tired or very annoyed!!!
I hope he will not want it any more when he gets a bit bigger!!!!

Anne - posted on 01/14/2010

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Yes unfortunately. Only for naps and bed time though. I tend not to even take one out with me anymore. Sam would probably have his dummy all day long if I let him! Obviously I don't. I don't like them even though my bubs still has one. I don't think there is anything particularly wrong with it at this age though so I wouldn't worry. It's certainly not the worst thing in the world and from what I've read it's not hurting their teeth or any other sort of development at this age so who cares what other people think! Whatever works for you and your toddler.

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