can't pretend anymore

Elizabeth - posted on 01/27/2009

If you don't qualify for state insurance right now, is there any chance there's a local low-cost counseling service nearby? I know there are organizations that offer counseling on a sliding scale, but I'm not sure exactly what resources are available for you there (and I TOTALLY understand how hard it is to go researching this stuff when it's hard to just get out of bed. Trust me, I understand that!) Sometimes, taking care of your baby and trying to take care of yourself is all you can get done, and that's ok. Don't feel like you have to do anything else right now, because you probably don't need that stress.

Anyway, if the anti-depressants aren't working, maybe talking about some of the underlying problems would help? Let us know how you're doing, because I know there are lots of other people going through similar hard times (including me, I admit).

Stacy - posted on 01/27/2009

I'm glad you acted on your need to reach out.  I suffered from depression in my teens and early twenties.  I was on different medicines but they didn't really help much.  Seeing a counselor is what helped me get a handle on how to control my emotions instead of the other way around.  I don't know what your religious background is, but please know that God created you and loves you.  You are unique and very special to Him.  If you attend a church, talk to your pastor about what you are going through or get involved with a Bible study group and open up to them.  My Bible study groups have helped me through some very difficult losses.  I will keep you in my prayers and please keep us updated on how you are doing. Stacy  

Breanne - posted on 01/27/2009

thanks everyone, it's all great advise. even just writing that and seeing a few people respond and having them say they understand helps so much. thank you all so much again. now i have my head a little bit more straight and have a better idea of what i need to do. :)

Martha - posted on 01/27/2009

Hi Breanne  I am so sorry that you are feeling so lonely and depressed.  Don't blame yourself for your feelings, just focus on getting better.  I think right now you could use some real help in working your way out of this.  You need to get your folks or your boyfriend to help you, they have to drive you to the Emergency Room so you can see a doctor there.  I understand that you have some real financial problems and no isnurance but I think a hospital may be obligated to help you even if you don't have insurance if you go to the Emergency Room.  There they will help you with your depression and also be able to provide you with help in getting insurance.  In Sheboygan, there is an excellent hospital that specializes in these type of problems, the Aurora Sheboygan Medical Center which has an excellent Behavioral Health Center.  They are located at 2629 N. 7th St. 

It is important to get the help, to make you stronger so you can deal with your problems and be there for your 7 month old daughter.    Martha

Martha - posted on 01/27/2009

Hi Breanne  I am so sorry that you are feeling so lonely and depressed.  Don't blame yourself for your feelings, just focus on getting better.  I think right now you could use some real help in working your way out of this.  You need to get your folks or your boyfriend to help you, they have to drive you to the Emergency Room so you can see a doctor there.  I understand that you have some real financial problems and no isnurance but I think a hospital may be obligated to help you even if you don't have insurance if you go to the Emergency Room.  There they will help you with your depression and also be able to provide you with help in getting insurance.  In Sheboygan, there is an excellent hospital that specializes in these type of problems, the Aurora Sheboygan Medical Center which has an excellent Behavioral Health Center.  They are located at 2629 N. 7th St. 

It is important to get the help, to make you stronger so you can deal with your problems and be there for your 7 month old daughter.    Martha

Jac - posted on 01/27/2009

Hi Im jackie Im 24 with 4 children, having a baby itself is an emotional thing itself but topped off with depression makes it worse but your one up you know you love your little girl so work on that just remember everytime she looks at you shes trying to tell you that she loves you for who you are, as for pot that makes depression worse so try an avoid it, replace with playing a game with your daughter or taking her for a walk it takes your mind off things for a little while, and if no one wants to talk to you about your depression try joining a young mums group because talking to people about it is a good way to over come depression, but never think your a bad person cos thats when it takes over try and treat yourself from time to time because you deserve it. It will get better time and it will but just remember that little girl idolises you and you are her world I hope you get better in time and wish you all the best goodluck not because you need it because you deserve it :)

Jessica - posted on 01/26/2009

oupp i made mistake anti-depressents didn't work sorry

Allie - posted on 01/26/2009

Hi Breanne,
Becoming a mother is such an emotional experience, I think it's something that we can never fully prepare for. You love your daughter and it's why you need to figure this out, she needs you.
I suffered from depression growing up too. My doctor warned me about post-postpartum because having been depressed before makes you more susceptible to it. I was on several different medications as well and honestly I feel they made it worse. I do however think that there are some out there that could work for you, or for myself, it's just a matter of finding the right one. I will tell you though that finding a good counselor to talk to made a world of difference to me. Sometimes it's good to just have someone to listen to you, even if they don't give you answers. I also wrote down how I felt a lot, even if it didn't make sense. I had to find outlets for my anger and sadness.
I am 23 and have a 7 month old daughter as well...I can't tell you what to do about your job or your man but I can tell you that you need to do all you can for your little one. She needs you and relies on you to love. protect and take care of her. Sometimes I get really sad still and think of my daughters smiling face and remember that she is why I'm still here...When I was pregnant I wanted to end it and almost did.
Is there another job you could do? Anywhere else you could get work? Do you have a friend you can lay this on? Or as cliche as it sounds a local free counseling center?
I'm thinking about you and I care, even though I don't know you.
Please feel free to get a hold of me if you need a friend. Seriously!
xx Take care, you and your sweet little girl!

Jessica - posted on 01/26/2009

Hi, I'm Jessica and i'm 21, I have a 7&half month baby boy. I bet you know that depression is a disease and have to take seriouly. I understand you very well because i was in the same boat as you couple years ago. I did try to kill me several time but miss and today i'm greatful for that. Killing yourself it not the best of idea because you have a beautiful little girl who pretty much need her mom and she will not be better off without you. You are the center of her world. I understand that right now life is tough because your young but at less your parents help you. What you need is a friend that you can talk to about problem sometime that all you need, i be through the same thing with anti-depressents and it did work but i discovered by talking to someone help alot. Anti-depressents can't cure depression but people around you can. The last thing you should do is killing yourself but try to talk to your mom or even your dad tell them that depression it not a thing that you just can get over it or something like that it a disease and it's have to take it seriouly. If you want you can talk to me, i would love to help you out and listen. I'll give you me e-mail adress: croisetiere79@msn.com



Hope to hear from you soon and i hope you'll be fine

Jessica