I have a 2 year old and Pregnant with another Child!!

Rebecca - posted on 08/05/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )




I am a little worried about when the baby comes if she will be jealous or not has anyone expience this if so any tips would help!


Jessica - posted on 08/17/2010




well i have my 2 year old, and 18 months and 6 days after she was born, i had my 3rd child, another little girl. Yes at first she was jealous but thats normal. The best thing to do is let your 2 year old help as much as possible! Let her get the diapers for you, or help give the baby a bottle. One thing we did was before we brought our baby home from the hospital my husband went to the store and bought our daughter a "special" baby doll. When we showed her her baby sister we also gave her the doll, the doll has all types of clothes and diapers, so whenever I did something with the baby she did the same to hers. And make sure she still gets alone time with mommy and daddy,she needs to know that she is still important. It took our daughter about 5 or 6 months to get over the shock. But now our baby is almost 8 months and they're great friends. Good luck, everything will work out fine

Elizabeth - posted on 08/07/2010




My son was 2 1/2 when my daughter was born. We tried to make sure that he was included in time with her. He helped with getting things like diapers and her bottle or picking up things that were dropped. It was important to us that he got time with just daddy and mommy too. That helped him somewhat. We also enrolled him in a class since he was too young for pre-school that met for a couple hours twice a week. He got some time away that was just for him to play and learn. It didn't eliminate the new baby jealousy but it did help. We also had him pick out a new toy to give her at the hospital and gave him one from her.


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Jenny - posted on 10/03/2012




I am a mom of 2 and I am pretty sure i have a bun in the oven...again! My little girl is 3yr next week and my son is 8 months on Monday and I'm really scared. This was not planned and I know things will work out, but how does one handle this and keep it together? Does anyone have suggestions???

Jessica - posted on 08/18/2010




since you have a daughter maybe let her play babies and maybe use some of the things that ur buying for new baby(baby bottles paci's exc) for her play time. tell her mommy has baby in her tummy. she wont quite understand and may go through some jelousy but you may ease the blow a bit :) good luck sweety!

I am a work at home mommy!

Theresa - posted on 08/16/2010




my oldest was just over a year and a half when i had my second and she loved it. there was times when i would hold both but for the most part she has always helped. i would lay the baby on my oldest lap and let her feed her..... with a lot of supervison. wich is need. if i let my eye off for a sec it seemed she was trying to pick her up. thats the only worry. my baby is now 7 months and my oldest is two they get along great and my oldest still helps out with everything!!

Lindsey - posted on 08/14/2010




I have a daughter who turned 2 on june 2nd, and a son who is 10 months old... I was absolutely soo scared about this very thing.... actually its been great! When ppl come to see the new baby, ask if they could bring a small gift for your daughter, even from the dollar store, so she gets a present too. Include your daughter in all things, for example, the babies blanket is across the room... ask your daughter if she would like to help take care of the baby. Our daughter was sort of mad at my husband and i at first, we were gone for 3 days at the hospital and she stayed with grandma, but she loved her brother from the beginning... no jealousy issues at all. make sure to make time for her, and to play with her still, and you should have no issues.

Jordan - posted on 08/09/2010




this is the same thing im worried about. m due in february next yr, i dunno wat to expect.

Sophia - posted on 08/08/2010




Yes, I have three and they do sometimes go through a jealous phase then they eventually just wanna help you with baby and take care of baby. I am working on getting my 25 month old daughter ready for her new little sister. So far she seems to like babies but you can never really tell until the baby is born what they're reactions are gonna be. She knows there is a new baby coming and we talk about the baby to her and with her all the time. I hope that she is okay about the baby as I hope yours will be. Best of luck.

Diane - posted on 08/08/2010




What the others said is great. Include her in activities, allow her to hold the baby in her lap and also do one on one if possible. My oldest 2 are 22 months apart and they were best friends, until they hit their teens, now they fight a lot.

Jannessa - posted on 08/08/2010




my 2 have a 21month age gap i think its perfect! my boy is now 26months n my girl is 4 and a half months!! wen i was pregnant i always let him play wit my stomach he always kissed it n rub it n made him know there was a baby in there n when is was closer to the time i told himbaby coming soon! just make him be involved wit everything when it comes to the bub (still in ur tummy)like shoppin etc.... the other thing i founf that worked if when u go to hospital n take them to visit let "baby give them a gift"!!.....but yeh as liz said u gotta be careful when the get told off or is angry they tend to blame baby!...............just show them u gotta b gentle n love ull b fine!

Hayley - posted on 08/07/2010




ive been really lucky, my son is 2 and my daughter is 6 weeks old. So far there has been no noticable jealousy. He loves her and always wants to kiss and cuddle her. I do involve him though and get him to help me. My husband and i still try to give him some one to one time with each of us too.I was also very worried when i was pregnant about how he would be but so far so good. All i can say is involve her and listen to her.

Liz - posted on 08/05/2010




Hello. I have a set of two year old b/g twins and my little boy will be a month old on August 12th. So far we really haven't had much jealousy issues, though lately we really have to watch our daughter around the baby when she gets mad or is trying to get attention.

I don't think at this age it's easy to get the child to comprehend what is truly happening. We told our twins that " mommy is going to have another baby" " You're going to be a big brother and big sister" But I don't think they truly got it until he was born. So far though the best thing I can recommend is make sure you include them in on helping with the baby, and during a feeding read a book or do a special activity with your older child(ren)

Kate - posted on 08/05/2010




I am going through the same thing, I have a 2 year old son who gets extremely jealous when another baby is around. I really dont even have to be holding the other baby, he sees another baby and instantly wants to be on my lap or cuddle...I am due in december with another boy, and I really dont know how this is going to go. I have been telling him "mommy is having another baby" and "Trenton, your going to be a big brother" things like that, I even take him with me to the doctor. I really dont think he understands thought... Any suggestions?

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