I let my babe sleep in my bed with me, now she's 8 months and won't sleep in her crib! how do I fix this

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Allie - posted on 02/05/2009

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I did this too, I let our daughter sleep with us for the breast feeding convienience and it was a challenge getting her to sleep in her crib...

We started by rolling a blanket up on either side of her so she didn't feel so "alone" and just kept at it! I guess consistency is the key and it's hard but worth it!

I still pull my daughter into bed with me first thing in the morning, it gives me an extra hour of sleep and some wonderful snuggle time...

Good luck! :D

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Victoria - posted on 02/11/2009

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Room Sharing



Sharing a bedroom with your baby for at least the first six months is known to reduce the risk of SIDS and is the best option for creating a safe sleep environment.



Always on my Back in my own Crib. Having the crib next to your bed is a great spot, allowing you to easily check on baby during the night, provide ease for breastfeeding and offers parents piece of mind.



Do not use home monitors to reduce the risk of SIDS.



There is no evidence that use of monitors decreases the incidence of SIDS. Also, there is no evidence that in-hospital monitoring of the baby’s breathing or heart will show which babies are at increased risk of SIDS.



CFSID understands that sometimes a crib will not fit into the parent’s room. If you decide to use a portable crib or playpen, be sure to use only the mattress or pad provided by the manufacturer.

Victoria - posted on 02/11/2009

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Bed Sharing vs. Room Sharing



There is scientific evidence that sharing a bed or a sleep surface with a baby increases the risk of SIDS and fatal sleep accidents. Therefore CFSID does not recommend bed sharing with babies but does recommend sleeping babies in a crib or other separate sleeping surface next to the parent’s bed for the first six to twelve months of life.



Bedsharing means sleeping on the same surface with your baby. Some parents refer to this practice at co-sleeping.



There is a very high risk of SIDS when a baby shares a sofa or couch with an adult while sleeping.



Adult beds are not designed with infant safety in mind.



Bed sharing must be avoided when:



· the baby shares the sleep surface with a smoker



· there is adult bedding, duvets or pillows



· the baby can be trapped between the wall and the bed, can fall out of bed or is rolled on



· the parent is under the influence of alcohol or drugs that cause extreme drowsiness.



· the baby is sharing sleep surfaces with other children or pets



· the baby is placed to sleep on a sofa, beanbag, waterbed or sagging mattress



· the baby is younger than four months of age or is premature or small for gestational age.

Victoria - posted on 02/11/2009

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I have lots of information I can share with you that explains why a baby should be placed on his\her back to sleep, in their owm crib, and why we should not bedshare and what the risks and the dangers are to bed sharing... I will send it to you this afternoon.

Catalina - posted on 02/10/2009

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Victoria, I am so sorry for your loss. Just trying to imagine a loss so profound makes my heart ache at the thought. Thank you for doing what you can to prevent other losses. I would like to see more information about the dangers of bed sharing because I have shared the bed at one point or another with all three of my children at different ages and stages for different reasons and for different lengths of time. I can see how it could pose some risks, but I have always thought they could be managed and that no place you put your baby to bed is completely without any risk, including a crib in another room. I have my doubts about how much MORE risky bed sharing is, and under what circumstances, and I would like to know more about the research you have done. I trust you have read more and seen more than I have so I would like to know what you have learned. I would really hate to give up any bed sharing at all due to worries which may not apply to our situation. I had read that the statistics regarding bed sharing aren't always reliable because they don't factor out other factors which contributed to the deaths. I am respectfully skeptical but open to having my mind changed.

Catalina - posted on 02/10/2009

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Before I can give any advice I want to pinpoint what you see as the problem. Depending on how you frame it, the answers are pretty different. Are you able to feel rested and sleep alright with the baby in your bed, but you are worried about safety or just philosophically opposed to bed sharing? Or, do you mind having babe in bed because no one sleeps well?

Victoria - posted on 02/10/2009

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Put your baby in the crib and let her cry herself to sleep...... You need to be paitant and it will be hard on you but it will work... I lost my son Konur at 10 weeks old due to Bedsharing... I am not currently running Safe Sleep workshops in the Ottawa area for new and expecting parents, caregivers etc.. and the one thing I tell people all the time is bedsharing is NOT safe......... I wouldent recommend continuing with letting her sleep in your bed.

Nicole - posted on 02/10/2009

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We used the 'no cry sleep solution' as I couldn't do the cry it out method. There were some good tips to help...patience being number 1 ;) Good luck!

Brandi - posted on 02/08/2009

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If she crawls i was told that you should set up the crib in your room. right next to the bed with the side down so that it was easy for her to crawl from the crib to your bed. then when you go to sleep put her in her crib and you sleep in your bed. this way she can easily crawl to you if she needs you but gets use to sleepin in her bed. then when she starts to get less dependent on you to help her sleep to move the bed back into her room. i dont remember who told me but im just passin along the info.

Andrea - posted on 02/07/2009

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we had a hard time getting ours into the crib, too! i finally got frustrated enough to try the "tough love" approach. after three nights of letting her cry it out she now sleeps every night in her crib no problem. most nights she sleeps straight through the night now, and i only need to go in occassionally when she really gets wailing. it was tough but worth the effort.

Julie - posted on 02/07/2009

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My daughter is just about eight months old and she came into our bed when she was sick and couldn't sleep (the only way I could get sleep) that was at about three months and now I love it! We know it will be hard to get her into her own bed later but for now she sleeps better and so do I! But you have to do what's right for you and your baby so I highly recommend the Dr. Sears methods, all her cousins were co-sleepers at one point and all my bros and sis's used his book suggestions to get them into their own bed and then into their own room. There are many suggestions so you can find one that's works for your baby and they are all no cry methods (or at least minimal fussing)! You can go to http://www.askdrsears.com/ and I think that has most of what's in his book. Good Luck!!

Camy - posted on 02/07/2009

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Our baby never allowed us to put him down in the crib when asleep. He would wail and wail! So we slowly slowly transitioned. We started with crib naps at 4 months after doing the cry it out method (which I highly recommend with the help of a book). Then for at least a month baby slept in his own bed (a spare bedroom in the house) and I would only come in to feed him at night when he cried and leave after he was asleep which seemed to work just fine. When he started moving around a lot at night, we started putting him to bed at night in the crib since he had then learned from naps how to put himself to sleep. Then one night I decided I was sick of the whole ordeal and tried feeding him in a chair in the middle of the night and putting him back to sleep and after a few nights it was no problem at all. He would fuss when I put him down sometimes but would quiet down after a few minutes. The key was making sure he was already in a deep sleep when I put him down and that the transition from arms to crib is smooth.



I would work on this soon. I know 3 year olds that still have to sleep with mom and don't even know what a crib is!! Yikes. Once they like their crib life is sooo much easier for you! I recommend a sleep solution book. They are very helpful.

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