I want another baby!! And Mirena question?

Ashleigh - posted on 12/12/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My 18 month old daughter is my first baby, and I am starting to really want another one. My mom keeps telling me to wait and remember how hard it is with one baby, and how much she regrets having my brother so close in age to me (He is about 27 months younger.) My husband and I have talked about it and we keep bouncing back and forth. I am making really good money right now and would have to take a few months off work if we had another baby. I just really want one. I have always wanted my children to be close in age because I think that kids that are close in age have a closer bond. Now two of my friends are pregnant with their second and third children and I am a little jealous. I really want another baby! I am on the Mirena, and I don't want it to take long for me to get pregnant again after I have it out. I just kind of wanted to vent to someone that may know how I'm feeling. Also, has anyone had mirena? How long does it take before you can get pregnant after having it out?

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Adrienne - posted on 01/02/2010

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Having kids so close in age is hard. But it is so worth it in the end. My boys are exactly 1 year apart. They share the same birthday. It was very hard in the beginning, heck it's hard still once in a while still. But they are like best friends. So when you and your husband are ready to have another baby then do so.

Tanisha - posted on 01/01/2010

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yea i kno how u feel... i have one baby now who is also 18 months old and yea i want another one all the time.... yea ive had the mirena in now for a bit over a year.... iguess when it comes to getting it taken out it all depends on how high ur hormone level is! c when i got pregnant with my son i was only off of my bc for about 3 days and then i got pregnant!! so it all just really depends..

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If you and your Husband are ready and thats what you want go for it! Me and my partner are going to try for another one soon, were in a good position financially and want another one. I wouldn't worry too much about the age gap, my sister is 7 years younger than me and we're really close. Goodluck!

Ashleigh - posted on 12/31/2009

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Thanks for the responses and the support ladies... it is nice to know how other moms are feeling about the same issues. My husband and I have decided that I am going to get my Mirena out in February, and we will see what happens. Thanks again for the nice things that you said :)

Faith - posted on 12/28/2009

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I know how you feel about wanting another one..me and my husband have been bouncing it back and forth too. I am still undecided..but we will probably wait..just because time are hard in the country right now and we think we should wait until things get alittle better..because you never know if you are going to get laid off.

Sarah - posted on 12/22/2009

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Im feeling the exact same way as you!!! Me and my man keep talking about it, and are both keen to have another one soon. me and my sister are 13 months apart and we are so close, and id love that close bond for my boy. I also have a little brother 4 years apart and that is such a big gap, and im not as close to him. it stresses me out that my boy is getting older and older and the age gap is only getting bigger!! The thing for me would have to be the money thing. Does anyone know if its HEAPS more expensive having two? i know its going to be more expensive, and if you wait for money, ull never have enough. most people i have talked to are excited for us to have another, i really just dont want to jump into it...

Kim - posted on 12/21/2009

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My girls are about 26 months apart and I wouldn't have it any other way. We are actually trying for another and the baby is only 18 months, too. It's a personal decision that only you and your husband can make. If it's what's right for you two, then it doesn't matter what anyone thinks, go for it! I don't know about mirena, but it took me a year and a half to get pregnant after going off the pill. Everyone's body is different, so you never know how yours will react until you do it. Good luck!

Cara - posted on 12/17/2009

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I have an 18 month old son, and we have been trying to get pregnant again for a couple of months. I have been wanting to have another baby for awhile, and I can tell my son is ready for a baby brother or sister. He loves playing with his teddy bear, kissing him, feeding him and wrapping him in blankets. It is so cute! If you want another baby, go for it! Children are just such a blessing!!!

User - posted on 12/16/2009

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I am a mother of four children!! I had the first two 22months apart and loved that they got along so well!! They are now 9 and 7 and look out for each other at school and stuff. I then had my next one three years later and the next three again. i wished I had them closer together in age as three years is a big gap!! Go with your heart and what is best for you and your husband!!
I hear it doesn't take long to get pregant after removing mirena but talk to your doctor they are the best informed!!

Erica - posted on 12/15/2009

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It doesn't matter how far apart in age your kids are....there will definitely be both challenges and advantages to any age gap.
I have a sister 20 months older and a brother 20 months younger than me. We are close, but also quite different from each other. I also have a brother who is 5 years younger, and we're close too. It's all in how the family relates and spends time together. We did a lot together as a family when I was growing up.
You could just remove the Mirena and just go with however long it takes and let that decide how far apart your kids are. I always wanted to have kids close together since I grew up that way. I haven't been using any BC for 14 months and nothing has happened yet. I guess maybe I wasn't meant to have another kid just yet. Well, we haven't been trying really, just not preventing.

Melinda - posted on 12/14/2009

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I think you should have another child when YOU and your husband are ready, not when your mother is ready! If you get pregnant at this point, your kids will be more than 2 years apart. I think that the older child will be a challenge at any age, so you might as well have the next baby when you are ready.

Erica - posted on 12/12/2009

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I have the Mierna, and I love it. I heard that it doesn't take long at all after you have it removed to get pregnant. That would be something to consult your doctor about.



With having another child right now i would honestly suggest waiting at least until your baby is out of diapers and potty trained, I have a sister that is 4years older than me and we have thee best relationship ever. I think it's all in how you raise your kids if they will have a good relationship or not. Also my sister has a boy that is 13 months older than my daughter and i watch him every day.. let me tell you first hand having two kids around that are so close in age is very difficult. I would take your moms advice and wait a little bit she was there and went trough it.. as much as we don't want to we need to listen to our parents on things like this they have been here longer than us and she has your best intrest in mind. I know all your friends are pregnant but that doesnt mean you need to have one right along with them. it is hard to see them have what you want. You have baby fever :) I would suggest babysitting one of your friends kids that is close in age to your baby and see how you like it... not just for one day but maybe for a couple days.. that might change your mind lol... best of luck to you and i hope you are happy with whatever decision you guys decide upon :)

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