Is getting pregnant a bad idea when your first is only one?

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My daughter just turned one and i'm wondering if that's too young to think about number 2?

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Sheryl - posted on 09/06/2011

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Mine were almost 2years apart. I guess i would say if you have the patience to handle two children in diapers, or one your potty training and the other one in diapers.. and possible both with a bottle. Also have the funding in case they both are requiring diapers still then go for it. Children in my experience seem to have a close bond when they are closer in age.

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Tanya - posted on 04/09/2012

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i found out i was 3 months pregnant when my daughter turned one lol...i have been busy busy busy

Christine - posted on 04/05/2012

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no when you and your other are ready for baby number to that is your choice and you will no when you both are ready. i got pregnant with my second child 2 months before my first turned a year and we couldnt be happier. they will be just shy of 2 years apart and i think thats a great age gap for them. make your own judgement regardless of what anyone else says. good luck and hope you make whatever choice is right for you.

Emma - posted on 09/06/2011

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I wouldnt think it would be. I know a person that gets pregnant has the baby then 6weeks after baby is born she gets pregnant again. Personally i got pregnant 3months before my daughters 2nd birthday. Its been a nice age gap between them for me to handle. But honestly if you think you are ready for another bub then go for it! It'd be nice for your daughter to grow up with a sibling thats close of age. I sometimes with that my two were alittle bit closer in age.

Krystal - posted on 09/06/2011

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no because I found it easier to have kids close together. I was always in the same sleep patern and never had a time between my 3 kids that any were out of diapers so you just get in a rymth of things not that they are all in school it is great because they do a lot together and apart and share some friends

Jessica - posted on 09/05/2011

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no it isn't. my son was 7 months when i got pregnant with his sister. and it works fine for me because they get along great

Mecca - posted on 08/07/2009

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Tighe is 14 months and we are TTC #2. I agree with every one on here when they say that it is your choice. Do whatever you think is best for you and your family.

Sherry - posted on 08/05/2009

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My son just turned 13months and id really love another baby were trying to concieve but it seems a little harder this time round i think to have them close will be easier on both me and my son as i will still be in the baby mode and it wouldnt be a shock to my system to do it all again and id love my childeren to grow up close. So no i think a year apart is perfect.

Annarien - posted on 08/05/2009

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wow you are all so inspiring! I read every post, now I'm just waiting to fall pregnant with no 2. My little girl is turning 14 months this month. Good luck to you all!

Shannon - posted on 08/03/2009

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my daughters are only 16 months apart. they are now 13 months & 29 months old & they are best friends! plus they enjoy the same books, toys, and programs. my 2nd pregnancy was not planned & i thought it would be really hard, but it wasn't. i wouldn't trade it for the world. we will be trying for #3 this fall! good luck!

Valerie - posted on 08/03/2009

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I got pregnant with me second when my oldest was 15 months old. They are 23 months apart and it's great! It was a lot of fun when they were smaller, they are 9 and 7 now. My brother and I are 13 months apart and we have always been very, very close. He is my best friend. It's a little challenging when they are both very little, but there are always some kind of challenges no matter what age difference. It's wonderful! I would have another right now if my husband would let me. He wants to be finished with having more children, but I think just one more would be great!!

Vicky - posted on 08/03/2009

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I hope not too-i'm 19 weeks with my 3rd!! Number 2 born is the june 2008 baby and My eldest is nearly 5. If your ready then go for it!

Cheryl - posted on 08/03/2009

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I think it's a wonderful thing!! If you are ready to have another baby, and you are able to have another baby, then go for it!!! I have a daughter that will be 14 months on the 5th, and we just found out baby #2 is on the way!!! It is a planned pregnancy, and we are thrilled!!! We got pregnant on our first try!!! I've always said that I wanted my children 2 years apart (thank God my husband feels the same way... lol).

Nicola - posted on 08/02/2009

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not at all , ithink its ok if you yourself thinks so,,, ive just had baby no: 2 , their is 11 months to the day bewteen them.. go for it if you feel ready.x

Jannessa - posted on 08/01/2009

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my boys 13 months n im 7 weeks!! i think its a good age cause he'll be like 22 months when i have this one!

Jamie-Leigh - posted on 08/01/2009

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I dont think so its totally up 2 you and your partner! if you want it go for it, my daughter is 13 months and im trying again! good luck xxx

Amber - posted on 07/29/2009

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well my babies are 18 monthes to the day apart for the most part i wouldnt change a thing although sometimes i wonder what i was thinking lol

Emma - posted on 07/29/2009

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My eldest was 10 Months when I got pregnant with my second. They get along brilliantly and I don't feel like it was any harder with 2

Kelly - posted on 07/29/2009

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My first one was only 9 months old when I got pregnant with my second!!! It is only too young if you aren't ready for a baby and a toddler and then 2 toddlers. It can be stressful at times, but I am glad they are so close in age!

Sarah - posted on 07/27/2009

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I really hope not too since my son is 13 months and I'm 36 weeks preg...lol

Julia - posted on 07/25/2009

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I don't think so...we're trying to get pregnant now with our 2nd. I'm anxious and scared at the thought of 2 so dependent, but it'll pass by FAST!!! And you'll adjust your life accordingly. I just pray you have help and that I'll have help...cause we'll need it!!!

Melanie - posted on 07/24/2009

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Not at all. I'm looking at falling again whem my little one is 9mths so there at 18mths apart. It's all up to you and when you want to have another baby. My mum fell with me when my sister was only 4mths old.

Amanda - posted on 07/24/2009

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there is 22 month between my first 2 i was very busy but loved every minute off it, the bond beetween them is fantastic.

Ievy - posted on 07/23/2009

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our son was 9 monthz olde when i got pregnant with our daughter. at first i was scared to death about having a toddler around a newborn. my fearz could not be further from the truth. right at the start we included him in everything, showing him my belly and talking to him about the upcoming change in the house and new baby sister he was to have. after she was born he was slightly jealous, but all children go through it at some point, because it went away fast. as they grew together he learned that she is smaller than him and to be more cautious. and now with him at 2 yearz and her at 1 year, itz like they were born together! playing and laughing and learning with each other, itz the best thing in the world.

Katie - posted on 07/18/2009

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there is 11months between my boys and im only 21! but honestly i can say its very hard work bt i woodnt change it 4 the world.

Tara - posted on 07/17/2009

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Well if your worried about getting pregnant now when your baby is 1, imagine finding out you are pregnant with another one when your baby is only 3 months old. That was a very big shock. Iam due in 2 weeks, my baby girl just turned 1 a couple of weeks ago. But research into friends and associates has who have grown up with siblings only a year or so apart have given me a reasurance that these children will be the best of friends as they grow up so close in age. Not only that but they will keep each other entertained. Have to look for the good in this situation, I know its going to be hard work for a while, but it will be worth it.

Maria - posted on 07/16/2009

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I was planning on trying to get pregnant in the later summer months after Thomas turned 1 in June, but I found out in April that I was pregnant (quite by suprise!). I then found out on the day before Thomas' first birthday that I was going to have twins!! They will be 18 months apart from Thomas. I am nervous, but excited. I struggled at first with feeling guilty for wanting another baby when I already had Thomas and I don't want to cheat him of anything or my attention. But now I think he'll have two siblings to play with when they are older.

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I got pregnant with my second child when when my frist was 20 months. it wasen't to bad but I got prego again with my thrird when she was 2 months and now they are 11 months apart it is hard but you do it if you have too right. moms always find a way.

Tawny - posted on 07/15/2009

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I am 33 weeks prego with my second and my son is 13months old. It may be hard at times, at least during the pregnancy to chase after a newly mobile muchkin while dealing with the aches and pains of pregnancy but from what I heard, it pays off in the long run. They will have so much fun being close together and now my lil girl will have a big brother to look after her all the time and I love that!

Tammy - posted on 07/15/2009

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My first two girls are 15 months apart and my baby is 14 months behind my second daughter. It is work, but it is worth it. My three girls are very close and do not remember not having each other. It is not too soon. My girls are now 3, 2, and 1, and life is good (and interesting).

Pam - posted on 07/14/2009

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It will be a lot of work, but worth it! You older one will share more with others, and the new one may mature faster watching the older one! Good Luck!

Amy - posted on 07/14/2009

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I am looking forward to seeing my daughter with her little sister (due in Nov) She will be 17 months old. My mom and aunt were 14 months apart and they were the best of friends and sooo close. I wanted my daughter to have that! (I have a brother 4 years younger - we were close but not that close)

Jennifer - posted on 07/14/2009

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I think this would be a decent time to think about another one. The only time it would be a little much is if your child is 3 months old and you get pregnant again. That would be a little too quick

Kate - posted on 07/13/2009

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No I dont reckon. My boy turned 1 last month and we are starting to try for number 2 in the next couple of months, for us close to 2 years is a good difference between kiddies. You gotta do whats right for you not everyone else!

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My second one was planned and she was born 15 months after my first one, we started trying when my first was 4.5 months about. its totally a personal thing and what you are comfortable with.

Gillian - posted on 07/11/2009

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Its certainly not bad but there are some health implications you might want to think about, having a baby takes alot of nutriants away from your body eg calcium for bones and stuff which is why many of the older generation suffer bad bones and teeth due to the circle of children they had. Also just think of the speical time you have with your child now 1 on 1 you will never have that again! I would wait 2 and half years would be also so much easier

Lindsie - posted on 07/11/2009

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I DONT THINK IT IS!!! I AM ABOUT 6 WEEKS PREGNANT WITH MY SECOND ONE AND MY SON JUST TURNED ONE ON THE 25TH!!

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My boys are 16 months apart. I don't regret it at all. The first 6 months or so were a bit of a challenge, but it gets easier. My youngest is now 1 and he and my older son play together reasonably well. Just as my second baby turned one, a lot of my friends are just having their second baby and I can't help but feel relieved that mine is turning 1, not just being born. All that hard work is behind us... and now we can start thinking about number 3!

Danielle - posted on 07/09/2009

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Not at all my daughter just turned one and Im pregnant with baby number two. I think its great to keep them close.

Kristi - posted on 07/09/2009

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Definitely not!!! My oldest two kids are 16 months apart. It was wonderful having them so close together. They have always had each other, (and then their sister who came 2 1/2 years later). They are now 17 and 16 and it has been wonderful. They are all so close, I wouldn't have done it any other way. =)

Brenda - posted on 07/09/2009

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I say do what you feel is best for your family. My oldest is 8 then I have a almost 13 month old and a 2 month old. So my kids are very close it is tough at times but your little one would be 2 or almost at least

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I got pregnant with my son just two weeks after my daughter turned 1. I think it Hannah accepted the baby better than most because she was so young, However they are now 13 months & 2y 9mo this is where the problem is. Prob 1 Potty training the first was very hard as most of your time is consumed with your infant. Prob 2 baby no 1 still wants to be carried all the time, & its almost impossible while carting around a infant carrier.
I strongly suggest buying a baby sash, it worked wonders for me!!

Sarah - posted on 07/09/2009

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It's not a bad thing at all! :) My first 2 are 16 months apart, now they are 8 and almost 7 and they would be lost without each other! They are always looking out for each other and I know for a fact that at school they are always watching over each other on the playground! So cute :) Now my 4th and 5th will be 17 months apart and I am so excited! :)

Sarah - posted on 07/09/2009

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It's not a bad thing at all! :) My first 2 are 16 months apart, now they are 8 and almost 7 and they would be lost without each other! They are always looking out for each other and I know for a fact that at school they are always watching over each other on the playground! So cute :) Now my 4th and 5th will be 17 months apart and I am so excited! :)

Tarah - posted on 07/08/2009

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My kids are 1 and 2 (year apart) and the best friends ever! They hold hands and share everything...my boy (2) is always feeding my girl (1) so gotta keep an eye on them. They share a room now too and have the same schedule with naps and bedtime. It's the best decision i have ever made having the two kids so close because they really watch out for each other when playing, makes the days much funner!

Heather - posted on 07/08/2009

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My brother and I are 18 mths apart and we are best friends. I also puposfully planned my second pregnancy when my daughter turned 1. My little ones are 22 mths apart and are best friends already. We are currently talking about #3 and I am ready and willing to do it NOW! LOL!! But once again, it is your choice, your body and your life and only you can make that decision.

Caroline - posted on 07/08/2009

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My eldest 2 are only 11months between them. It is hard for the first 6 months or so but then it gets a lot easier. My girls are really close so I am glad I did it that way. They entertain each other so I don't have to!!

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I have four brothers. One is 19, 8, 7 and 6. The eldest of my younger brothers is only 11 months younger than me. I am closer to him than I am to my other brothers. We grew up playing together and were into the same trends at the same time! My husband also has a brother that is 12 months younger than him and they are closer than they are with their other siblings. I am 22 weeks pregnant with my second baby. My daughter is 13 months old so there will only be a 17 month age gap. My husband and I planned this second pregnancy when our daughter was so young because of the positive experiences we had growing up with close age gaps with our siblings. Good Luck

Amber - posted on 07/08/2009

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No way!! My girls are 18 months apart (2&1/2 and just turned 1) and it is great! They keep each other company and are just starting to play together really well (they love having tea parties). It's a lot of work but I wouldn't have it any other way. My 2 sisters and I are 13 & 18 months apart and we are now the best of friends-it's awesome and I am excited for my girls to grow up so close!

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