Is it normal that my one year old bangs her head on everything when throwing a fit?

Shannon - posted on 04/01/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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I know it sounds funny when explaining it to people, but to actually see her initially ran into things and bang her head on the floor, doors, cabinets, and anything around her is very disturbing because she does it so hard she is making bruises . I have noticed that if I stand aside she will only do it a couple of times, but if try and calm her down or she sees me watching her she does it more. Anyone have any advice on what I should do?

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Glady Mae - posted on 04/04/2010

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right! the more you pay attention, the more it is done repeatedly. just make her understand what she does will hurt her, so it's not good for her. if she does it more, let her be. she'll just grow tired of it and stop.

Rachelle - posted on 04/01/2010

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My son did the same thing. If you walk away and ignore her she will stop. I did ask my doctor if it was normal and he told me it was just a phase. My son started banging his head at 12 months and he stopped at 14 months when I started ignoring him. If she hits her head to the point where she is really hurting herself then I would just check it out with your doctor at your 2 year check up.

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Beatric - posted on 04/17/2014

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My daughter spanks her and yell at her not to bang her head is that ok I don't like it

Moleboheng - posted on 04/14/2010

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My daughter is turning 2 in june and always got her way by benging her head against the wall or nven on the flow,i took her to the doctor and he told me to let her be...now when she does it i just look away and she eventuslly just stare at the walls till she fall asleep.

Jessica - posted on 04/14/2010

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My daughter is 22 months an she has done this to get attention. I got upset at first but i just tried to ignore her, and eventualy she stopped.

Kerry - posted on 04/14/2010

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i have a son who does exactly the same he will be 2 in june and i also find if i leave him to it, the tantrums dont last half as long as when i try to stop it, i think they will just grow out of it over time, and i think it is a communication problem as he is not able to fully express his feelings and what he wants by talking.. hope this helps.

Amanda - posted on 04/13/2010

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my son does it all the time but he thinks its funny. he doesnt do it when he's throwing a fit he just hit everything when you say no. wut i do when he hits his head i say "did it hurt? it's only going to hurt you not me". now he doesn't do it as often which is great. because just like you it's hard to watch your kid hit themselfs.

Teresa - posted on 04/13/2010

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My 21 month old twins bang their heads also. My daughter usually wants to bang her head ON her twin brother - like she's head-butting him. He thinks that is very funny.
My son doesn't head-butt his sister, but he does sometimes bang his head on the floor when throwing a tantrum.
In both cases I ignore it and so far it doesn't continue.

Terri - posted on 04/13/2010

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My son would bang his head when he was mad or frustrated. I tried to act like I didn't notice and he seemed to do it less. He is now 22 months old and I forgot all about it until I saw your question. He no longer does it. Thank God

Melissa - posted on 04/07/2010

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my daughter does it too
i tell her your not hurting me your hurting yourself
& i also tell her when she does it that if you gonna do it do it good which makes her mad & aslo i just dont pay her any attintion when she does it sometimes

Adora - posted on 04/07/2010

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its very normal. my son did that.. but i must say that the funniest time was when i was with my husband and his gunny at an office and my son was playing on the floor with some toys and layed down on his tummy and just started to wail his head on the ground, my husbands gunny laughed for like 30 min straight,, he said all 5 of his kids did that but not as hard or funny. and i know that me and my 2 sisters did the same thing when we were babys..

Karmina Tosca - posted on 04/06/2010

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My son does the same thing. He slumps himself in the floor and bangs his head. I learned to ignore this action. However, i can't help but think if ignoring is the right thing to do. Our floor's made of marble and i'm afraid it might cause head injury on his part.

Clare - posted on 04/06/2010

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My daughter does that. Luckily she'll try and aim for a chair or the couch. She has hit it on the floor a few times. I just let her do it. I'll ignore her and keep doing what I was doing. She does the samething yours does....if you pay attention to her she does it more. So we've learned not to do that.

Sarah - posted on 04/06/2010

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Yeah, I hear that a lot of kids this age do it. I have 21 month old twins and 1 does it but the other one does not.

Tonya - posted on 04/06/2010

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My little monster bangs his head also - but on selective surfaces. He has learned to move off of the wood floor and onto the carpet. I thought I was going to have to take him for psychological testing! I am glad to know I am not the only one going through this phase.

Lauren - posted on 04/05/2010

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My daughter will be two in June also. She started doing the same thing around 15 months. The more I ignored the less she did it. She also hurt herself pretty good a few times and that helped her get over it too.

Susan - posted on 04/05/2010

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my son will be two on june 25th and only does it when he is mad,his older brother who has autism did it all the time even when not mad, so i think it is an attention getter with my almost two tear old

Shannon - posted on 04/04/2010

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Thank you for all of your advice. It does help to know that I am not the only one going through this.

Shannon - posted on 04/03/2010

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I have found that in the last couple of days if I leave her to finish her fit, and walk into the other room she will follow me and get my attention by biting and scratching. I am starting to believe I have a little monster on my hands, as my other two children never did this! She will also turn two in June.

Kel - posted on 04/02/2010

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my sons both did it at about 1and half my youngest wil turn 2 in june and does it now when he cant get his way he wil just sit and drop backwards hittin his head i leave him and he stops

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