letting ur baby cry themself to sleep

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Susan = Richard - posted on 09/23/2011

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I have found that when they cry themselves to a fit having natural water in a spray mist to keep them from getting to hot is important also getting there back and legs and the top of there head with it is important along with the back of there little neck don't use tap water try to find good water even if you have to get it from the store for this. I also have found a bath before bed if they are screaming will make them feel better but remember they will continue crying when you are dune because allot of this is exactly what babies are supposed to do just make sure they are comfortable and burped also hope this helped someone love is easy you just have to be patient and never hit your baby for crying ever!

Dana - posted on 08/12/2009

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why is it when one states a valid opposing argument, they are told they are petty, delusional, and attacking someone else??? there are two sides to every coin. i never said i think cio is wrong, i said letting a child cry until they throw up is wrong. i don't believe in cio, but if it is going to be done, it should at least be done the way it is recommended by thge experts.

Jennifer - posted on 08/11/2009

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Both my children have been just placed in their beds and cried till they fell asleep. The crying lasted two or three days at the most .My daughter is now almost 5 and my son is 2 , they are both happy and healthy. Attacking Brittany is immature . You have different parenting styles. You have different ways to raise your children, no one is saying who is wrong or who is right but leave the personal stuff out of fit. This is a place for advice, and by the way letting a baby cry when there is no reason for them to cry other then not wanting to go to sleep is a temper tantrum no matter how old they are they just don't want to miss anything.

Brittany - posted on 08/11/2009

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Excuse me, but doesn't your child sleep in the bed with you?! I was under the impression that the mom who asked about her child, lets her baby sleep in a crib. Like I do with my child. So who are to give your delussional advice to someone, who you nothing about what there going through?! Take this advise and back the hell off!!!! You think what your doing is right and I think its wrong! You think what I'm doing is wrong and its right for me!! I don't think its right for you to comment on a forum for which you can give no solid GOOD advise!!! Your how old? 30 something? Act your age! Your pettiness is not becoming of you!

Dana - posted on 08/11/2009

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Quoting brittany:

so I've read everyone's advice on here, even the few squabbles, and my advice is based on my daughter alone. So if you don't approve sorry. I would lay Ava down everynight following the same routine. Giving her a bath, reading to her, cuddling with her, giving her a small snack and bottle. Then I would lay her down. She ALWAYS cried!!!! It was never longer than ten minutes, and I always waited right outside her door till she fell asleep. Then I would walk in, make sure she was still covered up and that was that. It was her routine. Now that she's 13 months, she will just lay down and go right to sleep. Do I feel guilty for letting her cry for ten minutes or less? HELL NO!!!! babies do cry for no reason at all!! -NOT TRUE, there is ALWAYS a reason- My doctor said it was good to let her cry so thats what I do. -and my doctor says it isn't-what's your point? every doctor has their own opinion, i would hope you would have enough sense to NOT believe everything you are told!- If her diaper is dry, tummy full, and she is in no pain or whatever, then I will let her cry. Its normal!! She's healthy, beautiful, smart, funny, all around wonderful. I don't think its fair for these moms to say its wrong to let your child cry. GROW UP!!!! Obviously you have LOADS OF TIME on your hands to sit and console your most liskely spolied little babies when they shed a tear! -umm, actually my job as a mom is to care for my daughter, when she cries, i respond-she is FAR from spoiled, thanks.- And later in life their crying will work to an advantage for them. I have yet to see a baby who willingly goes to bed without a fuss!! Its a fact of life, babies, toddlers, children, teenagers,ect. They don't really like bedtime! -that's funny, because my daughter LOVES bedtime. in fact, the only time she really cried at bedtime was when she was younger than 3 months (CIO is never supposed to be used before 6 months)-she never cries at bedtime.- And are we supposed to stay up till all hours of the night waiting for them to just crash from exhaustion, instead of them shedding a few lil' tears? Seriously?! I'm not a doctor, so don't take what I say as the right way to do things, but for us it has worked out. There isn't a single person who has been to my home, or watched Ava that doesn't say how wonderful she is. -that's also funny because i hear the SAME things about my daughter who i DON'T let cry.- So I must be doing something right! -heh, me too... go figure?!?- I will say that some of you need a good dose of common sense!! I bet your mothers let you cry it out and you ALL seem to be able to go through life just fine! I'm pretty sure no damage will be done to any child left to cry in their bed at bedtime!! -i think you should research things before you open your mouth, there are PLENTY of studies that show negative affects on babies that have been left to cry alone for extended periods of time (i'm not talking about the parents who let their kids cry for small amounts of time at). and just because someone else has done it and their children are fine, DOESN'T MEAN THAT IT'S OKAY!?! that is why we research things-to find BETTER and more up-to-date information about the things we do. my mom never used a car seat with me, does that mean it's okay and should be done today??? no, because research has PROVEN that is not safe -




i think you should also re-read what i wrote. it was directed towards the parents who let their kids cry for so long that they end up vomitting!

Brittany - posted on 08/10/2009

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so I've read everyone's advice on here, even the few squabbles, and my advice is based on my daughter alone. So if you don't approve sorry. I would lay Ava down everynight following the same routine. Giving her a bath, reading to her, cuddling with her, giving her a small snack and bottle. Then I would lay her down. She ALWAYS cried!!!! It was never longer than ten minutes, and I always waited right outside her door till she fell asleep. Then I would walk in, make sure she was still covered up and that was that. It was her routine. Now that she's 13 months, she will just lay down and go right to sleep. Do I feel guilty for letting her cry for ten minutes or less? HELL NO!!!! babies do cry for no reason at all!! My doctor said it was good to let her cry so thats what I do. If her diaper is dry, tummy full, and she is in no pain or whatever, then I will let her cry. Its normal!! She's healthy, beautiful, smart, funny, all around wonderful. I don't think its fair for these moms to say its wrong to let your child cry. GROW UP!!!! Obviously you have LOADS OF TIME on your hands to sit and console your most liskely spolied little babies when they shed a tear! And later in life their crying will work to an advantage for them. I have yet to see a baby who willingly goes to bed without a fuss!! Its a fact of life, babies, toddlers, children, teenagers,ect. They don't really like bedtime! And are we supposed to stay up till all hours of the night waiting for them to just crash from exhaustion, instead of them shedding a few lil' tears? Seriously?! I'm not a doctor, so don't take what I say as the right way to do things, but for us it has worked out. There isn't a single person who has been to my home, or watched Ava that doesn't say how wonderful she is. So I must be doing something right! I will say that some of you need a good dose of common sense!! I bet your mothers let you cry it out and you ALL seem to be able to go through life just fine! I'm pretty sure no damage will be done to any child left to cry in their bed at bedtime!!

Dana - posted on 08/08/2009

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Quoting Melissa:



Quoting Dana:

i can't believe how long some of you let your children cry for??? even cry it out books say to go in every 10 minutes! wow! maybe you should put yourselves in your child's shoes...how would you like to be ignored and left to cry with no other way to communicate your needs (guess that doesn't matter because no one's listening anyway) ?





This could be dangerous advice.  Sometimes people need to walk away from their screaming child especially at the end of the day.  Better for a child to suffer some mental issues, like the rest of us, rather than suffer physically from a stressed out parent who might snap.






umm, maybe some people shouldn't have kids then. obviously, if it is to the  point where the parent is going to snap, yeah it's better to walk away. but seriously, think about the child a little more, have some compassion for cripes sake!

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Quoting Dana:

i can't believe how long some of you let your children cry for??? even cry it out books say to go in every 10 minutes! wow! maybe you should put yourselves in your child's shoes...how would you like to be ignored and left to cry with no other way to communicate your needs (guess that doesn't matter because no one's listening anyway) ?


This could be dangerous advice.  Sometimes people need to walk away from their screaming child especially at the end of the day.  Better for a child to suffer some mental issues, like the rest of us, rather than suffer physically from a stressed out parent who might snap.

Dana - posted on 08/07/2009

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i can't believe how long some of you let your children cry for??? even cry it out books say to go in every 10 minutes! wow! maybe you should put yourselves in your child's shoes...how would you like to be ignored and left to cry with no other way to communicate your needs (guess that doesn't matter because no one's listening anyway) ?

Dana - posted on 08/07/2009

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Quoting Kaleena:

Thanks! I did the crying method...i put her to sleep (bath,brush teeth,pj's,bottle)then i read 2 books with her and then lay her in her bed w/ country music lightly on and snuggle her in her crib with her blanket and babies and glow worm and it took a long time for her to get use to this but now she puts herself to sleep every night! (she did throw up a couple of times but i cleaned her up and re-dressed her and put her right back and tucked her in again) she stopped the throwing up thing cause she figured that wasnt working for her! She likes her crib again and i feel like i did a good job after all! Thank you everyone for your help!



maybe when you're older and less competent, she'll have the pleasure of doing the same to you. she must have been really upset! now she knows she can't count on you, great job! (i hope you sense my sarcasm)

Rebecca - posted on 08/05/2009

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I have also had to break the habit of rocking recently (because my baby is getting too heavy for one reason!) and in turn if she stirrs during the night now she will go back off no problem

Amanda - posted on 08/05/2009

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up until 4 days ago, we were rocking my baby to sleep after her bottle at night. She slept very lightly every night & was always "travelling" aroiund the crib bonking her head & what not while sleeping. Then we decided the 2 hour bedtime routine was finally getting old, so we plunked her in her crib after her bottle one day... gave her a teddy & read her a story, laid her down (of course she gets right back up) said good night, kisses & turned off the light & left. We knew she was fine & dandy, no diaper, full, all of it. The first night broke our hearts. 45 min of crying, but then she was asleep. Ever since that night, it has been taking less & less time for her to stop crying (usually within 2 min now) and she is having a more sound sleep. She hasn't got up in the middle of the night since & hasn't travelled nearly as much while sleeping.

Kristal - posted on 08/05/2009

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I've created a bad habit with my 13 month & i held her until she fell asleep EVERY nap & before bed...finally 2 weeks ago i had enough. So i put her in her crib, she was changed, & fed...so i knew she was okay that way...she just cried herself to sleep about 15 minutes. 2 weeks later & she takes naps and goes to bed on her own EVERY day. sometimes it takes up to 45 minutes for her to fall asleep, but she does it. i put a teddy bear or 2 in there so she can play before she sleeps to help her occupy herself. She'll still wake up sometimes during the night but within 10 minutes she's back asleep! try it out...it won't hurt to try!

Khristina - posted on 07/29/2009

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I'm having the same problem. I will put her to sleep in the living room either holding her or her sitting by herself, then bring her to her bed. Within an hour or two she is up crying. We've tried a couple of time letting her cry but she ALWAYS evens up throwing up. I even got alot of advice from this page...thanks to all.

Shelley - posted on 07/17/2009

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I couldn't just let my babies cry and cry. I have twins. I went w the method in The Baby Sleep Solution by Suzy Giordano. It's awesome. My son will throw up if he cries really hard, so we had to do something in the middle. Make sure you have a bedtime routine. When you put him/her down, leave the room. If they cry, wait 5 minutes before going back in. Help him/her to calm down and leave again. Do it in 5 minutes increments and try to extend them if you can. It's hard in the beginning, but after about a week, they'll only cry 5-10 minutes. They get used to it and learn that it's normal to go to sleep on their own. With two babies, there's no way I could let them cry for only two minutes! I'd never have any time for anything! My daughter is VERY stubborn and is generally pissed at bedtime every night. We've had the same routine for 6 months, and she still throws fits when we put her in there. They usually last no more than 10-15 minutes though. At this age, babies don't ONLY cry b/c they need us. They're smart and know how to get attention. It's ok to let your baby cry him/herself to sleep. And it's really good for you.

Kaleena - posted on 07/17/2009

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Thanks! I did the crying method...i put her to sleep (bath,brush teeth,pj's,bottle)then i read 2 books with her and then lay her in her bed w/ country music lightly on and snuggle her in her crib with her blanket and babies and glow worm and it took a long time for her to get use to this but now she puts herself to sleep every night! (she did throw up a couple of times but i cleaned her up and re-dressed her and put her right back and tucked her in again) she stopped the throwing up thing cause she figured that wasnt working for her! She likes her crib again and i feel like i did a good job after all! Thank you everyone for your help!

Jami - posted on 07/16/2009

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I will let my daughter cry for a little while, but never more than 10-12 minutes. If she cries longer than that I go in to her and rock her for a little while, then put her down and try again. She usually doesn't cry for more than 10 minutes. It also depends on the nature of her cry - if she's just fussing a little bit I will let her go. If she's crying hysterically I go in sooner.

Samantha - posted on 07/15/2009

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I have always been a fan of crying it out. It is good for a child's lungs to yell a little. My daughter does not yell for much throughout the day. I want her to know that when she makes a sound for me I'm listening. (Nothing bothers me more than a child saying Mom a thousand times because the mother has trained the kid to do so.) Early on I would only let her cry for a few minutes, then pick her up, hold her, let her know that I was there. Then we would repeat parts of the night routine. At this point (1yr old) she still has to fuss it out before she goes to sleep. I hear her in her room talking to her doggies before she if all the way out.

It works for us, but that is the important part. Do what works for you and your child. Don't go by books or others advice. They don't know your kid or your situation like you do. Just remember that if you do decide to cry it out, there is nothing wrong with that. Builds good lungs.

Angela - posted on 07/15/2009

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i have started to wean my daughter off the dummy and for the first few days it was hard. I let her cry it out and it took 15 minutes b4 she fell asleep. As each day passed, her cries ot less and less. Now, she starts to sook when she realises she is being put into bed but within 2 minutes she has stopped and is falling asleep. I was against crying it out when she was younger but she is now at the age where she understands a lot more and i am able to hear her cry without feeling too bad and upset. For us it was an easy transition. Good luck

Christina - posted on 07/14/2009

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my daughter cries for 5-10 minutes and she is out.. usually at nap time if she cries any longer i will get her and she is fine. i think its good for them to cry they need to learn to do things by themselves at some point so why not start now

Becky - posted on 07/13/2009

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Okay first you need to ask what is making my baby cry. If your like me you are the one who knows if you have to work cause of today's times I am sure you know who would know. Babies cry for many reasons changing diapers, hungry,thirsty,or needing comfort, such as a touch or to be held by mom or dad. Just so they feel safe. I know what doctors will say but this is my third baby and she is diferent from her brothers all babies are diferent, some need more security others do not. Love your child hold her calm her cause one day your baby will not want you to. This does help them know you are there always for them and forms a bond. My kids are 13, 11, and now a 1 year old love them be there when they need you and be together for years.

Samantha - posted on 07/13/2009

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Children don't cry for no reason, even colic is caused by something. Our babies need us the be there for them and I do not do it. I will admit I've let him cry for no longer than two minutes so I could breathe and relax, when I am relaxed it helps him relax.

My son is very independant still because he knows I am there for him when he needs me.

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I'm not a fan for my daughter, but to each her/his own...you have to figure out what works. Right now, I let her cry, but I stay with her and rub her back, etc. The one time that I let her cry, she was screaming so hard I thought she'd throw up...I feel more comfortable staying with her and comforting her, but I don't take her out of the crib, that way she learns that she does need to put herself to sleep. Hope that helps! I'm struggling in general with the same thing.

Erin - posted on 07/13/2009

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If we know they are changed and fed we will let her cry themselves to sleep. Especially once you do it a couple times they get used to the idea that putting themselves to sleep is something they have to do alone. Teaching them independence in a way. If it has gone on for a long time and hasn't improved or if she is really screaming I will go get her. I will often try to get a chore few chores done and keep an ear on them---that way I get stuff done and she has a chance to put herself down.

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