Looking for guidance..... I'm a young single mom

Mallory - posted on 01/22/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I'm just looking for guidance from some single moms who have experience. I am only 20 years old and I have a 7 month old baby boy. Just having trouble doing it on my own. I have lots of help from my parents and siblings but its just not the same. I dont have anyone to takes turns with. If anyone has any pointers I would really appreciate it.

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Sheena - posted on 01/25/2009

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Hey, I'm not a single mom but it sure feels like it! My husband is in the military so his days are very long and often gone for weeks for training. So I basically do everything for our child and it is extremely frustrating at times. When I get overwhelm I wait til she's sleeping and take a bubble bath to clear my head.

Sonya - posted on 01/25/2009

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not a single mom here, but can relate. My husband was oversees when i had my first girl, and was stuck with the trrop surge for an extra few months. she was almost 8mos when he came home and still so withdrawn from the warzone it took about another 6mos to get any help. Anyways. I asked for alot of help, had friends over to stay and have "girls night" indoors. I was close to family members also so they gave me some breaks..

Erin - posted on 01/25/2009

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Hey How ar e you doing?  I'm not a single mom , but My boyfriend does not help with the care of my baby girl who is also 7 months. I do EVERYTHING, I change her I feed her I bath her , just  take things one day at a time.  When you get stressed out take a moment to clear you head.  Ask your family to watch him for a couple of hours so you can have time for your self  or have time with friends.. that helps alot  with the stress of being a mom.

Angela - posted on 01/25/2009

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My daughter is 17 and a single mum. She being strong willed wanted to be independent and left home a few months ago. She's tired but doing a great job as I'm sure you are. I'm so proud of my daughter. James was born 1st June 08 and is such a happy baby boy. I work full time and wish I could be there for my daughter more throughout the day, but I gotta pay the mortgage lol. I have my grandson over night once a week and help out with an hour here and an hour there. I love them both so much but wish I saw more of them. I don't have any pointers for you other than; visit your friends/family and let them have time with your baby and give you a little break. If someone pops round to see you and baby and offers to wash your dishes or mind the baby...take them up on the offer! Don't be afraid to ask for help...you'd be surprised lots of people would be more than delighted to help out. Take care. Enjoy your baby.

Erin - posted on 01/23/2009

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Do you have any friends with babies? Because play dates are a life saver! and it's great for your son to be around other kids. When your parents or siblings offer to play with her or watch him for a little bit go take some time for yourself and relax and take your mind off of it. I like to write in a journal, it helps relieve some of the stress of my daily routines. Hope that helped! Good luck :)

Bethany - posted on 01/22/2009

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I got divorced while pregnant with my second. I had a little boy in Jan. 2004 and big brother had just turned 2. It was the hardest thing I've ever done. I'm so glad you have family to help you!! That is absolutley the best thing you can have as a single mom. I don't have any pointers, I don't think they're are any! just want to let you know that you're doing great! Being a single mom all the time with no breaks is exhausting, but those little ones sure do love you more for it. Take time for yourself, use your parents as a babysitter if even just for an hour. I loved taking the kids to my sisters house and just hanging out. That way I didn't have guilt about leaving the boys, but then I wasn't all alone, I still got help. Good luck, it does get better!

Sheena - posted on 01/22/2009

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Hi there! I'm also a single mother of a 7 month old baby girl born June 10 2008. It is very difficult doing it on my own but I also find it very rewarding. One thing that I find works well for me is everyday I ask someone to watch my baby for 30 minutes so I can go for a little walk by myself. You wouldn't believe how refreshed 30 minutes alone can make you feel. I know sometimes all you want to do is cry, and sometimes I do, but this experience has made me such a strong person. One day our children may be proud of us for doing it alone and that's all the thanks i'll ever need :)

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Hi there! I'm a single mum too, and I must say that I totally know how you feel, you are not alone, and it isnt any easier no matter what age you are :)! The only pointers I can say is ask for help (this is always a hard one for me), dont let it stop you from having and persuing your dreams, and enjoy the little things with your son, they grow so fast.



When was your son born? Mine was born June 26th'08 -he will be 7 months old on monday!

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