Mother-in-law trying to act like the mother instand of a grandparent!

Lisa - posted on 04/17/2009

Thank you!

Rebecca - posted on 04/17/2009

I had exactly the same problem, they even decorated their own nursery in their spare room, bought nappies, everything. It really does bother you. They think they know whats best and tell you to do things they done 20 - 30 years a go! I tried talking to them at first but it carried on. One day I flipped and started screaming at them and told them to get out of my house! but after we started talking to them again. I wrote a letter explaining how i felt, and that really worked and we've had no probs since.

DaBreon - posted on 04/16/2009

Quoting Lisa:

What a beautiful little girl!

;-)
Thanks... your little girl is too cute with those pretty eyes!!!

DaBreon - posted on 04/16/2009

Quoting Lisa:

What a beautiful little girl!

;-)
Thanks... your little girl is too cute with those pretty eyes!!!

Lisa - posted on 04/16/2009

What a beautiful little girl!

DaBreon - posted on 04/15/2009

Quoting Kristen:

i understand a where u r cmg from...my husband is the only child...and its hard...all mother in laws can be intrusive and think they know it all...xcpet our own mothers..lol
u dnt want to rock the boat and u dnt want to make a big deal either...my suggestion would be to just yes her to death,,,
its not anything where u have to wry about it right now...
let her talk about ur daughters bday and say thats a good idea and then just do what u want...and def give her somthin to do to make her feel involved..
unfortunately this is the rest of ur life and u have to find a way to deal with it without rocking the boat...
dnt let her step mall over u...try to meet in the middle..
have u spoken to ur husband about how u feel??
and the textin is not normal...that would piss me off too...

Thank you Kristen, for the feedback on both of my problems. :-)

Kristen - posted on 04/15/2009

i understand a where u r cmg from...my husband is the only child...and its hard...all mother in laws can be intrusive and think they know it all...xcpet our own mothers..lol

u dnt want to rock the boat and u dnt want to make a big deal either...my suggestion would be to just yes her to death,,,

its not anything where u have to wry about it right now...

let her talk about ur daughters bday and say thats a good idea and then just do what u want...and def give her somthin to do to make her feel involved..

unfortunately this is the rest of ur life and u have to find a way to deal with it without rocking the boat...

dnt let her step mall over u...try to meet in the middle..

have u spoken to ur husband about how u feel??

and the textin is not normal...that would piss me off too...

Lisa - posted on 04/15/2009

Be grateful that you have a Grandma to love your daughter. She will never take away from you being the Mommy. Grandmas are just as important in different ways. Don't be threatened. Set fair boundries and be grateful! Good Luck!

Kylie - posted on 04/15/2009

Hi there,

                Maybe you could organise to sit down with both your mother-in-law and husband and just explain to them both in a calm non-critical way that your glad she has input in your daughters life and your thankful for all her help but this is you and your husbands time to be parents and you need to experience things together as a family to learn and grow and that you'd appreciate if she let you do that. Maybe you could let her be in charge of a small thing for your daughters party like organising the food or decorations or something so she feels wanted but not taking over everything. And I guess if all else fails just be firm and tell her straight that you want her to back off a bit.