My 8 month old is teething and she is up all night long! How much is it okay to let her cry?

Laura - posted on 02/16/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My 8 month old has been so miserable for the last week. She is teething and it seems like she cries all night. I have tried all of the traditional remedies and tylenol, but it does not seem to help. I pick her up several times through the night and rub her back, sing, and rock her. She falls asleep right away but I lay her down and right away she will cry non stop. A few time I have let her cry because I am simply exhausted. I am worried that this will damage her. Am I doing the right thing? What can I do to help her?

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Gemma - posted on 03/03/2009

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Here in the UK we have Homeopathic powders called Ashton & Parsons. These work great. My Luis has been teething but no teeth yet. Baby Neuofen helps too when he is really screamy and in pain.

At 6.5 months I wanted to wean my son off his night time milk in the middle of the night as he wasn't hungry but was wanting to feed out of habit and kept waking earlier and earlier for it and wanting to comfort feed more than once again. I tried the leaving to cry method for a couple of nights and it worked. I let him cry for 5 mins and then went in and offered water, then left for 10 mins etc and extended it each time by 5 mins. After a couple of nights of this he stopped waking for a bottle and pretty much sleeps through except for stirring the odd time for a drink of water when he coughed.

It's really hard as what works for one baby doesn't always work for another. It could be teeth as well as wanting comforting.
Babies are very clever and I tried early on to get him out of the habit of expecting to be picked up all the time when he yells. He soon gets bored and starts playing!

Try not to feel bad, a lot of mothers let them cry a bit and I'm sure they wont remember what an evil mother you are! xx

Laura - posted on 03/02/2009

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thanks so much to everyone who responded. I am starting to think it is seperation anxiety and not teething. She falls asleep in my arms because she is so tired, but the minute I lay her down she will cry and cry. It is heartbreaking. I am going to start letting her cry more because now she expects me to come and pick her up and she won't even take a nap. She ends up being tired and grumpy, what a nightmare!!

Kelly - posted on 03/02/2009

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what country are u from? Im Australian and i havent heard of those things either lol...Bonjella and Panadol! work wonders for my little girl. I also found a little mesh bag with a plastic handle on it from Munchkin at Target which i put frozen grapes and other frozen fruits to help numb her gums.... hope u get some ideas. i also got into the habit of picking her up and rocking her to sleep but its come back to bite me on the bum! she's been expecting it every night now so we've started putting her to bed with her teddy and dummy put her musical mobile on and let her go while checking on her every 5-10 minutes so now it only take about 2-4 minutes of sooking before she goes to sleep. hope this helps xx

Julia - posted on 03/02/2009

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I prefer motrin over tylenol as well. I also rub some oragel on her gums at night before bed only. I think that when they don't have anything else to distract them that they think about the pain, and with their head being down might make it worse. Don't go overboard with the oragel because I've heard it can make the gums tough and harder for the teeth to come through. I've read that you can use teething tabs, but I'm afraid to try anything like that without consulting the pediatrician. I've also given my daughter a teething ring before bed. Good luck. Poor little girl!!!

Meghan - posted on 02/16/2009

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I had the same thing. My doctor told me to try to rub some Benadryl on his gums at night and then I would give him some Motrin (that seemed to help better than Tylenol). It was tough but we got through it. We would let him cry for 2 minutes then go in and rub his back, then 5 minutes then 10 and so on with a max of about 10-15 minutes. That way he knew we were there for him but he wasn't going to get picked up. I promise it doesn't last to long, it also helps if you give them a pacifier. We did end up letting him come to bed with us when he was in a lot of pain when the teeth first started coming in, that helped all of us get some sleep.

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Laura - posted on 03/02/2009

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Thanks for the advice but I have no idea what any of those things  (are) that you mentioned? LOL!! Sorry, we must be in different countries. :-)

Monica - posted on 02/16/2009

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Hi! This is going to sound real funny, but try giving her a piece of biltong to chew on! The salt and the chewing combined really helps numb the pain. Believe me, this works. My little guy started very early in the teething department, he had his first tooth at 4 and a half months! He already has six now. I give him biltong to chew on, then at night i rub his gums with Prodol, and on very difficult nights i give him Tenston, but only 1ml.

Rebecca - posted on 02/16/2009

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I have to second the Motrin, it works so much better for our little guy, we also let him feed more when he is teething even if it is only a few ounces he will do it just for comfort.  Good luck, it is hard to get through and you will not damage your little one if you let them CIO.

Stacey - posted on 02/16/2009

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I think you have to do what works for you and your family. My friends have all suggested we try Hyland's Teething Tablets when our daughter's gums and teeth begin to bother her. I don't know if these are available outside of Canada but they have all natural ingredients and are quite popular here.

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