My child wont sit in a shopping cart? Help?

Jenni - posted on 03/23/2012

Why does she have to sit in the cart? Our 3 yo never sits in the cart and hasn't for quiet awhile. I have taught her very well and she listens to me, we work together to shop, and she respects me. She is so sweet. The germs alone make me cringe, so it's better that she doesn't even touch the cart. And it gives her a sense of self-control, teaches responsibility on how to act in a store, how to listen to me, and she can see and talk to others. She sings songs about loving everyone in her whole heart as we walk though the store. She is so sweet. She is my 4th child and each one has the same respect. We teach it very early and take time with each child....treating them like people.

Christna - posted on 03/21/2012

My son is 2.5 and we do let him walk around the store sometimes but when he get to far or wont listen then we put him in the cart with a snack and drink and he still screams!! I told my husband that he needs to learn, but he takes him to the car..he wont learn that way...he is the youngest of 4 kids, andhe tells me no! all the time.. i have started the time out thing with him but he dont get it yet

Rebecca - posted on 02/19/2010

We let our son help us shop by pushing the cart and pointing out the things we need, He is 22 mo old, and this typically works-- we just need to hold him while we check out.

Alison - posted on 02/19/2010

I let them walk sometimes, if he isn't listening he gets belted into the cart. I just plan on spending twice as long in the store if I have the little one with me than if I am going alone.

Hannah - posted on 02/19/2010

The backpack leash is AWESOME! Keeps your child safe yet give them "independence" , Give her a choice, either be good and stay with me or the cart. But as embarressing as it may be you have to stand your ground, a 2 year old fussing is one thing, but an older child screaming to get his or her way is much harder to handle! I dont agree with buying a child something when you go to the store to pacify them, I made that mistake and it is taking me a long time to unteach the expectation that my daughter now has that she will get something every time we shop.

Daina - posted on 02/18/2010

i know exactly how you feel! my son is the same way! its so embarrassing even more now that im like 7 mo preggo people look at me like why the heck are you having another when you cant parent the one you have. the worst part is when people tell you your not doing things right.... but thats when i just tell them well im sorry this is my child i am trying my best and walk away from them. we finally got to the point that we just got our son a little baby backpack leash (i said i never would but i think its a must have now) so that way you can let her walk and do her thing as well as get the stuff you need done! but really i guess it could be about the age too both my neice and nephew hated being in the cart from 2 on..... but i dont know maybe....

Brittany - posted on 02/18/2010

try to let her walk holding on to the basket or your hand...but if you want her in the cart...just do it...shell get over it after a few min...my son always does...you have to be persistant...and the boss...if you want her in the cart and you tell her shes going in there you have to put her there reguardless of the fit b/c if she knows that if she throws a fit in the store shell get her way shell keep doing it

Marla - posted on 02/18/2010

I had a wonderful time shopping until my daughter got to walk instead of ride in the cart one day. Yes, just once. After that it was a potential temper tantrum every time we entered a store! So I made the rule that she either rides in the cart or helps me push. She loved that, thought it was the greatest thing ever. Now that she has a little sister who rides in the little seat she is sometimes upset that she can't push (or risk getting kicked in the head) so she'll ride in the basket or if her daddy is with us she can hold one of our hands. Some places (around here its Kroger and Meijer) have those huge carts with a race car-looking attachment and since they have 2 seats and 2 steering wheels she is in love with those. If you really want yours to ride, being strict and firm on the matter is good, softened once you get her in with a sucker or toy (we keep some little toys in the diaper bag for such occasions). Hope that helped some.

Jade - posted on 02/18/2010

hi there you can get special shopping trolly blankets to put in the trolly seat and it has tons of pully, noisy toys i saw it on amazon you should also encourage her to help with the shopping, picking things up and putting it in the trolly, x

Allie - posted on 02/17/2010

We made the same mistake! Luckily she doesnt run off from the cart she wants to help push it. Her pushing the cart doesn't bother me so I just let her help as long as she keeps a hold of the cart or my hand. Sorry if thats not much help!

Jennifer - posted on 02/15/2010

With my daughter it was my mom that lets her walk around the store but I recently moved away from my mom, and came up with a really good idea that works for us. I took a cheap photo album I paid a dollar for it. then I printed pictures of everyone and everything she loves. She will stare at her cats picture for half the trip.

Andrea - posted on 02/15/2010

Maybe try giving her her favorite snack and a drink. My daughter munches through the whole store! I also bring a few of her favorite little toys to give to her after she is done munching. Or I just buy something new, but small. Shes good till time to go home!