my lil one brooke is 3 and i hav a number of people tellin me 2 put her in daycare but im not sure if im ready 4 that but i think she is, should i do it?
Kathleen - posted on 03/15/2010
My daughter was in daycare for a short amount of time, I would love to get her back into it for the interaction with the kids, but because of Money issues we are unable to get her in. But when she was in it, she loved it when I wasn't around. It was hard to get her to not cry when I would leave, but she has gotten better with that in general now.
Crystal - posted on 03/15/2010
That decision is really up to you. BUT if she will probably like it, it might be a good idea to put her in for a few hours a week - maybe 2 mornings or afternoons. Daycare is a really good experience for kids. They get to interact with other kids. My son is not in daycare yet but i will be putting him in for a few hours a week when he is 2 1/2. That way he can get ready for kindy 20 hours a week at 3 and school at 5. Personally I dont want to put my son in daycare either, but he is so social and the playgroups are not enough for him. It is important in my opinion that they go to Kindy/Preschool for at least a year before they start school, as it gets them ready for a school environment. But that is still a few years away. Again it really is upto you what you do as it is your child and noone knows yours better than you :) Every child and every parent is different.
Brandi - posted on 03/10/2010
I was nervous when my oldest first went off to daycare. I couldn't even speak her name the first few days without tearing up. It was hard, but she looked forward to it everyday and by 3 she stared preschool. It did wonders for her. Right before she was accepted to the preschool I was at the Dr. with her trying to do a preliminary check to see if she may possibly have had ADHD. The verdict was no and then the preschool called and everything turned around. They see a side to her that I never get to and to be honest, I'm kinda jealous. I'd say, try it out for a while...see how you BOTH adjust.
I say NOBODY knows what you "should" do for and with your children but you. Go with your gut.
Aiyana - posted on 03/10/2010
Well it depends. Are you a working mom? Or a stay at home mom?
If you are a stay at home mom why would you want to miss a moment of her life! I know I don't won't someone else to share in those little moments and I was not there!
I love being at home with my kids. I share special moments with all of them including my 3yr old girl, Maryn. This is such a great age they learn something new everyday!
Jayna - posted on 03/09/2010
I say it is all up to you, but by that age, you should maybe be looking into a pre-school more than daycare. I have a friend who has a daycare, and as WONDERFUL as she is with her kids, she doesn't have the time to organize as many activities for her older kids as she'd like to. Here in BC our pre-school programs start at 3, so that means the kids can be going to an organized class type setting a couple times a week for 2 whole years b4 Kindergarten! makes transition a lil easier, and also when the kids are all 3-4 instead of a big range (18mos-5) like at daycare, they get more from being there! Just my thoughts! I have a son who's 21 mos, but I have 7 nieces and nephews and have seen all my siblings go through different trials and tribulations with this topic, and have learned that pre-school at 3 is the way to go. Unless absolutely needed, daycare isn't a good option.
Nicole - posted on 03/06/2010
Santiago is my only, and there is absolutely NO reason to that you NEED to put your baby in day care if you don't work. I am sure Santiago will be at home with me until preschool when I'm crying at the door not wanting to leave. I don't know why this society is so keen on women leaving there kids! And people wonder why our middle schools and high schools have security guards standing at the entrances! Women stay home and love those babies! They're only little once, why not cherish every single moment of it!
Giovanna - posted on 03/06/2010
My daughter start going to daycare last January and at the beginning it was great, she was so happy and don´t even cry, a perfect adaptation.However when she was on her 10th day she got sick (some kind of a virus) and get hospitalized for 3 days. I do think she got sick because of the day care, but when she was all right she went back and she really enjoys it, she asks for the teachers even on weekends!
For me it was my only choice, because of my work. But I think if you "have to" go this way you should take your time and look very carefully for all the options, and pros and cons in them.
Liesel - posted on 02/17/2010
It really depends on how you feel about day care. Children do need to socialise with children their own age. Maybe see for a playgroup for your child, it helps with the social aspect. As long as your child gets the attention he or she needs from you, I can see no reason that he or she has to go to nursery school. The one on one attention they get from their mommy is far better than waht they get at a nursery school anyway.
Jennifer - posted on 02/15/2010
My daughter who is 20 months is the only child and I am a stay at home mom. She does not have very much contact with children. My daughter almost begs me to let her in the day care that is across the street. In my area preschool starts at 3 years so because of money problems that is when she will be in something like that.
Tami - posted on 02/15/2010
My daughter is 19 months and has been i daycare since she was 13 months old. This has been great for her. She loves playing with other children. The daycare my daughter is at has a lady that comes once and week and teaches gymnastics. We are also in a music class one night a week and my daughter plays with children at church. She has lots of opportunities to be around children, but in different settings.
I am a Kindergarten teacher, so I have seen first hand how some children act on their first day of school when they have never been away from mom. Not all children are this way, though. Personally, I think daycare is a great way for children to use and expand their social skills so they do not have any emotional breakdowns once they start school.
Pamela - posted on 02/05/2010
go with your gut. There are a lot of kids that are happy in daycare, some that are not. Some kids that don't go to daycare, should because they aren't getting their needs met in their current environment. Personally, I feel if you don't need to go through that expense -- why do it? You can take her to library story hours, play groups, etc for interaction. Other than that, if you don't mind paying for it or have no choice, if you find a quality day care, you'll know if it's right.
I have never put my kids in Daycare and NEVER would! My daughter is 3 also and we have been looking for a pre school 3 days a week for a few hours a day and are having a hard time finding that. All I can find are glorified daycares claiming to be pre-schools. My kids get lots of interaction with other kids. Put your daughter in dance class, or gymnastics or my gym. We go to the park a few days a week and she meets and plays with other kids. If I dropped my kids off at daycare they would feel abandoned and not loved. I have several friends that have their kids in daycare full time since they were newborns and their kids are nightmares to be around and they are mean to my daughter. I don't even let her play with those kids anymore because I noticed her behavior changing so much for the worse. I would stick to pre-school if you can find a good one!
Codie - posted on 02/03/2010
I think that you should. i felt the same way about not being ready. finding a good daycare is hard. but my child learns so much good from other kids, like talking, abc's, numbers, dancing. there are some bad things they learn but that is just part of it. you need to start letting go a little or when they go to school you and the child are going to be completely heart broken. if you need to only do it for a day or two a week to start for only a couple hours. if it is a good daycare, they wont mind if you call and check in on the child. but i truely believe that it is good for a child so that they can learn to be around other kids and you learn that it is ok to have "you time"
Mani - posted on 02/03/2010
My little one was 20 months old on 1st feb, i started putting her in daycare when she was 19 months old its been a month and she loves it, the reason i put her in daycare is because i go to work twice aweek, but if i was not working she would def go at least once a week cause she loves playing with other kids and she learns alot in daycare, she is starting to say a few more words which is good and likes singing nursery rhymes.
At the end of the day its up to you what you do don't think about other people think what you want as its your child not their's and each child is totally def!! there is no right or wrong decision its what you feel comfortable with.
I put my daughter in daycare on her 3-month birthday. I personally was not torn by this decision. The pros outweighted the cons for our family. I was ready to go back to work at the time.
Now at 19-months, she just LOVES going to daycare. She's knows who her friends are and loves her "teachers". Even after getting laid off from work last year, my goal for her is to continue to attend daycare. It's a good way for her to get out of the apartment and interact with kids her age.
Yes, everyone has an opinion about daycare but as long as you weigh the pros/cons for your family, the decision will be the best one you will make.
Good luck on your choice.
Latonya - posted on 02/01/2010
I agree with Rachel A. My son has never been to daycare and never will. However, he does have opportunities to be around other kids. Don't ever feel pressured by people telling you what you "should do". There is nothing wrong with suggestions, but ultimately it is your choice and you should be comfortable with the choice that you make (As long as it isn't crazy like letting the kid smoke weed .. LOL). After all, that's your little one and you know her better than anyone else. Smile!
Rachel - posted on 01/31/2010
That is completely up to you. There are lots of pros and cons with daycare, but I would think that as long as she is spending time with other kids that it is not a necessity. If you are worried about her getting enough interaction with other kids her own age, start going to play dates and play groups.
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