Toddler sleeping problems - please help!

Antonia - posted on 06/30/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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Hi all, I have a just turned 2 year old that all of a sudden won't go to sleep. She will sit up in bed crying and screaming etc. I've tried to leave her for a bit and then return over and over again, but the crying just escalates, I've tried sitting by her bed and that took 2 hours for her to fall sleep, I don't want her to get used to this though as she used to sleep really well and besides a time of midnight terrors, never had a problem. Now I just don't know what to do, My 6 month old son shares the room and if he is asleep then he normally sleeps through most of it but if he isn't then her crying edges him on as it were and he starts crying louder and louder. With children that are only 18 months apart you'll understand that by the end of the day I am knackered and patience is unfortunately not one of my strong points.

Please help! I cannot get her to lie down never mind sleep.

Secondly, does anyone have a 2 year old that has turned really whingy and moaning all of a sudden? My daughter cries for anything and everything - frustraion, tired, not getting her own way or for anything.

please help x

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Leanne - posted on 11/08/2012

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Hi, i am so glad i read this (not because i'm glad this is happening to you) but because i have been looking for answers. My daughter who is nearly 2 n half always went to bed with no fuss and slept well started getting up really early so we though maybe she is ready for big girl bed, we took one side off cot an put a guard up, first 3 nights perfect angel then it went bad. Went to put her to bed but keeps getting up screaming downstairs or mummy's bed. We are having to sit with her until she falls asleep which is a shock as she was always so good, up kiss door shut gone??? we have left her to cry but she won't give in just stands at the gate getting in a state. We used the super nanny technique of just putting her back into bed and no talking to her but sitting on bedroom floor with our back to her. I just wanted to know if anyone has any good ideas of what helps? x

Kristen - posted on 07/30/2010

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i also have been going thru this with his naps...he has a look of fear in his eyes when i bring him up...and he screams bloody murder and runs around the crib like someone is chasing him...he also doesnt listen to well and has been cryin and throwing tantrums too...i think from being soo tired..
we all hope its a phase that will pass along soon...for mommy's sanity...hahaha...xxoo

Jill - posted on 07/11/2010

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I went through that same thing...I had to deal with screaming for 2 and a half hrs one night...then 1 hr the next night..by the third night he jus went to sleep... now our bed time is no problem!! as Hard and terrible as that first night is..SOOOO worth it!

Katelynn - posted on 06/10/2013

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If anyone has really good tips on how to get my almost two year old daughter to bed please say so she is screaming as i type please

Michelle - posted on 07/30/2010

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trying getting her on a routine. It may take a week for her to get used to it, but if her bed time is 10 pm lets say, then from 8pm until 10 you shouldn't let her play around, you should start by getting her ready for bed, try giving her a bath, then using the bedtime lotion, going to the room about 9pm read her a bedtime story, while she lays there, if she drinks a bottle, give it to her then while you are reading the story, and maybe that will help. you can even try to play some relaxing music for her.

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Jennifer - posted on 01/29/2014

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did you receive any helpful hints? My daughter OUT OF THE BLUE at the age of two has decided that she can't sleep alone... I have no idea where this came from! even during the day she is getting up out of bed crying she was such a good sleeper I just don't understand and because of this I think im making things worse. I don't know what to do so I'm trying all these different techniques - non are working - and I think if any thing I'm just making her confused!

Katelynn - posted on 06/10/2013

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my daughter is just about two and every time i try to put her to sleep she starts screaming,crying,hitting, and jumping out of her bed and she try's to stay up til past 3 am i am so tired i have cried my self to sleep and every time i give her what she asks for she always says no and when i walk away with it she says she wants it and i have to lock her in her room otherwise she gets out and come to my bed and just plays and kicks me while i'm sleeping please help me i don't know what to do

Antonia - posted on 08/22/2010

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Oh dear seems like it is an age thing! Why oh why x lol. Well update on my daughter. The bed thing is still not sorted, i think however she is doing for attention or that seperation anxiety thing - she never got it earlier (some babies get it around 9 /10 months). I am busy potty training her and she is doing very well so getting lavished with attention and I wonder if this may contribute so she wants more of that attention and does not understand that bedtime is bedtime. I have now succumbed to just leaving her (she doesn't scream anymore just calls for me for an hour or so!). We brush teeth, wash hands, get in pjs and night nappy, put her in bed, read her story and close the stair gate across her room and leave her. Hopefully after a week or so she'llget the message that mummy ain't coming so best go to sleep. Also trying to get her to be very active during the day so she is knackered by night! Good luck ladies x

Esta - posted on 08/18/2010

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I was amazed when I read this, it sound like my life I have a 26 month old and a 1 year old they also share a room, my 2 year old has started screaming at bed time and kept getting out of bed...I've put her cot back up I couldn't cope anymore, she has also become a nightmare in the day I don't know what's happened she used to be so good, everyone keeps telling me it's just her age and that it will pass, so I know how hard it is, good luck!

Elizabeth - posted on 08/02/2010

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i cant help with the sleeping part my first child(4) still does not fall asleep in his bed.... but with they crying.... its hard we changed my daughters(2) routine... wake her earlier in the morning so she would sleep at lnch time then she would be tired by 7pm so she would go straight to sleep... but i will mention she is stilll in her cot... so i dont yet have the problem of her climbing out

Zeenat - posted on 07/28/2010

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i have a 2year old daughter who is trying all sorts of tantrums on me . when we are in public or with other relatives i have no other options than to fall in her trap but at home i leave her -if she rolls on the floor so be it -i walk out and i talk to her softly but i tell her i know she can understand and that i know she is trying to see how much mum can do for her but such and such things won't go through - it might sound strange but our 2 yr old do understand perfectly and i believe even such serious matters should be talked out - even if she doesn't get it all -she must understand that strange behaviours won't work on mum and that a no is a no

Chrissy - posted on 07/25/2010

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im in this boat to but it started when she went in a bed now i have to put my oldest in my bed untill my 2year old is asleep then move her in to her bed she gets up at 5 and gets in bed with me im so sleepy i i just havent got the power to get out of bed to put her back, on top of that in due baby 3in 5 weeks and they will all be in 1 room iv sat outside her roon for 3 hours before just putting her back in bed i dont know wot to do with her

Storm Marie - posted on 07/16/2010

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i am goin through the same situation chick... tonight i had to take my daughter for a walk for half hour but no luck! so i had to put her in the car in the end and now she is fast... but it is so frustrating i understand... im just so glad i have seen this cuz i thought it was just my daughter lol... xxx

Zeenat - posted on 07/10/2010

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hi - my 2 yr old girl has the same problem - well i'm tryting to stop breast feeding and i guess it's the reason behind -i would suggest you find the reason first then we might try to sort it out .is she seeking attention ,hyperactive or just tantrums?

Antonia - posted on 07/10/2010

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Thanks ladies, I did just leave her and very slowly she is getting better but my word what a massion. Lol. Still working on the whingy part but think that'll take longer. Glad to know I'm not the only one :)

Megan - posted on 07/09/2010

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It is a 2 year old thing! The same exact thing happened to me about 2 weeks ago - my son was sleeping great every night, one night he didn't, wouldn't go back to sleep, & requested to get in bed with me. Well, I HAD to let him know sleeping in my bed was not an option, so it took a couple of nights telling him "no mommy's bed" & I actually had to put a portable crib next to my bed so when he woke up I was right there & he knew he had to sleep in HIS bed. Don't worry - I was freaking out but talked to a few of my friends who went thru the same thing. It just takes some finesse & creativity - and patience (i know what you mean about patience not being a strong point - it isn't for me either!!) BTW, he's back in his bed & sleeping great (for now!) Good luck - this too shall pass:)

Melissa - posted on 07/01/2010

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im going through this with my daughter as well she learned how to open her room door a few days ago with the suppose to be childproof door knob thing on the inside of her door now what i have to do til i get money is hold her door shut & just let her cry til she gives up & goes & gets in her bed.

dont go in there that as you kno by doing it just makes it 10x harder.

2nd part it could just be the jealousy of her baby brother just getting worse if not just starting.

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