What do you think is the best age gap between kids?

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I am a SAHM with a 2 year toddler.Now I am at a junction where I have to decide to have baby no 2 or get into a job.

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Hayley - posted on 05/27/2010

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Hi my son is 2 next month and my baby is also due next month. I wanted a small age gap between my children as they will be more company for each other. All children have their ups and downs and will argue at some point but i feel any kind of age gap will bring that with it lol. If you feel you are ready for another one then go for it. No one can give you the right or wrong answer, only you can know whats best for you and your family. Btw im a SAHM too.

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Nicole Clarice - posted on 06/12/2010

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I work full time and am a single mom with two girls that are two days shy of a year apart currently aged 1 and 2 and both have special needs, one more severe than the other. There are a lot of days I want to pull my hair out, but I try to remember that this too shall pass and some day they will love each other and be the best of friends. I love them and would not give them up for anything, but if I could choose I don't know that I would have them quite this close in age . . . (they are hopefully soon to be adopted, so I really had no say in the spacing!) On the upside it is a fun and I am getting all the diaper stages and such out of the way at about the same time. Whatever works for you.

Aimee - posted on 06/12/2010

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I have four sons. The three older ones are all about four years apart in age. They are 12, 8, and 4. I also have Brayden who is about two and a half years younger than the 4yr old. I really liked the four year age gap. Then you really only have one baby at a time. At four years old, your child is no longer in a diaper or taking a bottle, they're sleeping all night, and is ready to start preschool.

Tina - posted on 06/08/2010

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My boys are almost 3 years apart and it has been great for us. When my son turned 2 we decided to have another and figured he would at least be pottey trained before the new baby arrived.
If you plan to stay at home when you have another child you might not want to get back into the work force, at least not at a serious job you might leave in 1-2 years.
I know there were times we thought about only having 1 but my husband and I grew up with 3 siblings each and hated to think our son would not have a sibling. You just need to do what is best for your family, which is probably different than everyone else posting.

Krystal - posted on 06/07/2010

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My baby just turned 2 yesterday, :( I also just had my sweet pea a little over 5 weeks ago. The age gap for my girls so far as been really good. My oldest understands and even though she doesn't always listen like a perfect little angel, she knows what I am saying to her so I trust her (not much more but a little bit more).

However, if I didn't get pregnant a year ago, and it was this time now I would have waited. Get a career going or a good job going and then have another baby. I sometimes feel that I cheated my 2 year old of something (what? I don't really know) but then seeing my 2 year old love her baby sister my heart swells and it's probably one of the best gifts I've ever given her.

Kristy - posted on 06/07/2010

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i think it depends on when your ready and on the children, i have 6 siblings, the three oldest (all girls, 7, 8, and 9) are each 11 months apart and the two oldest get along great, of course they have their fights, but the youngest of those three doesnt get along with them, and the 3 youngest (all boys 5, 3, and 2) all get along wonderfully. my son is the same age as my youngest brother and they usually fight like crazy and the two oldest take it upon themselves to help out and play with them and care for them.

Andrea - posted on 06/04/2010

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my oldest son is 20 years old and the next one is 15 and it was great as they were growing up. Now I have a 2 year old daughter LOL....and my older sons just adore her...Now I'm not recommending you wait 15 years till your next one but I wouldn't trade any of them for the world no matter how many years or months in between. We are made to adjust and we do!

Amy - posted on 06/03/2010

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My girls are 17 months apart, I am dealing with teething and the terrible twos right now. I guess I could've planned this better! lol I wanted them to be close in age, I also wanted to be done with my pregnancies quickly. I was 35 with my 1st and 36 with the 2nd. I am happy with the age gap, but some days...

Thana - posted on 06/03/2010

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My kids are a year apart and 'm still working.To me the most important think is that when i'm at work my kids are good hands. If you are going to work you mighty want to consider this....

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Thanks again..Omkar will be two years old this month..like all your kids..enjoying him before he hits the Terrible Two#s.

Joni - posted on 06/01/2010

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I have two children. My son will be 2 June 8 and my daughter is 1 month old. But that worked for us. We wanted them close so they would both be ready to move out around the same time and we could be a couple again. (Now we spend more time being parents than a couple.) But that doesnt mean that is right for your family. I am just curious...what does SAHM stand for?

Rhiannon - posted on 06/01/2010

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My son is 2 on the 30th of June and my daughter is 1 on the 20th of September. Like most woman said, you have the ups and down no matter how far apart they are. I like the age difference we have (just over 14 months) but physically, carrying the 2nd baby was really hard because my body hadn't recovered from the first and I had alot more problems with the pregnancy because of it.
My son had no jealousy towards the baby, he wasn't old enough. Mind you he is getting that way now, but being over 8 months old she is a bit tougher physically and can handle his roughness a bit better than a newborn. (Not that I let him, but you can't watch them every minute!)
The downside is that neither of my children really got 100% of my attention ever. Landon was so little when I was pregnant again and physically I couldn't do alot of things for him because pregnancy number 2 was so hard. And Logan has always been the little sister, never by herself.
But frankly, you cope with whatever you are given. If you feel you want another baby, start trying! If you feel you want to wait a bit longer, have fun practicing!

Melissa - posted on 05/31/2010

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so having one child has ita advantages but if your well off with money then you wont have a problem with how many children you have

Melissa - posted on 05/31/2010

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i saw wait several years between 3-5 years let your child be the baby & get the affection & love & everything it needs & get a chance to be the baby. My cuzins wife son will be a yr old June 16th & baby number 2 is due on christmas. hes not going to get to be the baby & get the attention that he needs 1st be4 bringing in another baby into the home. its different for everyone i really want another cild i think if i had twins when my daughter was born & had boy/girl twins i wouldnt want another one right now soooo bad. but it will be years before i have another child. plus if i had another child i dont think my daughter would beable to get to do the things she does now like take Gymnastics 2 days a week & when she turns 2 June 18th i want to find a dance class for her more soo latin dancing like salsa or something like that

Jennifer - posted on 05/28/2010

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Like Jolayne, my kids are 3 years and 1 months apart. My son is 5 and I have a 23-month old daughter. I love the 3 year gap. My son is very good with our daughter and she is quick enough to give him a run for his money. They play very well together, which has surprised even me. It's also funny to see how they both know exactly what will get the other one upset.
I know alot of other families that have bigger age gaps between their kids. Most of them find that while the kids are young, it works great. The older child is generally very excited about having a younger sibling. That can change over time, as the excitement wears off and the "baby" isn't a baby anymore...but again, it's different for everyone. Follow your own heart. You know deep down what is best for you. Good luck.

Jolayne - posted on 05/27/2010

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My son 5 and daughter 23 months are about 3 years apart yet I feel that they are more like twins as they are the best of friends.
I suggest do what you think is best for you if you are ready for a second baby then go for it .
All the best to you

Adrienne - posted on 05/27/2010

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My oldest and middle sons are exactly one year apart. (They share the same birthday) Then my middle and youngest sons are 21 months apart. I can tell you that the 12 month gap is good and has it's down sides. My boys are the best of friends at times and then they can fight like cats and dogs. It's only been 9 weeks with having the new baby but 21 months is fine too except my middle guy wants to be all over the new baby. But both of my older boys love to help out.

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