why do they respect daddy but not mommy?

Kelly - posted on 03/15/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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my boys, 2 and 5 seem to joke and play with me more but hesitate to listen! my boyfriend says i am too silly with them but they are kids! if he says anything they drop what they are doing and listen!its not fair!

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Allie - posted on 03/20/2011

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We have the opposite problem in my house.... my son listens and respects me, but we are silly and have fun! My husband works four days a week 10hr shifts so he's not around but for three days a week.... He is extremely inconsistent; and is either too 'mean' or too giggly... he hasn't found the right discipline technique for him yet.... but he's getting there.


Consistency is always key.

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Crystal - posted on 07/18/2011

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Only one son here, 3 years old, and he tends to listen to me more than my hubby. I am very playful and silly with him, but he knows my serious voice and my serious look and knows I will follow through on anything I say.

Zoe - posted on 06/02/2011

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I have two boys and hear you! Maybe it's a boy boy thing .... , do girls listen to their mums more????

Jennifer - posted on 05/31/2011

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Our girl listens to me really well until daddy or her brother walk in the door, then things seem to go out the window. they idolize and adore their dads

Jennifer - posted on 05/31/2011

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If your husband doesnt respect you and your decisions or your playtime with them your kids wont either. Lots of kids are daddy' s kids and i too struggled with this with our girl who idolizes her daddy.

Jenni - posted on 04/07/2011

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I know how you feel, my daughter listens to daddy and any male better than she used to listen to me. Then my hubby told me that i needed to have a stern voice when im talking to her and that didnt really work, so i had to sit her down and have the stern voice everytime. i had to get her out of the situation and make her sit in time out everytime. now, she listens to me better than anyone. i think i was just too easy on her ya know?

Jessica - posted on 03/31/2011

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I struggle with my daughter whose 2. she has her moments where she will listen to me but it takes 2 to 3 tries with her. on the other hand her father who isnt really around do to working grave yard shifts he can yell at her and get her to straighten up right then and there withouth a problem. i started to notice this is how it was in my household growing up. my dad never had to say anything really to us just gave us the look but my mom had to constantly tell us what to do. i dont understand how is it that my daughter though wont listen to me yet she clings to me. how do i get her to uncling to me and get out and venture around??

Jessica - posted on 03/31/2011

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I struggle with my daughter whose 2. she has her moments where she will listen to me but it takes 2 to 3 tries with her. on the other hand her father who isnt really around do to working grave yard shifts he can yell at her and get her to straighten up right then and there withouth a problem. i started to notice this is how it was in my household growing up. my dad never had to say anything really to us just gave us the look but my mom had to constantly tell us what to do. i dont understand how is it that my daughter though wont listen to me yet she clings to me. how do i get her to uncling to me and get out and venture around??

Erin - posted on 03/19/2011

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I think they are at the age where you can sit them down and explain to them that it's all good to have fun but you need them to listen and things are going to change and have something in place where if they dont listen to you they then get into trouble it sound hard but i've had to use it on my kids

Kelly - posted on 03/16/2011

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i like that i'm the fun one, but it can be quite embaressing when i'm in public and they don't listen as well because dad is not with us!

Donna - posted on 03/16/2011

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Oh I know exactly what you mean.
My 3 yr old daughter, and sons aged 2yrs and 1 yr are all the same!
If I ask them to stop doing something, i get ignored completely or told 'no!'
Daddy just has to say it once....and it is done immediately!
Really does my head in, makes me feel really horrible.

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