13 month old is crazy about Daddy

Tina - posted on 08/12/2010

My son is 13months now is very clingy too his dad whenever his dad is at home.Am glad other mums are experiencing this and i believe its just a phase in their lives.He is always quiet when his dad is around him,but if it were to be me,he cries and pesters me &won't let me do anything.His dad reckons is because, i never have time 2 play with him.

Katrina - posted on 08/08/2010

My daughter is the same way. You have to try and not let it get to you. It is completely normal for your child to do this. My husband is the more playful one and therefore my daughter is always so excited to see him when he gets home, but mom is the one who knows how to soothe her when she is upset or how to cuddle just right. I think as mom and dads, we both have our roles and our children look up to the both of us for different things. Try not to let it get to you because a childs love is unconditional and she loves you just as much as she loves her daddy.

Rhonda - posted on 08/02/2010

Psychologically, kids want what makes them feel good and only good. If you are the one always telling your little one "NO NO" while daddy is away then they are going to think you are bad until you do something good. their thought is black and white. Daddy always plays with them and hardly ever says "No" so they like him better. But love runs much deeper than like. : ) Once their thinking moves into a more complex system then they understand that even tho mommy can be mean she can also be nice and care about my safety too at the same time.

Amy - posted on 07/30/2010

My little girl has always favoured her daddy (she's also 13months) but we share all jobs and play time. To be honest she just prefers men in general as she favours her grandad over nana too ... I think she'll grow out of it once she realises daddy won't let her out to see boys at 15! lol Keep your chin up & remember she loves you too x :)

Sherelle - posted on 07/30/2010

My son was all about Daddy for awhile now he's kinda stuck on both of us. I think because as mom we do all the fundamental stuff and daddy plays they figure out who they can go to for fun. My oldest never had that relationship with his biological father so he's actually the one that's attached to "daddy" right now (my fiance).

Celeste - posted on 07/30/2010

My son is 13 months old and I haven't noticed he has a preference yet. However, I've noticed phases often only last a few weeks with him. If it truly concerns you that you're not FUN enough, try adding in some fun language and games to the necessary stuff. For example, with dressing times when putting on sleeves or pant legs you can say, "where are your hands? in a expectant way and then kiss the hands excitedly when they come through the sleeve. Diaper changes, "Do you have something for me?" Use tiny or funny sounding voices... my son loves when I try that & it distracts him. See if you can find some funny games or things only you two do together. Don't worry, she will love you big time & bond with you in other ways soon!

Ashley - posted on 07/29/2010

I definitely understand! All my 13 month old say's is Daddy. All day he just keeps looking for him and he'll pick up the cordless phone and look at me and say "Daddy Daddy" Refuses to say mommy although i know he can

Imelda - posted on 07/29/2010

I tried to play with my son too, not only taking care of his needs. He wants to play with us, both because me and my husband play with him.

Nicole - posted on 07/29/2010

I feel the same way sometimes, my daughter sometimes would rather be with her daddy than with me and it makes me sad sometimes... believe me you are not the only one !

Angy - posted on 07/29/2010

My 13 month old son is a daddy's boy too. he kisses him, hugs him and plays with him a lot. when its just the two of us he will be all mummy but once his dad steps into the house, its bye-bye mommy. even when his dad is chillind with his friends he also wants to sit there and if i try taking him away he screams and starts to beat me. so i just let him be a "big guy" as he thinks he is.lol

Megan - posted on 07/28/2010

Yes! DS gets to stay home with him during the day, and I take care of him in the evening until 9. He gets the fun happy son and I get the cranky screaming son. Drives me crazy. I'm left to feed him dinner, take him for a walk, bathe him, and wrestle him into his pjs, so I'm the "bad guy". It's getting so bad that I can barely get him to take a nap during the day when it's just me, and he refuses to go to sleep until daddy is here and only he can do it. It's cute at times, and I'll admit it does give me a little Me time while he's going to sleep, but other times it's just annoying.

Caitlin - posted on 07/28/2010

My daughter is attached to my boyfriend (not her biological father). It bothers me sometimes because I feel like I'm not good enough for her but she's with me ALL the time unless we're over at my boyfriends. Her bio-father wants nothing to do with her and my boyfriend has been in her life since about 4 months old. He's her daddy (she even calls him daddy) and I'm starting to get over it. She comes to me when she's hurt or tired. She sees him as a toy pretty much. It's a phase and all phases pass.

Dara - posted on 07/28/2010

i havent experianced that my daughter is obsessed with me. and ill tell you i wish she would go do her daddy. i cant shower or go the bathroom without her screaming outside the door. so im sure her dad wouldnt mind a break form it

Ashley - posted on 07/27/2010

I totally agree with Brenda Fitzpatrick!! My daughter is with me all day long almost every day cuz her daddy is working but once he's home she wants to be by daddy's side all evening long. I find this to be nice becuase I then get to have a little bit of time to myself and he gets to spend time with our daughter which I know he really likes to see her chose to be with him over me in the evening. But with that said I don't feel upset about this because I know that when she's tired or hurt herself or something it's me that she will come to. Sometimes all you need to do is forget about the more necessary stuff and just spend some time playing with her instead. And maybe you could begin having daddy help with the things like bathing and dressing and make it a family activity instead of just a mom and daughter and dad and daughter thing.

Olivia - posted on 07/26/2010

My son LOVES his daddy and there are times that it makes me feel a little sad, but then I remember that he only gets to see his daddy for a few minutes during the week so he really only has time with his daddy on the weekends. I think that it breaks my heart more when he sees his daddy walk away to go to work and starts cryin :(

Keri - posted on 07/25/2010

yes I am experiencing this myself. I find it hurts that she seems to prefer her daddy over me. Glad to know that I am not the only once that is going through this

Brenda - posted on 07/25/2010

My daughter is just starting her daddy phase. I think it is great! He works hard so he doesn't see much of her during the week and I know he feels horrible about that so when he is home and she is all over him it is wonderful. I know my baby loves me too, but I really enjoy seeing her gushing all over daddy!

Renee - posted on 07/25/2010

Yes, I know exactly how you feel! I have the temper tantrums from my 13 month old alllll day and when Daddy comes home, Wow, shes an angel and laughs at absolutley everything he does to make her laugh. He throws her round and plays with her really roughly and she LOVES this. When i try to do the same to cheer her up or make her laugh, she hates it and gets upset with me for trying! It is nice to know she wants me when shes sick or hurting for cuddles but it gets a bit depressing when he teaches her every quirky trick and I cant think of anything to teach her except academic stuff. Im just a boring Mum I guess. Haha

Kat - posted on 07/20/2010

my son was all about mommy til last month. now it's all about grandpa and daddy. which is hard, since daddy's gonna be possibly leaving for the navy in a few months. i'm the diaper changer and the one to put him to bed, so i'm not as fun as daddy. lol

Britton - posted on 07/17/2010

YES! It seems like im the one he cuddles with and Daddy is the one Logan plays with! I get so jealous. Logan never laughs so hard with me lol. He is a daddy's boy but as soon as he gets hurt or needs some cuddle time he comes to me.

Christina - posted on 07/17/2010

it does get better you might want to have just mommy and her time where its just you and her my husband works a lot and for a while there it was just me and my son and he didn't want to have anything to do with my husband he would cry whenever he took him and it got worse whenever he was tired but i started to on the weekends and nights giving them just there time to play and has seemed to help a little there are a lot of nights its just me and my son but it is getting better i know how hurt my husband gets when he crys i know its got to be twice as bad for you but hang in there he can do some of the other stuff while you have time with her good luck

Brittany - posted on 07/16/2010

Absolutely!!! I have 2 boys (2 and 13 months) and they are both daddy's boys. I can't even sit next to my husband or hug or kiss him without them crying and saying "he is my daddy" lol. It does upset me...but when they get a boo-boo or are really tired and come snuggle with me...I take advantage of it! My oldst is getting much better (wouldn't be so bad if they were not so jealous of each other)...

Autumn - posted on 07/16/2010

OMG yes i know exactly how you feel! my daughter is a complete daddys girl and somedays i would end up crying thinking i wasn't a good enough mom... She would hit me if I even gave him a hug and start screaming! And she did that til about a month ago... So i started asking her dad to do the housework while I play and it's helped! All i can say is it does get better. Just hang in there I know it's a horrible feeling!! Sorry i don't have any better advice!