Elizabeth - posted on 05/05/2010 ( 85 moms have responded )
This isn't meant as a flame post or anything, but is anyone else out there more on the "old-fashioned" side of parenting than the new-age, or crunchy persuasion of parenting? I only ask because I feel like most of the parenting support out there is all for this new-age kind of hover parenting, and I personally don't believe in it. I do what my Mom did, and what my husband's Mom did. I go to them for advice, not a baby book. Here's a little of what I mean:
*Our house is not lock-down babyproofed. We have a gate to keep our daughter from climbing the stairs, but she plays with many things not "baby" like wooden spoons, my small pot in my pots and pans collection, taking all of the plastic bags out of the pantry one by one while I am right next to her unloading the dishwasher, etc.. We moved the couch against the wall because she kept going behind it and tugging on lamp cords and we couldn't get her out, but anything else we say "No" and move her away, like the fireplace.
*Crying for 5-10 minutes after all needs met to go to bed is okay, and not cruel or mean.
*If she's been told "No" and moved away from something, and goes right back she gets her hand popped the next time and told "No" and moved away. She isn't allowed to hit us, and if she throws a tantrum we ignore it not try to appease her.
*We don't do organic or any special products for baby. She uses our laundry detergent, and eats our food (we do eat pretty healthy to begin with). We don't do kid food, she doesn't get a different meal than us (Except for babyfood, but if she's eating solids and I made rice and spinach as sides, that's what she gets)
*She gets to watch a few cartoons throughout the day. (We do Mickey mouse Clubhouse, I prefer Disney to Nickelodeon, my personal preference since I sit and watch it with her most mornings).
*I teach my child clapping and body parts and sing songs, not a video system.
*She is covered in kisses and hugs throughout the day, and my husband and I sacrifice so I stay home with her. We believe that to be paramount in two parent situations.
*Bedtime is bedtime so Mommy and Daddy can have some Mommy and Daddy time.
Again, I am not saying the other parents are wrong, I wouldn't want them to have to parent like me anymore than I want to be forced to parent like they do. I do believe God matches up children with the right parents for them (but the parents do have to step up, not saying kids with abusive parents or anything deserved them). I am just looking to see if there are other "old-fashioned" Moms out there who feel a little like I do, our way of parenting is rarely supported by anything, even though it's how we were raised and we're doing just fine.