does any1 elses 9 month old wake up 3-5 times a night?

Nix - posted on 03/15/2010 ( 159 moms have responded )

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can any1 advice me on what to try to make my little one sleep thru?
she has b4 slept thru but for sum reason she wakes up constantly EVERY night, i give her her bttle just b4 bed and she usually falls asleep but then wakes up thru the night.
any1? thanx.

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Tami - posted on 12/12/2012

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Here's the main thing you need to know. The MORE naps in the day, the better your baby will sleep at night. Sleeping in the day, actually makes a baby sleep more and more. In the first trimester, it doesn't really matter where they are sleeping (car, swing, whatever), if they can sleep in their crib-great, if not, all they really need is sleep! I began a nighttime routine from 6 weeks on: a bath every night (For routine reasons..but I added a bit of olive oil in order not to dry him out), then feeding in the rocking chair, while singing the same time every night. Babies love routine and they love to know what comes next. Whatever your routine is, it should be the same every night.



Once your baby hits 4 months, it is important to make sure he/she wakes up by 7am at the latest and naps EVERY 2 hours after each waking time, in the crib, in the dark, for the first two naps. The third nap can be anywhere (swing, car, whatever). So for example, if your baby wakes at 6am, he goes back down at 8am, with the same 'sleep' routine, so he knows it's time for sleep. If the baby wakes up at let's say 9:30am, he goes back down two hours later-11:30am. And so on. Make sure baby is not sleeping past 4pm. The last stretch of being awake should be 3-4 hours. So if your baby wakes from his last nap at 4pm, bedtime is at 7pm. Putting him down at these times helps him learn to self soothe much easier. I was never a fan of crying it out, but by following the sleep curve, I tried it out, and he mostly whined it out at first. I have taught him how to self soothe by not going in the room when he complains. It took 3 days for him to figure it out and by 3 weeks, he was fully sleeping his nights...10-12 hours! Babies will begin to drop the third nap at around 9 months, so it means an earlier bedtime. So, if his second nap ended at say 2pm, he goes to bed between 5 and 6pm. Sounds early, I know, but it works. These little ones need lots of sleep in order to not get overtired.



I know it's a lot of info, but if you follow it completely, it works. If you follow it half, it doesn't.

Don't forget though, for the first four months, you don't follow what I just wrote above, they'll sleep even more than every two hours! The more sleep in the day, the better! Remember that.

Sharon - posted on 01/19/2014

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My daughter Aria is 13 months old I can be up 9 10 times a night. I have tried controlled methods. But she will only sleep with a bottle in her mouth when its empty she wakes sometimes 9 to 10 times a night. Please help

Sharon - posted on 12/12/2012

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its actually a very normal part of their development. It's referred to some as a touch point. They are working on new things during the day..crawling, pulling up standing..ect.. When they are sleeping and they get into that light realm of sleep their body wants to practice all that stuff they are doing during the day..you may even find him up on all fours in his bed half asleep..because they don't even know why they are up..they just are...My 8month is doing the same thing and i can tell you..knowing the way..doesn't always make it easier to deal with.but soon they will master these skills and sleep will get back to normal..well...untill the next touch point when is about 9-12 months when they begin to start trying to walk.....look up Brazelton Trouchpoints..

Victor - posted on 12/06/2012

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Give her cold scallions (long green onions) to chew on right before going to bed. Just take the scallions away when you put her to bed. It naturally will numb her gums and is 100% healthy for babies.



Mr. Mom. : )

Christy - posted on 03/19/2010

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my 9 month old daughter recently started waking every two hours as well. I took her to the pediatrician to see if something else was going on and she said I need to start letting her fall asleep on her own versus putting her in her bed after she was already asleep b/c she now thinks she needs me to be there every time she wakes up. last night I let her cry it out for 35 minutes opening the door every 5-10 minutes to let her hear my voice, but not going completely in the room or touching her... and she only woke up once about an hour and a half after I put her down. she cried for 12 minutes then fell back asleep then slept straight for another 9 hours! I know each night is going to be hard to listen to her cry it out, but eventually she will learn to soothe herself to sleep. We did this with my 3 year old daughter around this age as well and it worked.

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Kate - posted on 01/06/2014

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I used the controled cry method, I'm not a fan personally of the CIO method but the controlled crying really worked for me. My Lil man falls asleep on his own now and self sooths. Only waking up once or twice as compared to befor the controlled crying method he was awake every 2 hours..

Sarah - posted on 12/07/2012

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Can u tell me how u quit nursing? I'm ready but don't know if I should cold turkey quit..or what

Amanda - posted on 12/06/2012

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My daughter woke up whenever I moved in bed when I had her in her bassinet. At 5 weeks we moved her to her crib in her own room and she started sleeping through the night. My husband put a night light in there to start, but when she woke up and saw the light she thought it was time to wake up. So we keep the night light on for when she falls asleep (also so when i check on her before i go to bed i can see) and after I am done checking in on her I shut it off so that if she wakes up in the middle of the night she knows it is still bed time and goes back to sleep.

Amanda - posted on 12/06/2012

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Is it possible that she is still hungry at the end of that bottle? My doctor suggested that I give my daughter cereal before bed. Not in her bottle, but spoon fed cereal on top of her bottle to help give her weight in her stomach. Sometimes we have to give her a couple extra ounces of formula after her bottle because she is still hungry though. Also, teething may have a large part to do with the constant waking up. I was just told by another mom that Hylands Teething Tablets work wonders. Good luck!

Beth - posted on 12/02/2012

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My oldest was a no sleeper.

She was too busy and she had night terrors.

She also has ADHD - combined type.

Christine Tiffany - posted on 11/27/2012

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my 19 mont old and my 4 month old does but i actuallt put my 4 month down an hr later and sleeps through night but my 19 month old wont sleep period.

Maryam - posted on 11/25/2012

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No, we sleep on the same bed, I know he is a light sleeper bt he sleeps better when he was between 3 -6 months. He is very active and already walking plays well bt his sleeping is not well, it's really affecting me.

Chris - posted on 11/25/2012

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Is your baby in a room by himself? Mine would wake up during the night if they heard someone moving around in bed. But once he was in his own room, he slept through the night. My second one was in his own room from the start and slept through the night at 5 weeks. The only time he woke up during the night was when he was sick. I did not use a nightlight in his room either.

Maryam - posted on 11/25/2012

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My 9 month old boy wakes up at least 4 times during the nite some time hysterical a times just to feed he frequently changes position in his sleep I.e once or twice an hour and other times he toss n turn like an adult with abdominal pain pls help?

Rachel - posted on 10/16/2012

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I spoke to my doctor recently in desperation and he recommended a book which he used himself when his daughter was not sleeping. The book is "Teach your Child to Sleep" by the Millpond Children's sleep clinic. It has every problem (as far as I can see) from newborn to age 6 years. I have managed to read it and have found 2 or 3 "programmes" that will hopefully help me get on top of my 9 month old's sleep issues, including his wanting feeding through the night. He is now so tired from not giving in to daytime naps and waking through the night and very early rising, and I was struggling with my sleep being disturbed and was finding the health visitors were not being helpful, even though they were being sympathetic. Having seen our doctor about a completely different issue I joked that if he could help with my son's poor sleeping that would be great and we had a further 5 minutes where he gave me the name of the book and explained that he had used the book and found it very helpful. I will add updates to let you know if it is working for us.

Rachel - posted on 10/08/2012

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Thank you Lindsay. I am still nursing as my son won't take a bottle (other than a couple of times recently but using a bottle or cup is not something he is happy with). He is growing fast, and having just got the hang of pulling himself to standing up he has to practice that at night too. We found him asleep in a kneeling position with his face against the cot bars the other day where he had obviously got up to practice his new achievement and fell asleep whilst upright. You have to laugh! ;-)

Lindsay - posted on 10/07/2012

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Oh my baby girl definitely does! I ebf and she wants to nurse every couple of hours at night. I just let her sleep w us so I can get some sleep. My son who is 3 and a half and an awesome sleeper now didn't really sleep well at night till 18 mo which was When I stopped nursing. I keep reminding myself.that they grow up Sp quickly and I will get to sleep eventually. Hang in there!

Rachel - posted on 10/06/2012

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I did try the CIO method for a week, and in all honesty within 10 minutes I was crying too, and my partner and I decided it was not for us - we all found it so stressful and upsetting that we decided it was not the way for us to move forward. Our son is a happy, laid back little boy that just doesn't sleep well, losing his trust is the last thing we want to do. We don't take our son out of his room ever, as we made the mistake once of taking him to the lounge and that was a big mistake. ;-) I have been trying the French method of "pausing", which essentially pausing for a few minutes before responding. It is not really the CIO method as you do go in, however, I think as it seems to be a national way of doing things in France and from the very early days of having a baby, the fact that I read about it when My son was 7-8 months old means I am 7 or 8 months behind on training him! ;-) Will keep trying and recording successes (and failures!).

Katie - posted on 10/05/2012

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i am reading a book called the no-cry sleep solution by elizabeth pantley and they say that the CIO method is bad for the development of a baby, studies have been done and the babies who were left crying in their cribs were found to not trust adults and to have behavioral problems.

Katie - posted on 10/05/2012

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My 10 month old wakes up 5-6 x a night, I am trying to get him to sleep through the night too, i have tried everything! wish i could help, if i do figure it out i will let you know!

Rachel - posted on 10/02/2012

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That sounds interesting. My son is, like your son, very active and noisy in his sleep. I too have tried the CIO method but I found we were all miserable. Last night my son woke every 1 1/2 to 2 hours and whilst he is bright eyed and bushy tailed this morning frankly I feel like a zombie. I am with you with trying any other method before returning to the CIO method. The weighted blanket sounds interesting, I may have to do some research into it.

Amanda - posted on 10/02/2012

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It's just a blanket with weights built in it. I've never used one but I'm curious if it works. My son sleeps better if I cuddle him so I'm just wondering if it would mock a cuddle or a swaddle.

My son tosses and turns, sits up, lays down, whines, kicks, slaps, etc. while he's sleeping. I get VERY little sleep. I tried the crying but going in to pat his back every few minutes but he literally slept 2 hours the entire night (in short spurts) and I got no sleep and we were both miserable. I couldn't bring myself to try again. I'm at the end of my rope and sooooo very tired. I just wanted to see if anyone has had any luck with the blanket. I feel like I've tried everything else so before I just try the CIO method again I want to make sure I've tried everything else.

Rachel - posted on 10/02/2012

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Hazel, I owe you an apology for making a mean comment about your suggestion. I had no right to make a comment about your suggestion of something that worked for you. I was annoyed that you had made an assumption regarding the bottle, however, please accept my sincere apologies, there is not excuse, but there is remorse. Rachel.

Carissa - posted on 09/30/2012

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I went through this same thing with both of my kids. What I eventually did was just put them in their own crib in their own room and shut the door. I never let them cry to sleep before they were a year (I was maybe a bit too careful, one was closer to 2) and would go in at the initial bedtime if they cried when they sounded really sad not just whining. But once I had to go to bed that was it I closed their door and went to bed. I don't know if they cried at night, all I know is that within 3 nights I was sleeping finally for the first time in I don't know how long, and was finally well rested when I woke. I found it much more destructive to be irritated and sometimes angry when they kept me up most the night, than to have them be upset and cry a bit even though nothing was wrong.

Rachel - posted on 09/28/2012

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He only takes milk from me, and has twice taken expressed milk from a bottle during a morning feed. Water is sprayed from a cup. I don't give my son juice at all as I would prefer he doesn't get a sweet tooth. My son is put in sleep sacks which he likes and he is warm enough. We think we have worked out the main causes of his wakefulness, we just have to find ways to deal with them. To be honest I am not very into alternative ideas - they just bring out my sarcasm!!

Hazel - posted on 09/28/2012

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What kind of bottle water, milk or juice??? I believe you should only water at night at bedtime because the sugars will rott the teeth and keep them awake. you are the mom so it is your decision.



Move the bed around until you find a place she sleeps thru the night. I am not sure how you feel about feng shui but it really works. just give it a try. does the child like covers? if so make sure she is swaddled, if not then he is getting cold after she kicks off the covers and it wakes him. Or she is wetting his diaper and she will be very easy to potty train.



you will also think i am crazy but put sea salt and regular white rice in a small bowl under her bed at the head, it will absorb the negative energy in the room. change it out once or twice a week, make sure you take the mixture out to the dumpster or out of your yard.

Rachel - posted on 09/25/2012

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Thanks Krystel. I am starting to believe this myself, having read the posts on this site. It is reassuring, in a strange way, that I am not alone with this issue. The fact is, we have a happy healthy son and that is the most important thing to remember. As a small progression he took 5 fl oz of expressed breast milk from a bottle for the first time in 6 months today. Small steps. ;-)

Kristel - posted on 09/25/2012

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Yup I believe every child is different.... My daughter is 15 months and since birth still wakes up 2-3 times a night. We have a regular soothing Bath, Book, Breastfeed and Bed routine and she still wakes up. I wouldnt worry your child will grow out of it when he or she is ready!!

Rachel - posted on 09/20/2012

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My son is 9 months next week. He has never slept through the night and wont take formula. We have had a lot of difficulty getting him to take any liquid from a bottle or cup, he just wants the breast. The worst thing is his night habits. He is the noisiest sleeper I have ever heard, he makes vocal sounds at the top of his voice in his sleep and I suspect this is part of what wakes him. I have always seen to him at night as my partner has a demanding job, but of course because I am breastfeeding I smell of milk and he will only settle with a feed, which I know has created a bad habit but my partner is such a light sleeper himself if he is woken he is unable to get back to sleep - (like father like son I hear you say). We know our son gets over tired because of his waking, and daytime naps tend to be 10 minute 'cat naps' which are not enough. We are becoming a family of zombies, and we are dreading nights as a good nights sleep has become a distant memory. The Health Visitors don't really help as my son does not heed their advice. He eats solids well, it is just the breastfeeding that we want to break and to break his habit of waking every hour to two hours. Any advice would be gratefully received.

Ashi - posted on 09/16/2012

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Hi, Unfortunately i am having the same problem my son turned 9 months four days ago, But it seems his sleeping and eating patterns are getting worse as he's growing, i first started weaning him when he was 3 months old, and in the night he managed to sleep 4 hours continuous and just woke up for a feed 2 or 3 times during the night, I was giving him both bottle feeding and breastfeeding but up till 3 months he was drinking bottle milk but then for some reason he stopped taking bottle milk, and carried on with breastmilk, before putting him to sleep every night i give him a feed and then after an hour he's up again i just keep giving it to him, because nothing else works after taking a feed each time he goes back to sleep but this has become very difficult for me, if it was just 1 or 2 times then that's ok but he wakes up at least 5 to 6 times during the whole night, plus he wont even sleep in his cot, when i put him in there he wakes up after an hour and doesn't go back to sleep by himself, the breast is the only thing that helps him back to sleep. Any advice please i would really appreciate it thanks.

Jennifer - posted on 09/09/2012

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There is a fabulous book that has helped me. My daughter is 7 months & until recently never napped, except half hour power naps, and never slept through the night. Its called 'The No Cry Sleep Solution' by Elizabeth Pantley. The best part is that she addresses all types of situations, whether you co-sleep, have your baby in a crib, if they're a newborn or a couple years old. It was the best $20 I ever spent! Good luck on better sleep!

Laura - posted on 04/08/2010

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yeah my lil girl never ever slept thru the night yet and it seems to be gettin worse she wakes up more now than what she ever did . she probably has 3 bottles through out the night too and she eats lots in the day

i read an article online though that says to slowly convert her milk to water and than when she gets to a full bottle of water she will realize its water and stop waking up for that late night bottle of milk

Laura - posted on 04/04/2010

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My daughter just turned 10 mths on April 2 and she is up most of the day and night naps 2 times for about 20 mins but also has a nap for two hrs but she does sleep during the night. My girls are night owls, also have a 2yr old, they get along. Try keeping her up during the day and part of the night until her regular bedtime, see if she will have a nap during that time but if not, nap with her,she will enjoy the comfort.

Janessa - posted on 03/30/2010

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My 9 month old is my 3rd and this is what has worked with all 3. Consistency. My first 2 slept through the night at a really early age 6 weeks, and then around 5 months stopped. We had to put our foot down. We had a couple of really bad nights, but we didn't give in and feed them every time, and in the end it was really good. If you try to let them cry it out and then give in, that is even worse than pulling them out immediately, because they now know that if they keep it up long enough you will give in. With all 3 I have had 1 rule. I will not feed them earlier than 4 and I will only feed them once. Truthfully I don't think they need even that. When I weaned my first 2 at around 14-15 months, again we had a couple bad nights, but then like magic they didn't wake up anymore. Once they knew they weren't getting anything, it wasn't worth it to them to wake up. So the bottom line is, is it worth it to you to have a couple of really bad nights so that you can have smooth sailing after? Honestly from everyone I have talked to it doesn't get any better until you put your foot down. I know it is hard, that is why I feed them the 1 time. As a mommy you don't want to hear your baby cry, but also as a mommy to function you need your sleep. I have never completely ignored them, I just don't pull them out. I give them a pacifier, tell them I love them, and leave. You can find what works for you.

Rachel - posted on 03/29/2010

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My baby boy is almost 10months and has never slept through the night. He wakes every couple of hours for a feed and although I feel he is only using the breast as a comforter I cannot seem to break this habit. He will not take a bottle and although he uses a beaker during the day, he wont settle with anything except the breast during the night!

Starr - posted on 03/28/2010

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No, when my daughter got sick her night time feeding schedule got mixed up but she's back on track now. She gets up once sometimes twice a night.... normally around 6 a.m.

Courtney - posted on 03/28/2010

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i have a 9month old and when was a newborn he slept threw the nite but now he wakes up once a nd sumtimes more but mainly cause hes teething....but i just feed him and put him back to bed and he falls asleep quikly. could b hes waking up to eat.dont really know.

Nadine - posted on 03/28/2010

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Hey, my 9 month old wakes twice a night and yes, like you, drives me insane. I've been told to stop offering a bottle as that is the reaso why they wake up.. i have not yet tried this as i really dont feel like having a screaming child at 2am.. so if there is anyone out there with advice, i'd also appreciate it...

Carla - posted on 03/27/2010

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My lil one slept through the night since about 1 month, she hit 4 months and started teething and she is up al the time. after the first two teeth I thought it would get better but not really cause 2 are coming in up top. she has her good nights every once in awhile. I know some ppl might think this is wrong, but I put ceral in her bed time bottle and it usally helps for the most part. Hope it gets better soon!

Natasha - posted on 03/27/2010

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is she still waking up? Not every baby is the same but my 9 month old sleeps thru the whole night unless shes sick or something. Maybe try giving her a bottle right before bed or a bath using the sleepy time body wash and lotion...that works for my baby. Also maybe she needs some noise? play a radio or something...good luck!!

Lauren - posted on 03/27/2010

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im fighting that same battle. i give my lil one cereal and a bottle right before bed, but it just doesnt hold her over all nite, ive even tried wearing her out before bed, she still wakes up. if you find anything, keep me posted, i talked to the dr and he said that she will eventually sleep all nite, you just have to let her do it on her own. GOOD LUCK

Octaviana - posted on 03/27/2010

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Goodnight Farewell NO means if you face again interrupted sleep because the bed is feeling fear of separation. A few months before his one year old, your child will start to be shy and stickier than usual. It will be hard to do from this point but is a normal and healthy stage in your child's development. As his world expands and begins to walk alone, begins to feel fear of being separated from the main person who gives love and safety. It's like the younger were afraid that you will never see, every time you disappear from his field of vision. This fear, in some cases, can affect children's sleep. Call you to sleep with him whenever he wakes up alone in the middle of the night to ensure that you are nearby. Fear not, is something temporary, it needs patience and encouragement to overcome and this phase of uncertainty. Soon to be confident again.

Amberly - posted on 03/27/2010

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Well I'm not sure if this will help as far as advice, but my 9 month old son is teething & b4 he started teething he slept thru the night & maybe got up once every couple of nightsNow he wakes up 3-4 times a night sometimes more. I dont know about your little one but I believe mine wakes up so many times because he wakes up with pain from teething. I get the bedtime orajel formula and it helps to give it to them b4 bed and when they wake up thru the nite. Or to play soothing music everynight in the room, it is always good to have some kind of noise going b4 & while the baby is sleeping. Just hang in their it will get better

Jennifer - posted on 03/26/2010

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My son wakes up 1-2 times a night. He usually wants a bottle, but sometimes doesn't, I think he just wants to sleep with us. You can try letting her cry for a few and then go get her, sometimes they just do it cause they know you will get them.

Angela - posted on 03/26/2010

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My 9 month old goes to bed around 7 - 7:30 every night but still wakes up at 11 pm and then around 5 am. I guess they call that sleeping through the night (6 hours or more) and I can't really complain because he doesn't eat and normally easily soothed. All of a sudden however, he started waking more and wouldn't settle after. We figured out he was too soaked for comfort. We switched to a larger sized diaper for the night time and that helped. Otherwise we can't figure out how to get him to sleep longer or sooth himself back to sleep in the middle of the night.

Lena - posted on 03/26/2010

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Heya Nix Topping, I was having the same problem with Bri, she would wake up every two hours on the dot. so i took my cuzzy's advice and it worked a treat. It's up to you whether you take it or not:)

I gave bubz baby rice cereal in a bottle just before her bedtime - made up to 110ml. Then after that, i'd give her a bottle before sleep, up to her whether or not she ate, I was just making sure that she was full before sleeping...and she only woke up once during the night. I've stopped giving her the cereal now (it's been 2 weeks since she stopped having it, and i only gave her cereal for about 2 weeks) and she's pretty much settled into waking up only once a night...i think your bubz has gotten used to being up through the night...gotta break the habit!

Good luck!

Vanessa - posted on 03/26/2010

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My son is doing the same thing right now!! I just feed him and he goes right back to sleep!

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