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Feeling insecure.

Eleisha - posted on 12/06/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My daughter Ava had her 6 mo injections 4 days ago. Based on her history, she is always "off" (so to speak) for 7 days after. Usually she sleeps 2 x 2 hour sleeps/day and sleeps 12 hours at night. After her needles however, she is up most of the night, eats very little (solids or expressed milk) and her day time sleeps dwindle. My gut instinct tells me that I should just ride the week out, let her sleep where and when she can/will (she usually sleeps in her cot, but atm, she is sleeping on/with me). I am okay with this, and know that after this week, I will get her back to "normal". However, I am a single mum and I live with my mum (who quite happily lets me know what I am doing 'wrong') and says to let her cry it out, and not let her "manipulate" me. I don't believe she is (or has the ability to (she's 6 month)) manipulate me, but am just looking for an outsiders opinion. Should I just follow my gut, or am i "making a rod for my own back"?

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Corinne - posted on 12/07/2009

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Just remember you are her mother. Tell your mother that you appreciate her advice but you want to try things your way.

Eleisha - posted on 12/07/2009

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Quoting Jordan:

I definitly think you're doing the right thing. I personally don't believe in letting a baby "cry it out" when they are so young. Your babies only way of communincating is crying and she needs something from u when she cries. And like u said, a 6 month old can't manipulate you. She's just trying to get her needs met the only way she knows how.


 



I don't agree with the "crying it out method" either, but my mum does and likes to pressure, although now that I have had a bit of reassurance (thanks everyone), i will be sticking to my guns :)

Jordan - posted on 12/06/2009

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I definitly think you're doing the right thing. I personally don't believe in letting a baby "cry it out" when they are so young. Your babies only way of communincating is crying and she needs something from u when she cries. And like u said, a 6 month old can't manipulate you. She's just trying to get her needs met the only way she knows how.

Eleisha - posted on 12/06/2009

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Thank you all so much for your support! I think I just needed a little reassurance that I was doing what I knew was best! (I guess lack of sleep can make you doubt yourself). And Amy, I will definitely be getting back to routine after this week, she nor I don't cope without it. Thanks again :)

Amy - posted on 12/06/2009

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What you doing is right, i would do the same thing. Follow your instincts, you know your baby, just be sure to get her back to her routine when the week is up.

Naomi - posted on 12/06/2009

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I agree! She's just had a needle, poor baby, she is not trying to manipulate you, as this is not habitual. You know your daughter, you know she acts this way because she's not feeling well, so comfort her! If it continues past a week.. then revisit the issue. Your a great mom!

Christina - posted on 12/06/2009

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Who knows what her needles are making her feel like! I know for me personally when I have gotten injections I dont feel so great for a few days after so most likely she is not feeling like her self. You are not letting her manipulate u! like you said, she is 6 months! All she wants is her mommy when she is feeling not like herself so nothing is wrong with that!! Crying is the only tool she has to let you know something isnt right for her at that moment.



Always, always, always follow your instincts and dont let others sway u!! Be strong and let your mum know while you value her opinion the baby is yours and you will do what you feel is best at the end of the day.

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