How do I get my one year old to sleep the entire night in his crib?

Marilyn - posted on 06/22/2010 ( 49 moms have responded )

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My son just turned 1 this month and he falls asleep with me in my bed while i feed him his bottle or sing to him. Once he's asleep I change him to his crib and he will sleep there til about 1 am then cries til i pick him up and bring him over to my bed. As soon as he's in between my husband and i and his head touches the pillow he's asleep again. Not sure what to do. I want him to sleep through the night and fall asleep on his own without me having to bring him to our bed. HELP! Any suggestions?

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Amanda - posted on 01/23/2013

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I have the same problem, Riley only falls asleep in my arms, and on a bottle. I cannot get him to sleep on his own he gets so stressed out. The minute i put him in his cot he screams such a terrified scream, he has never slept in his cot form day one for something to have happened to him to traumatize him.
The minute u put him on my bed hes calm and asleep... its so frustrating - i am on a wait list to go to a sleep school but would lvoe any tips until then??? I feel for u :(

Lauralea - posted on 07/07/2010

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My son goes to sleep well most nights but it took work to make this happen. We bathe him, read books and turn on music every night just the same, then we put him in his bed still awake. We let him fuss for 5 min. then go in and pick him up and rock a little more. If he is really tired he will go to sleep after a couple of these rounds. Sometimes though his cry is not a tired one so we keep him up for another 30 minutes and then put him down. I broke him of the 1 am wakings by letting him cry it out. It is tough to do but it really helped to turn off the monitor so the cry wasn't so loud. I watched the clock and waited for him to back asleep. He took 3 nights to figure it out and now he sleep from 7:30pm-6:00am. I also recommed that if you put a bottle in his crib that you make it full of water. It is bad for a baby's teeth to have milk on their teeth all night - bottle rot. Water will also stop your baby from wanting to be nursed in the middle of the night. Have a bottle of water ready for the baby when he/she wakes rather than nurse. After a few nights of this they won't wake anymore-read this somewhere. Babys of a year old don't need to eat in the middle of the night for nutrition.

Mitzy - posted on 01/04/2013

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Hello! I co-slept for 10 months and my son would wake up every 40 minutes to nurse. Exhausted, I started a sleep-deprived mommy support group and eventually found some solutions for my family. I moved my baby to his own bed and then started helping other moms in the same boat as me. Since then I have helped countless other families. There is hope!

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Megan - posted on 06/30/2010

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My son did the same thing, from the time he was 3 months old until we broke him at 11 months. We were so exhausted in the night we would just grab him and he'd sleep on us all night, same as you said he would sleep all night on us, but the second we laid him in his crib he was up crying.

Crying it out. WORKS. But I'm not going to sit here and tell you it's easy, it's one of the hardest things I've ever done. And we tried it on 2 separate occasions. Then I got the flu a couple of weeks ago, DH was away, and I just couldn't do it anymore. I turned off the monitor and let him cry. It broke both our hearts, but he only cried for 40 minutes (only, ha). The second night was only 15 minutes (pouting really). By the third night he only cried for 1 minute. He sleeps through the entire night, unless he's sick of course. I can bond with him much better during the day since we both are well rested.

I always thought moms who did this were just horrible, especially after I tried it once. And you know your baby's cries, you will know if they are just really mad or if there is something actually wrong. I said after 3 days I would quit if it didn't work. And give yourself a limit. "I cant do this anymore, if he is still crying in 5 minutes I'll get him".

Alixguo - posted on 12/06/2012

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Wosh. My parents gifted us a super beautiful crib for my older daughter before she was born. That was 4.5 years ago. Now my younger daughter is 1 year and 4 month. And the fact is that no one has slept there for a night. Today, after I sent my older kid to school. My younger one is way pass nap time and did not sleep in the car...so I decided to try to have her sleep in the crib...which is only 1 foot next to my bed sleeping in the same direction. There is her favorite music next to her crib. I read every thread here. Someone said 45 minutes cry for the first time...so I thought that would be my limit. My younger daughter is a very easy to be cared baby. However, this is her first time sleeping on her own...in "a" crib. She started wining on and off for about 10 minutes (that was very long for me to sleep next to her without any response) and then she started crying gently for about 10 minutes (it felt like an hour. After about another 5 minutes, she started laying onto bed (she was tired) but then she would pick herself up and cry louder. I decided to encourage her if she lied down...so when she lied down, I went over her crib and pat her back....This is probably a bad move...because she wants me to hug her. That turned into another 10 minutes of loud cry and she sweated. Throughout the past 35 minutes, I would occasionally tell her to sleep and that did not seem to help. So I purposely turned my head away from her with my back facing her. She cried more and, when I turned around again a couple minutes after, both her legs are outside of the crib (I had placed pillows outside of cribs in case she climbed out). I mercilessly put her both legs back to the crib. When she tried to put another leg out, I moved her leg back to the crib and said "danger." When I sensed that she had given up coming out crib, I turned my head away from her again. She slowed down crying and lied down sobbing. Within a couple minutes, she felt asleep. The total time from sobbing to falling alseep was 40 minutes...but it really felt like 4 hours to me. I put her favorite doll, her water bottle, and replays her favorite music. This is just a lunch nap....and we will see what happens tonight and tomorrow...

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Nicole - posted on 01/01/2014

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Just let him cry it out that's what I do.. but don't let him cry longer than an hour and a half

Ankita Hemant - posted on 07/19/2013

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how can i pass my time with my child .he is 3 month old, i always hold him nd got tired

Tonia - posted on 07/01/2013

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Any ideas for my one year old? He will fall asleep easily in the recliner in the living room but won't let us take him to his room at all. He used to sleep there just fine, but now we can't even get near his crib. We can lay him on the couch, floor, anywhere as long as its not in his bed. He will fall asleep even without a bottle. We tried the crying thing, and this child literally kept us up all night long until I finally gave in about 430 am and took him back to the recliner.

Firsttimemother - posted on 12/20/2012

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sister ,i feel what u saying ... i've the same problem,i tried the cry out method but it didnt work ... i just started a few days ago to put him sleep on the floor(small mattress of course) instead ..and i hope it works

Alixguo - posted on 12/07/2012

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2nd day trying the cirb. We just came from museum. So she is tired and asked me to carry her. I carried her to her crib and put her head down the pillow and said "go to sleep." Then, I slept next to her (one foot away) in my bed WITH MY BACK FACING HER. I did not turn around...but I used my iphone camera looking at her to make sure that she does not try to jump out of the crib. In the first 5 minutes, she wined. Next 10 minutes, she cried on and off. Within that 10 minutes, she lied down a couple times trying to sleep. When she looked at me, I purposely move my legs a bit so she knows I am with her but I am asleep. Then she lied down and felt asleep in a couple minutes. It was altogether 18 minutes! Just like what the other post said! Comparing to yesterday where the cry sadness was perhaps 8 or 9, today's crying sadness was probably 4 or 5. For tomorrow it should be only 10 minutes just like a previous post said.

Stacy - posted on 08/24/2012

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I'm dealing with the same thing. Naps too. I'm about to put him in daycare soon and want him to be able to fall asleep wherever, whenever on his own.

Irina - posted on 07/07/2010

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Well, I'm sorry to say that but you already taught him bad habbits and it will not be easy to him to learn to sleep alone in his own bed. I get it, we all love our little ones and we'd do anything to comfort them. I don't have a special trick for you, I'm just saying it's going to take time and it will be hard for you both to change that. Try give him a favorite toy to hug... Probably he'll cry a lot for few nights until he gets it, that you won't get him in your bed, but he's big enough to take this step.

Bathobile - posted on 07/06/2010

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Ladies it looks like we most of us have the same problem. My baby is the same she sleeps in her cot but when its around 3am to 4am she is crying and wants to breast feed a little and sleeps for a while and up nursing and sleeps again so its a jigsaw puzzle I tell you. Don't now what to do anymore. I just go with the flow.

Jennifer - posted on 07/05/2010

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I had the same problem with my son at about 10 months of age....and I searched for every answer or solution I could find.....I now have no problem getting my son to sleep in my crib, but it was a hard time getting to this point a lot of sleepless nights. I don't let my son lay in my bed no matter how much he cries. To break this habit I used to rock him for about ten minutes and then if he was not asleep I would lay him down in his crib and let him be. He would get upset and cry I would continue to tell him to lay down. After about a half hour I would rock him again and lay him down....I kept this up and before long he exhausted himself after about 3 days of this when we went in the rocking chair he drank his bottle and went to sleep....It was rough but the main thing is you have to stick with it....giving in just ONCE sets you back to square one.

Renee - posted on 07/05/2010

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"Rachel Dei-Amoah
8:36 am : Most babies associate the breast with sleep. You really have to try and break this habit of sleep association with your family bed. Now who wouldn't want to sleep with mummy and the all night buffet. I wouldn't want to move to my own crib either."

I'm finding it hard to see how this is true... My son hasn't been breastfed in nearly 5mths, yet he will still wake up during the night & won't sleep in his cot!

Sophie - posted on 07/05/2010

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my son has slept through the night since he was 3 weeks, before then he would wake up and scream all night, all he wanted was a cuddle, by 3 weeks i was knackered so we put him in his own room, fed him and did his nappy, put him down at 7, he would wake at 4 for a feed, i would go in with no lights on and i wouldnt speak to him, 3 weeks after that he stopped wakin up for a feed and has been going from7pm to 10 am every night! u should try if u can be tough and u want your sleep that much!

Rachel - posted on 07/05/2010

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Most babies associate the breast with sleep. You really have to try and break this habit of sleep association with your family bed. Now who wouldn't want to sleep with mummy and the all night buffet. I wouldn't want to move to my own crib either.

Jill - posted on 07/04/2010

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My little one has no issue with going to bed. It is the waking up at 1 and 2 in the morning. We are going through the same thing. He wants to cuddle in the bed with mom and dad!! As soon as his head hits the pillow he is gone. I have started going in his room, picking him up to reasure him, and then putting him back down. He usually cries for two minutes at the most and goes back to bed.

Renee - posted on 07/03/2010

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i have the same thing. I would do the same thing as marilyn & at about 12/1am my son would cry for me to get him. I would then take him to the spare bed. i have now got him sleeping in the spare bed all the time & mostly by himself for the last 2weeks. A few nights ago he actually slept thru all night 2 night in a row til 6am. He's only done that 3 times in the cot & not consecutive nights.
I'm beginning to think he likes the freedom the bed gives him so he can roll around as much as he wants.
Is this a bad idea? He is 1...
Plus I am due to have another baby in october, I'm hoping if he is happy were he sleeps it will make it easier not having to worry about him during the night if I'm getting up with a newborn.

Rachel - posted on 06/30/2010

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Hi All,
There are a lot of really good suggestions here about getting your baby to sleep through the night. That's awesome!!
I just wanted to let you know what worked for me and a lot of my other friends. I too, had my son in the bed until he was 4.5 months. We finally got him out and sleeping not through the night but getting up once for a feed and then back in his crib. I have found that getting my son in bed by 7-7:30pm is the trick. I feel sometimes we as parents forget that our kids need a lot more sleep than us, like 12 hours and that does not start usually at 10am. Babies are way too overtired by then. Also getting then out of bed honestly teaches them the skills of self soothing and sleeping. Sleep is a skill and if we don't allow our kids to master this skill, it can leave to sleep issues. Of course every kid is different but the skill of sleeping is just that a skill that needs to be mastered.
Moving a child out of the family can be hard and you need to have confidence in yourself that it'll be ok and they will be fine. I know that was hard for me but I did it and my son has been sleeping through the night since he was 8 months. It was hard not going in there to pick him up when he woke up, we just shhh'd him and encourage him to go back to sleep. It really only took 3 nights and he was a happy camper.

Brittany - posted on 06/29/2010

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You will have to sleep train him. Let him cry in his crib at night, instead of running to his aid. It is really hard and can take up to 2 weeks, but once you have your bed to yourself, it will have been well worth it! Let him cry for up to 30 minutes the first night without picking him up, you can talk to him and comfort hm but don't pick him up. It's just makes it harder. As the nights go on, let him cry longer, with out going into his room, until eventually he cried himself back to sleep. As the week goes on, he'll learn you aren't coming to the rescue and will comfort himself, until eventually he doesn't wake up at all.
Good luck and btw, you won't be getting a lot of rest!

April - posted on 06/29/2010

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Routines are key... and stick with them! Couple other suggestions~ Kayla sleeps all night with music playing (classical, helps drown out any outside noise too), and we left her projection mobile on her crib. Not the actual mobile part, just the projector, and she has figured out how to work the buttons so if at any point she wakes up and is bored, she'll get up and turn it on (its just a button to push) and watch it till she falls asleep again. It makes her feel better when she can do things to self soothe, like turning on the mobile or chewing on her pacifier (that's all she does with them anyway).

Gisela - posted on 06/29/2010

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i tried to let my daughter cry it out and by night five she refused to sleep at all, just taking her to her bed she was crying. when i talked to our pediatrician about it she said that if it doesn't get better by the third night, letting her cry it out wasn't an option for us...ugh was my thought. finally after 9 long months of sleepless nights i decided to take away her pacifier, my thought was she is not sleeping now and if by chance she starts to sleep she will get out of whack again once we take her pacifier. guess what, the first night we took it from her she slept through the night, it seemed too good to be true but she has been sleeping mostly through the night now. she is teething so she wakes up on occasion and she will wake up when she goes through a growth spurt. she is my difficult child, nothing has been easy with her, including feeding her. she either gags or refuses all together what i try to give her. they are each individuals with a mind of their own so best of luck to you and try different things, eventually one will work for you.

Shanica - posted on 06/29/2010

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Gosh...I am in the same boat as most of you and just the other day, send a post asking for help.
All these postings are great and I will try some of these methods on my one year old.

I think I need to nurse him in his room before I put him down for the night rather than on my bed where he tends to fall alseep and I bring him into my bed in the middle of the night when he wont stop crying. I hate hearing him cry and everytime I pick him up, he doesn't have any tears in his eyes and I always fall for it.
What I would do to get a whole nights rest without having to get up every couple hours.

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routine is the key. find a routine that works for you... and stick to it! make sure it happens in their room and thats where they fall asleep.

also cut out the night bottle / nurse! 1 year olds dont need it and it will rot their teeth having that milk sit there all night. give a drink of water instead!

my daughter has always been a great sleeper... but after a recent ear infection, where we went in to her every cry as she was generally in pain she stopped sleeping so well.

it only took 3 days for her to figure out that if she cried... we came in! clever little things they are! so at 37 weeks pregnant, working full time and just generally being exhausted... i decided to just let her cry it out.

i put her down, turned off the baby monitor... went to bed myself and didnt go to her until 6am the next morning. it was the HARDEST thing i have ever done... but also the most rewarding.

she was asleep on the floor (she is in a toddler bed) when i went in to get her and she had given herself carpet burn on her nose from trying to snuggle into the carpet. the next night... not a peep! she slept through the whole 12hrs that we put her down for... and has done so since!

all it took was one night for her to realise bed time was bed time and nothing would make us going in to her!

i have never been an advocate for the CIO theory... but this time it really worked... i think as she is old enough to understand that i am not abandoning her but its simply 'sleep time' helped.

Jamie - posted on 06/28/2010

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STOP bringing him into your bed! Even when you first put him down. I know it's great to cuddle with them and it is one of the most rewarding moments as a Mom, but leave it for special moments, not an everyday thing. Feed him his bottle in his room, when you feel like he is about to fall asleep, place him up on your shoulder to wake him up a bit, cuddle for a minute patting his back, give a big hug and a kiss and place him in his crib, not completly asleep. Most likely what is happening is that he is waking at 1:00 and is confussed because when he feel asleep he was with you and in a different room. He will still wake up at 1:00 and expect you to come in, because this is what you have taught him, so when he wakes, give him 10 minutes to try and fall back asleep on his own, then go in, calm him down and leave the room, give him another 10 to try and fall asleep on his own. This will be hard for a couple of nights, but resist bringing him into your room. I would bet with in a week he will be sleeping through the night AND falling asleep at bed time by him self. GOOD LUCK!

Jenny - posted on 06/28/2010

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There is a book called baby 411, written by a pediatician. It has tips for correcting bad sleep habits. An infant is physically mature enough to sleep through the night (at least 6 hours) by four months of age. We don't let our daughter sleep past 5pm and her bedtime routine is the same every day, bedtime at 7:30pm. She sleeps through the night until at least 6 or 7 am. I wish there were an easy solution but we had to let her cry it out at 5 months. It was the hardest thing we ever did. Good luck to all of you.

Marilyn - posted on 06/28/2010

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Thank u all so much for your suggestions! I will try it this week and let you know what works for me :)

Kaleigh - posted on 06/28/2010

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I actually do the same thing only we do not even put him in his crib (i know tisk tisk) but when he wakes up in the middle of the night i found that ignoring him is the best way. I know it doesn't sound very nice, but if he wakes up halfway through the night I turn around so he can't see my eyes open and he will sit there for a few minutes then give up and fall back asleep. Next thing you know the sun is up and and I have a neck ache from baby bed hog in the middle! :)

Emma - posted on 06/28/2010

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hello marilyn



my son turned one last week and we were having the same problem. we had to rock him to sleep and put him in his cot, then at 1 am he would wake up and would spend the night in the bed with us.



i decided enough was enough. 4 days ago i gave him a bath about an hour before he usually goes to sleep. i then gave him a warm bottle and when he had finished that, put him into his cot awake. i sang him "twinkle twinkle" and left him. he cried. i went in 10 mins later, tucked him in again and left him to cry himself to sleep. it was horrible, but half hour later he was asleep. we had to get him into our bed that night though.



the next night, followed the same pattern but didn't go to him after 10 mins (we didn't go to him at all). he cried again for half hour but fell asleep. when he woke up that night, i gave him another bottle and left him alone. he fell asleep and didn't wake until the morning.



we have done the same thing the night after, and tonight he went to sleep with no crying at all.



it will be hard to cope with, and i think we have been a little luckier than some people, but if you persevere with this, it should work!



good luck! :-)

Carrie - posted on 06/28/2010

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It will be difficult for a few days, maybe even a week or two, but you have to let him cry it out. He needs to learn how to fall asleep on his own. You'll have to put him in his crib while he is still slightly awake. If he cries, I would go in in after 5 minutes and lay him back down. Go in again at 10 minutes if he keeps crying, then 15 minutes, and so on. If he wakes up in the middle of the night, you have to just bear it and let him cry, even if it is for 15/20 minutes. Like I said, it might be really difficult for a few days, but he will eventually learn to fall asleep on his own and calm himself if he wakes up.

Crystal - posted on 06/27/2010

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I got my husband to get my baby asleep in the living room and then he brings her to her crib.. When I do it she will not go to sleep in my arms I have to put her in her crib and let her cry, the first time it was hard but every day she cris a little less and now she is 1 yrs old we have no problem with bed time.. I know hearing your baby cry is hard but you have do do it.

Naomi - posted on 06/27/2010

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We're struggling with this right now too, and I'm reading an AWESOME book, it's called "in search of sleep'.. by bonnie.. richert?? anyway, so encouraging, helped me know I'm not alone and I don't have to feel guilty for having 'caused' the sleep issues we are having.
We just moved and ethan has his own room now, so we are trying to help him sleep through the night because it is 100 times more tiring to have to go into a different room to nurse then just taking him into bed, or feeding in bed than placing down in his bed near by you! I thought that was tiring, Ha!
Also, he has gotten to the point where he cannot BE asleep at bedtime without a nipple in his mouth, (and he doesn't take a pacifier, lol) I put him down and he would wake right back up. So, this is what we do:
I nurse him to sleep, cus we are not ready to wean, and as long as it's just the one time I have no problem nursing to sleep, it's way easier and a special time for us. Then I put him down, if he wakes up crying, I hug him, say it's sleep time now, and lay him back down, then begin to sing. He pops up, I put him back down. etc etc. It took an hour the first night. he cried the whole time, but I was right there beside him, singing, but not picking up or nursing anymore. He never got into that 'scream' out of control cry, I cannot handle that one, I physcially can't stay out of the room, so this way, he was just sobbing and whining and I could deal with it, because I was right there with him as he cried and learned how to fall asleep without nursing. eventually he stayed lying down so I could rub his back and sing him to sleep. Hopefully we'll be able to eventually leave him before he's asleep but for now, we just sing and he falls asleep that way. at least he's not attached to my chest!
But night time is a totally different story! We are trying to do the same thing at night, but it is SO hard ( for us, he hasn't even cried yet.) it's just more tiring. my husband is finishing up his teaching job for the summer so he is going to do it for a week, and we'll see if that works, with him going in at night and singing and sitting by the bed until he falls back asleep. If not... he might be coming back into our bed. at least that way we all sleep! we'll see.
From what I've read and talking to other moms, the one thing I know for sure is that no two babies are the same!! each one needs their own unique sleep routines! Also, there seems a point where the baby is able to sleep through the night on their own, and that is also unique.. but it won't last forever! good luck!

Raina - posted on 06/26/2010

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Our son sleeps great he will be one in one week. i make sure he does not nap past 6 and just play with him and let him be, then i feed him some baby food with a small bottle and hes out like a light for anywhere between 6 to 9 hours. he wasnt getting full enough to make it through the night. i had to learn to self sooth mine he was terrible about that but a few nights i let him cry jus a lil longer than usual and it worked hes a pro now.

Ashley - posted on 06/26/2010

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OK. . So it was the HARDEST thing to do when I was trying to get my baby to sleep on his own..and your child will NEVER sleep on their own unless they know HOW to fall asleep on their own. My son slept in out bed for 9 months..NINE months of 3 hrs or less of split up sleep. I was a mess. , we tried sleep training at 6 months...8 months and then again at 9 months. The first two times it was a distaster and I gave up. and then one day.. he just. . was like Im a big boy now Im going to do it.
So we started him on a routine it is. . dinner around 6. . bath around 7:30 and bottle and then cuddle and then bed. So the first night he went into his crib very very sleepy - like seconds from sleeping on me. and I placed him in his crib - said goodnight put a little blankie on him and walked away - the minute i started walking away and he got up and started crying - i closed the door and walked away - and i showed back up 5 minutes later - i layed him back down - put his blanket back on, put his soother in and rubbed his back for a couple seconds and left - he got up and cried again - i then arrived back 10 minutes later and did the exact same thing (no talking, just layed him back down, put his blanket on, rubbed his back a little put his soother in and left) . . he cried again I arrived back 15 minutes later and did the SAME exact thing. when i left..I came downstairs..and he was asleep within 2 minutes. . . its took 32 minutes to get him to sleep - i loved it. he was Ready FINALLLYY. (Now if he would have continued to cry I then would have returned 20 minutes later, followed by 25 minutes later and so on until he was asleep, but when you hear his cry starting to get softer and so on its best to not go in, becuase he is on his way to falling asleep). so then in the middle of the night he woke up. . and started crying. . really hard...and I fought every urge in my body to go in there - but I started it and by god i was not about to ruin it. . so I let him cry for a bit(15 min) and low and behold he was fast asleep until 7 in the morning. I COULDNT BELIEVE IT. . after such a terrific night there was NO turning back now. . So night two i did the same exact thing - same routine and everything. . this time it took him 21 minutes to fall asleep - and by the 3rd night he was asleep in 5 minutes with NO crying. . it was a miracle. - - Like I am a WHOLE new person. . I feel fantastic now that I get my sleep.
Sometimes I think you need to just be firm for a couple days. . Im sure during the day he cries for a little while - or even if you are feeling stressed and you dont know what to do - you place him in the crib so you can recollect yourself...well its no different but this time you are actually teaching him to sleep on his own....Its not like when you put him in the crib to cry. he is going to cry for 2 hrs straight and You dont return. U are going to be checking in on him to make sure he is ok...And if he is going to throw up its FINE - EVERYONE even adults throw up if they are crying to much -
Pretty soon it will all just be a nightmare and easily forgotten.
Some people look into it to much - and yes you will feel bad but you are going to be going in to check on your child, make sure things are ok..and he will fall asleep _ might just take some time.


Thats my sugggestion lol.. it worked for me...and it was not cruel in any way shape or form. .He goes to bed now - sleepy and sleeps from 7:30 - 8ish until 6-7ish every night and I couldnt be happier..I really mean it.!!!
Good luck ladies. .

Zoe - posted on 06/26/2010

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I was in the same situation until around 6 weeks ago, my youngest Niko whos 1 on wed, used to wake every 25 mins all night, health visitor refered me sleep clinic as he didnt sleep during day either and i was a complete mess with lack of sleep and understanding from people who doesnt realise how hard it is to not get a sleep for almost a year, anyways done what sleep clinic said, no more bottles after 11, ignore him when he tries to make eye contact, dont lift him ect.. nothing worked... my husband had always said that the wee one felt the anxiety from me and thats why he didnt sleep...load of rubbish or so i thought, iv always had a fear of them stopping breathing so had cot right beside me, so after talking it thru we decide to move him into big brothers room next door and for the first time ever... the little monster SLEPT all night and has continued to do so :D, i put him down with his sleepy ted and put a bottle in the corner of the cot give him a kiss and walk out.. he cries for a few min but then settles down. I think you just need to do whats right for you and baby, it was harder for me to cope with the change than him. Have you had any help from your health visitor ? xx

Hannah - posted on 06/26/2010

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im in the same situation..my son just turnd 1 on the 16th of june and hes always been a good baby slept threw the night since he was born.. and when he hit 6months thats when things changed.. i also cuddle and lay down in bed with my son but atm it seems to be getting out of hand..even for his day naps i have to lay down with him..he wakes up 2 times a night and soon as i lay down with him hes asleep straight away..i cant put him in his cot with a bottle coz he refuses to hold it?? what do i do plzz some1 help me

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Hey Marilyn, I know it might sound silly and the website look silly but I did think the same ;) It REALLY did work for me and my son ;) You can always give it a go or get your money back, right?:) let me know how it goes ;) x

Heather - posted on 06/25/2010

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My son will be a year old on the 30th and he has been sleeping through the night since he was about 2 or 3 months old. At about six months he started waking up again through out the night wanting to eat, so we would give him a bottle. That wasn't enough to cut it so we went and bought a mobile that has lights for the baby to watch and plays all sorts of nature sounds, music, or even the heart beat for when baby first comes home. It was a little expensive, but it has been a miracle. We turn it on when he goes to bed and he is out like a light. When we went to take him off the bottle he started waking up again, but it was just a matter of starting a new routine so he knew it was time for bed and time to sleep. We let him cry it out for about 10 to 15 minutes before we would go get him and after about a week, he was back sleeping through the night and 100% off the bottle and formula. My best suggestion is to find a routine that works that doesn't include a bottle or nursing before bed. If you are singing or reading to them, do it in their room. As for breaking them of wanting to sleep in your bed, I have no suggestions. Day 1 home from the hospital my son slept in his own room in his own bed and has been there ever since. Hope this helps or gives you some encouragement.

Marilyn - posted on 06/25/2010

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Karolina does it really work? I looked at the website and seems fake.... but if u say so i will try to order it soon. Thanks!

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Hi there!! I have got something amazing for you! My son finished 1 year on 10th of June and till then he was a nightmare in the night! He kept waking up 2-3 times in the night always for a cuddle and sometimes he kept waking up when I put him back to bed so then, like you, I took him to my bed and we slept together. But after a year of broken sleep I had enough! And on his 1st Birthday my friend gave me an AMAZING GIFT - 35min audio program that made my son sleep for the very first night when I tried it !!! I was shocked! I did wake up few times in the night (habit) but my son since then ( 2weeks now) sleeps on his own in his cot ans sleeps throught the night and does NOT WAKE UP ! have a look ! this stuff is a blessing to every parent !! lots of love xx http://tiny.cc/babysleepsolution

Amy - posted on 06/24/2010

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I with ya sista! My daughter will go to sleep after I nurse her, and she wakes up about 1-2 times a night. Sometimes she sleeps all night, but usually she wakes up 1. I have a friend of mine who's daughter started sleeping 12 hr a night right before she turned one. This is something that I have been wondering myself. I would just see if she cried it out one night, but we're living with my in-laws for the time being, so I can't let her cry and wake up the other 5 people living in the house.

Erin - posted on 06/24/2010

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I'm in the same boat as well! Some night shes great and sleeps thru the night. But mostly its a 1 or 2am wake up. Even a bottle will not soothe her. Hope you get some suggestions soon! I'll take any help I can get!

Georgia - posted on 06/22/2010

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I don't have any suggestions, just the same predicament! and my little Max falls asleep while nursing, so he's hard to transition. I think I've dug myself quite a hole by letting him get used to sleeping in the bed for too long already. I would love to here other suggestion...

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