how many only having one bubs?

Jessy - posted on 01/26/2010

Im with you on this,Im only gonna have the one baby. I think its great you can give her all the attention and she wont be jealous of another baby,also we will have more money and time for her. I don't think you should have another baby for your current child because they can make friends.Do what you want don't let other people decide for you.

Colleen - posted on 01/26/2010

We are only planning to have one. I will be 40 in March and although it's probably possible, I don't want to have a pregnancy/child in my early 40's. I feel lucky enough to have had a baby and am planning to have him in playgroups and possibly enroll him in a 2's preschool program when the time comes so he can get enough socialization through those avenues. It drives me crazy when you have a baby and people immediately start asking you if you're going to have another. I know many people mean well, but I wouldn't dream of asking someone that when their baby is still in the newborn stage.

Laurie - posted on 01/25/2010

There is no one way to do this family thing - if you only want one child and you are lucky enough to have one - then you don't need to explain this to anyone else. That being said, I run into the same boat. I have one and EVERYONE is asking when am I going to provide a sister or brother and for now, I don't have any intention of popping one out anytime soon -- when really invasive people ask about siblings, I simply state that after the first one I was told I can't have more children - it is mean, but it gets people to stop asking the question!

Kim - posted on 01/25/2010

That's so funny that your mom says that, Robin. My father-in-law has said that countless times to my husband and me. He always says that people wait too long because they don't think they can afford to have one, and when the time comes where they are financially comfortable to have one, it's too late.

What a coincidence. :)

Robin - posted on 01/25/2010

i had a terriable labour... 23hrs followed by an emergency c-section... followed by a blood transfusion and an infection as a result of the surgery!

still.. 5 hours after our angel was born... i turned to my husband and said "i cant wait to have another baby"! and sure enough 3 1/2 months later my fellings had not changed and we were pregnant with number two!

the choice of how many children you want is such a personal choice! it hard enough deciding as a couple how many children you want, let alone with the pressure of parents and friends and what they sugguest! i have friends who have one child, i have friends how have 3 and 4 and some who want a small football team of kids... and i support all of them in their decision.

the only advice i would ever give to a couple who is deciding when or how many children to have is the same advice my mum gave me to...

"you will never be able to afford having kids... so dont wait until you think your financially ready... cos that day will never come!"

and it is so true! i dont think fiances should stop you from having more children... obviously you dont want to send yourself broke... but if a child misses our of music lessons or a vaccation each year... its a small price to pay for a loving family!

Kerri-Ann - posted on 01/25/2010

I wouldn't worry about anyone else, it is your life and if you only want one have one! They will get over it, but at the same time if you are having mixed emotions about it give it a few more months then talk to your man and make your decision, just remember it is YOUR decision.

Danielle - posted on 01/24/2010

My husband and I are only having one as well. I had the ideal pregnancy and birth, but my husband and I would rather just have one, and be able to give her anything and everything she wants and needs. We have friends with babies around her age, and we are going to join a playgroup. And when she is older she can do all the activities and sports that she wants, and I will never have to miss a game or recital, she can bring friends when we go on vacation, and we will be able to buy her her first car, and retire after putting her through college. We have gotten a lot of comments about when we will have another, but he got a vasectomy when our daughter was about 4 months old, so that is always a conversation stopper. There is nothing wrong having more than one, my sister in law has 4... but one is perfect for us

Varinia - posted on 01/24/2010

I plan on having more but that is me personally. I think everyone has to look at their own situation. You can't rely on what other people say. You and your hubs are the only ones who know everything that you guys need and have. I think if you are comfortable with one and thats all you can handle then go for it! It's your life;) GOOD LUCK!

Roseanne - posted on 01/24/2010

my daughter is 7 mnths aswell and am pretty fed up of ppl asking/ telling me when they think i shud i try to ignore my labour wasnt bad but thru my pregnancy scared me alot am still recovering here and there now my partner and i agreed we wait if i want another for our daughter to start skool before we think yes or no x

Shannon - posted on 01/23/2010

I had a bad experience with my labor as well, but that is not the reason I am only having one. I have planned for just one & couldn't be happier with her. Though I hear people change there mind over time. My Dad is an only child & so are some of my friends & I think they are just fine. Why can't people be happy for you where you are in your life. Like when you were dating they would ask when are you getting married, then when are you having kids, now when are you having another. Just let it go, you can never appease everyone. Good for you wanting to provide the very best for him with the type of lifestyle you want him to have. I know parents want the best for their kids but too many people are having more kids then they can truely afford. When I am gone I want my daughter to be able to have everything I have worked so hard for. This way I am at peace with myself knowing she is taken care of. Although she will understand the meaning of it too. I fugure if the Lord has different plans for us then we are not in control anyway. Otherwise my daughter is it for us.

Sheree - posted on 01/23/2010

I only have my little girl at the moment, but can't wait to give her a little brother or sister. we would be trying now but we are going on a family holiday to fiji in august, so we are waiting until we get back, as its already booked and paid for and I dont want to not be able to go as im just about to pop, or if we try just before we go, i dont want to be sick with morning sickness like i was the first time. I think its a personal choice really, i've always wanted 4 children and my husband wanted 3, yet to make a decision on how many, we may end up stopping at the 2.

Jessica - posted on 01/21/2010

i agree with susan.. i'm not even sure i want another baby at this point. i get asked all the time too! it's getting old saying that one is enough. lol. i am happy and my daughter is an angel.. y chance having a demon child.. lmao

Amanda - posted on 01/19/2010

I didn't plan my 7 month old daughter. My son was an infertility baby and was only just 1 ( when I weaned him I got prrg with her immediately). She is awesome!!! Don't write off another one...as I only wanted 1 got a 2 nd and now would like a 3 rd in the future!

Kim - posted on 01/19/2010

I was in the same boat as you up until about a month ago. My labor wasn't horrible, by any means at all. But my epidural experience kind of scarred me and turned me to not want another simply because of that. Along with the epi scare, the first few months were hell for me. My husband had to immediately go back to work, and I live about 30-40 minutes away from my friends and family. It didn't make it impossible to have help, but it did make it a little difficult. I felt completely alone, and I had NO idea what I was doing. To add to the mix, I developed a case of PPD (which thankfully went away a couple months ago). I was miserable. So, everything I was feeling made me not want another.

However, since things have started to look up I've reconsidered it. I don't want another anytime SOON, but the thought is in my head. I plan to do a surrogacy before I do another pregnancy for us. I loved being pregnant, and I would like to have the pregnancy, give labor, and then be able to relax afterwards and not take care of a newborn. Plus, the thought of doing that for somebody sounds so rewarding.

Nikole - posted on 01/19/2010

i think you should not make that choice right now. if you and hubby dont want more dont have more but leave the talking about between you and hubby and dont let friends or family influnce your choice

Susan - posted on 01/19/2010

My daughter just turned 7 months on the 15th, and I am in no hurry to have another one. Not even sure if I want another one. Sometimes I think maybe one more but than other times I am just happy with the one that I have.