i'm a terrible mummy.

Sarah - posted on 03/23/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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yesterday the 22nd march i fell down the stairs and my son slipped out of my arms. he sort out of bounced off one of the stairs and landed on the floor. we took him to the hospital to get him checked and they wanted to keep him in for observation but i wanted to take him home so we did. he is fine now but i still feel like a bad mum.

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Bridget - posted on 03/27/2010

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I think we have all had an oops. I fell asleep with my then 2 week old son on my chest and woke up to the feeling of his body falling off me. I felt awful. You get over it. Learn from any mistake you make and do the best you can. You'll be alright.

Sheree - posted on 03/27/2010

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You are really NOT a bad mum for that. it could of happened to anyone, im sure you didnt plan on falling down the stairs, it was an accident and these things happen. The main thing is that you are both ok :)

Danielle - posted on 03/27/2010

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dont feel bad my daughter fell off the couch and landed on her head onto a hardwood floor....not the best way to find out she can roll now!

Lori - posted on 03/27/2010

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you are NOT a bad mom...accidents will happen. My 8 month old Brianna decided to roll over for the first time when I turned my back for two seconds and left her on the couch. Well the thud and then the screaming terrified me. I called the pediatrician
and told him what happened. He assured me she was probably fine but to watch her. I've felt like the worst mommy in the world SO many times in the past 9 months with her. Just the fact that we worry that we are bad mothers is one of the things that makes us good mothers. HUGS to you and you little one!!

Jennifer - posted on 03/25/2010

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I have twins, and one night my hubby and I were playing with them when he accidentally DROPPED our son, head-first, onto our daughter's HEAD 5 feet below. They were 6 months old, I think our son lurched forward and my hubby was not expecting this. I thought we killed them! I cried all night even though both babies were just fine.

Mindy - posted on 03/25/2010

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Sarah..Accidents happen. Don't make urself feel bad cuz of that. A few days ago my daugther rolled off the couch and I was 2 feet away..She's fine and laughed about it. THings will happen...just think of the funny things that ur son does and laugh about it. He's not hurt and thats all u can hope for in accidents

Colleen - posted on 03/25/2010

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I firmly believe the reason we don't remember these years in our lives is because we would be traumatized from all the bumps, falls, and brusies we get as babies and toddlers. I'm sure your baby will be fine, and have no lasting memory of this. My son just fell out of our bed this morning. He was sleeping (so I thought) with pillows around him, well he rolled right over them and onto the floor. I believe the shock of it scared him most. He too will not remember (thankfully)

Shudiara - posted on 03/24/2010

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Don't worry things like that happen. I felt the same way the first time my baby fell off of the bed. She cried and then got over it. I can remember a few years back a lay in my church she dropped her baby on his head onto a hard concert floor, and my mom told us she even dropped my sister out of her car seat. She 22 now with two kids of her own, and she is fine. So don't be hard on your self, if you know you are a good mom and you are taking care of you baby and care about his well being don't worry.

Sarah - posted on 03/24/2010

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thanks everyone for your support. i brought him home because i would have been more worried in the hospital. i knew what to look for if he had any serious injuries and to be honest deep inside me i knew he was going to be ok if we took him home.

Chantel - posted on 03/24/2010

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Don't be hard on yourself, accidents happen. But if you don't mind me asking why did you take him home against the hospitals wishes? I just know if it was me i would want my son to stay just in case. But by taking him home doesn't make you a bad mother either. :)

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The guilt will pass, Sweetie. What happened was not your fault, there wasn't much you could have done to prevent it from happening and you certainly didnt intend him any harm. It sounds like he is fine, any marks will fade and he won't remember it. A fall does NOT make you a bad mummy, the fact that you are still beating yourself up means that you are actually a very good, devoted mum, otherwise you wouldn't care so much.

PATRICIA - posted on 03/24/2010

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This happens to the best of moms! Do not be so hard on yourself. I felt the same way when my boy was 6 months (currently 9 months) and I left him on the bed, didn't know he would lift his bum upwards and fall when I left him there, because he never did that before the specific day. So smile and give your baby all the love and support you have to offer and let him know you are always there when he needs you.... Good luck

Clare - posted on 03/23/2010

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could have happened to any one!!! might have been best to keep him in for observation but they really wouldn't have discharged him if he wasn't OK.... Don't be hard on yourself.... im sure your a great mam.

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