I'm pregnant again. Help!

Amanda - posted on 06/22/2010

I am due october 27th and my son just turned one on the 19th of june, and I am excited to have another one already. they will get to grow up together:)

Crystal - posted on 06/21/2010

I kind of know how you are feeling. My finace' and I had our little one, who will be one June 25th... my little boy is due Sept. 29th and I'm so sad for Emily because now she's not going to have the chance to be an only baby. I never wanted to have another kiddo until she was old enough to say yes or no but in 10yrs I wanted another one anyway weather or not she said no haha.
Emily was a birth control baby and I didn't know I was pregnant with her until I was ... 18/19weeks but with this kiddo I knew I was pregnant by the time I was 4weeks along. I was getting the IUD the week after and I was very persistant on no sex until afterwards, but it was x-mas eve and figured a condom could handle it....
So, the baby boy is due Sept 29th! lol. I plan on getting my tubes tied, but my doctor convinced me of the 10yr IUD.

I'm hoping Emily and her little brother can be best buddies but we're having such a hard time with it because we can't afford a lot for Emily so I feel so bad bringing this little guy into a hard life. But then again I know he'll appreciate everything he gets when he gets older. =]

Kayla - posted on 06/21/2010

it will be a struggle as far as gettin sleep but having them so close together is really a good thing. your son will be just old enough that he will be able to help out with little things and honestly he will be the best when you need a little bit of a break from the new baby. they will be the best of friends and your son will love playing with the baby tryin to help you with everything. it is really amazing how kids are fascinated with other kids. everything will be fine i promise, keep your head up!

April - posted on 06/21/2010

Congrats, you will be just fine dont worry, my daughter will be 1 Sunday and Im pregnant with my 2nd which will be due on dec.12th....my bestfriend and sister are 1yr 1mon and 1day apart and they are so close...so look at it as a positive thing they probably will be bestfriends and very protective of each other...again congrats i wish you the best of luck

Jaclyn - posted on 05/18/2010

Dont worry at all. I have three kids under 3 all are 14 months apart. They are best friends and very close. I wouldnt of do it different. All three was on birth control. They wont be jelous unless you have the fear. Its been wonderful having the and we have a very good schedule so all three sleep through the night and the go to bed at 8 and wake up at 10. Dont be afraid to let them cry thereselves o sleep. Their cribs are the safest place as long as you dont have all the extra stuff in there. Good luck and congrats

Karen - posted on 04/29/2010

My Daughter is 11months old on 2nd May. I am pregnant with my 3rd child, due in 6weeks time. (So almost a year apart). I'm in the same boat, birth control failed and I was upset at first. Now I am so far along with the pregnancy and am happy that it has happened. My daughter is walking so it is easier now. My partner works night shift aswell, so it is tough to balance out family and a relationship. Hang in there, it doe's get easier. My oldest boy 5yrs is a great lil helper. :-) Your babies will grow up loving you so much and will be great playmates for life.

Rozess - posted on 04/28/2010

hi there i have a 10 month old son and i have just had my 2nd baby(1 week old today :) ), they are just 10 months apart so i would have gotten pregnant straight away,it is hard but atleast your kids aint as close in age as mine,they arnt even 1 year apart but you will get there new borns are way more eaiser then toddlers if i can do it so can you :)

Melissa - posted on 04/28/2010

My second was born when my first was 13 months old so I definitely know how overwhelmed you are! all I can say is the only thing that keeps my sanity is ROUTINE!! You will be happy if you get them on a routine right away! good luck!

Tina - posted on 04/28/2010

First congrats!! Think of how your children will be able to grow together and be soo close!! ITs a wonderful gift for both of them! I had three kids under three! my first where 18 months apart meaning I got pregnant when my first was 9 months... then between the second and third there was only 15 months... pregnant when second was 6 months! It can be hard! but it is worth it! My hubby is a truck driver and only home 1 day a week! Not even at nights ... when he is gone he is gone! Love has a way of growing to include more! its amazing ... you will love them both equally but differently as their own personalities will trigger different ways of loving and disciplining them. When I had my second I found that I relaxed a whole lot.. and even more with my third! I was a bit of a stress freak with my first!! You will find a groove that works for you... set your boundaries and stick to them... be consistent, and remember that this is only for a time. Determine within yourself to enjoy them and make the best of every day! Not saying that there will not be hard days... Ive had all three kids crying at once and all i could do was sit on the floor with them and cry too!! (must have been a sight!!) I have discovered that so much of what I feel is a choice! Its soo easy to get depressed... you have a lot on your plate! but I had to make up my mind to enjoy life and these little blessings... it does not come naturally or easily... but it is worth it I promise!! You CAN do this! Again the sleep loss and baby stage is only for a time... it will pass way too quickly and then you will be looking back and miss it!! :-)
all the best!!

Carmen - posted on 04/24/2010

I have 2 very close together, only a year and 3 days apart......i wasn't having 1 baby let alone 2 and now i wouldn't change a thing. I was very worried about splitting my time and love between them but from somewhere you find more time and more love for each of them. I'm not gunna lie it has been hard work sometimes but the good times far out weigh this.
To make things worse i moved house 15 days before my second was born so the last few weeks really toke its toll!!!
Make sure your family and friends know how you feel and don't be afraid to ask for help, someone will always want to help out with a new baby :-)
I'm sure everything will work out for you, try and enjoy...ooohhh and the thing i found the most, you are more relaxed with your second so should be alittle easier.
All the best Carmen

Jaclyn - posted on 04/24/2010

Not to worry when u r despeate for help friends new n old will b there. Re connect w old friends so u have someone face to face to vent to u kno u can trust. N have family get more involved young n old. Wheni have my friends kids come over 6 8 11 they keep him busy too. So you must have young cousins, they r handy too so u can get chores done n u can pay in candy! Well I too am due nov 16 n my son is so active n i get so upset w him sometimes i too dont kno how ill deal when my man at work, i kno i have a few friends too call but sometimes u want to cope byurself n we all have bad days theres nothin wrong w that. Good luck to u n like previous said plan ahead is a great tool.

Fiona - posted on 04/24/2010

Hi I was so stressed when I found out I was having twins. I didnt think I was going to coup but I couldnt have been more wrong. I still get worried Im not spending enough time with one or the other but in the mornings I try to get them to nap at the same time as each other so I can get house work done or have a rest. Of an afternoon I try to get them to have seperate naps so I can spend time with them on their own. It works most of the time and makes me feel less guilty and I have a little time of my own. Goodluck you will be alright mums coup some how. its better to talk about your worries you did step 1

Karna - posted on 04/23/2010

Jennifer and Shannon, my advice is purely from moms I know in the same situation, and this is what they shared with me:

Having children of less than 18 months apart is hard at first - most of them said the first year is/was bad, and these moms often feel like they are raising twins. But remember, a year is ONLY 365 DAYS LONG
Building a support structure is essential. Do whatever you have to do, but find a mommy group, make friends NOW, before the new baby comes, and this way you'll have some support those first few hard months.

Some other advice I have is: plan ahead now as well as you can. You know that your firstborn will need attention. Get him used to reading-time now - somewhere where you can breastfeed the second baby. So when baby comes, you already have that bit sorted. Whenever you feed the baby, the first one will bring his book, and you will read to him while you breastfeed the baby. Maybe your fiance can do the weekly library trip?

Also do some research now on age appropriate games you can play with your firstborn those first six months - HAVE AS MANY THINGS AS POSSIBLE.on your list. Even places to go, Obviously things he/she can do on their own (like paint with plain water on newspaper), is handy to have on the list. A technique I saw on Super Nanny was to introduce a game/activity to the child, play along for about 3 to 5 minutes, and then let them play on their own, while you spend a few minutes with the other baby or household chores

And - once the baby is there. Take it one day at a time. It will only get better, and I agree - your kids will be the best of friends

LASTLY, I just want to say: PRAY. Nothing is impossible to God - even giving you the sweetest, easiest, best sleeping, no cramping, etc 2nd born

Shannon - posted on 04/09/2010

im in the same position. my daughter will be 10 months on the 24th, and im due mid-late October. it was a total surprise, but i guess i'll get through it.ive talked to a lot of people that are/were in the same situation, and they said the first couple months are hard, but once you get into a routine it gets easier. also, there is very minimal jealousy between the babies when they're less than 18 months apart compared to bringing a new baby into a family with a 2 or 3 year old, and the older one gets jealous at first. im sure you'll figure it all out... im hoping i do too! good luck though and everything will work out.

Andrea - posted on 04/09/2010

You are gonna do great! It is scary at first, and I completely understand where you are coming from. But it just takes some adjusting. Your kids will be close, and they will be betetr friends this way too. He will be walking by the time the baby gets there. Have you tried maybe joining a local mommy's group? That can really help you rellieve some of yoru anxiety. And make soem friends in the process, maybe trade babysittingwith some other moms to get in a nap on those really rough days. Good luck to you. I know it is a surprise, but you will be okay!

Leah - posted on 04/08/2010

Things will start looking up. Stay positive. I wish you the best.