is my son slow?

Hannah - posted on 04/11/2010 ( 85 moms have responded )

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My sons 10months old, and just the other day my mum said that he should be clapping his hands and waveing at that age? but hes not..is he slow??? if any other mums out there could help me out...wickd and thank u

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Love - posted on 04/13/2010

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I think your son is not slow. Think of Albert Einstein.. He began to talk when he was 4 years old. How much more when he was in his 10th month, what do you think could he do when he was at that age?? Maybe children are not all the same with their milestones. My child calls me by a name which she created when she was 2 months old but until now she doesn't want to hold her bottle while feeding... :-)

Kimberley - posted on 04/13/2010

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hi there my girl is 10mths jus started clapping 2 days ago to me every baby is different and learns at their own pace my boy was way more advanced than my girl at this age but she had a clicky hip born and was put in a cast waist to ankles which put her behind a lil bit but she is now catching up to what he was doing my girl hasnt stared waving yet ant think my boy didnt wave till 11 1/2months. :-)

Jaclyn - posted on 04/13/2010

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have to add in to the recurring theme, nope not slow, mine is not clapping, banging yes, not waving bye slapping me in the face yes. he has no teeth yet n doesnt sleep throught the night regularly. He does hold his own bottle n or sippy cup n feeds himself. Every child is sooo differ. As long as when they are 1 1/2 years n listens, reacts to ur voice n pts to what he wants n plays w toys properly u have nothin to worry about (autism signs) besides that ur child cant develop down syndrome, doc say hes fine he is! Hey b4 we kno it they will tell us they hate us n never b home then go to college in a differ state! : (

Andrea - posted on 04/13/2010

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No!!! not holding her bottle is not a sign of anything, other than she wants you to continue to help her!! thats ok! my son 10 months old very rarely holds his bottle and my older son never held his bottle and he is not developly slow at all!! Enjoy the moments of feeeding her, she will do it if she wants, when she's ready!! best wishes

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Keep in mind they only do what they are shown. So unless you have been working with him a lot on clapping and waving hello don't even sweat it. My son is about to be 10 months and isn't doing it yet either. However, I have just started showing him clapping and waving. I can tell he will start doing it asap too. When I say bye bye he totally mouths it but the word isn't coming out consistently just yet. Just because one baby does it at 8 months and another at 10 months means nothing. That baby most likely has seen it more often then yours or especially mine. It is just my son and I so I not much waving hello action going on here. Since he is so alert now and knows how many items function I am starting to go to the next level with him. Your son is so not slow. Too many mommies think that if their child isn't doing as much as what other babies are something is wrong. That simply isn't the case. Each baby has their own personality and processes things when they want to, not when you want them to. Relax and know that your son is a beautiful, healthy and smart little boy.

Andrea - posted on 04/13/2010

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Dont worry, all babies go at there own pace! My son just turned 10 months on the !st of April, and he just started to clap this past week, well its an attempt to clap. My older son, (he is now 6), didnt not clap at this age. He took a little longer to pull himself up, roll over and may things!! It is ok! Just keep working with him and he'll pick it up when he is ready!! good luck to you!! :)

Sarah - posted on 04/13/2010

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Kids do things and different ages my son is doing things generaly a month before my daughter did, my son has just gone 10 months and he is walking around where as my daughter didnt walk until 12 months and she had to push a trolley around she didnt walk by herself until 18 months so every child is different thats what makes them who they are

Vivienne - posted on 04/13/2010

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My son will be 10 months old on the 20th. He doesn't wave bye bye, he does clap a bit. But he didn't start crawling until about 2-3 weeks ago. When most my friends babies were crawling at 6 months and walking at 10. But he has done other things early, sitting, rolling. I don't think your son is slow. There are alot of factors. Babies do things when they want to, not when the books say they should. I would not worry at all. he will do that stuff when he wants to. also if he hasnt had people clap at him alot than he probably wouldnt do it yet. I know with my son we have to show and show and show before he would do it... Every baby is different! I definatly don't think hes slow one bit

Jenniffer - posted on 04/13/2010

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Im concerned about my daughter as well. She can clap, and wave bye- bye and she can shake her head no..... but she doesnt crawl, or walk or even pull her self to stand. She is 9 1/2 months old. Should I be worried?

Susan - posted on 04/13/2010

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my daughter is 9 1/2/ months and isnt doing either thing I have started waving her hand bye bye when we leave someplace to try to help a little bit..

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Thank you so much for this post. My son is 10 months old and is not clapping either. I am trying sooo hard to teach him, but he just refuses. I was getting worried too, but after reading all the responses I am very relieved that he's not the only one :-)
He does point at everything and everyone though. I think he's worked out that by pointing at something he gets told what or who it is, which to him is probably more fun than making a sound with his hands.
It is true that every baby learns things when they choose to :-)

Megan - posted on 04/12/2010

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My son does not clap his hands. He sort of waves but not really. Everyone tells me my guy is super advanced. I think your mom has just forgotten how old you were when you did things. It happens. Don't worry, I'm sure he is right on track and there are probably plenty of things he does that babies his age are not doing yet.

Julian - posted on 04/12/2010

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Hannah i think u show get the baby can read dvd that will help ur son my son jaiden hes also 10 months and he can do all of these.

Denise - posted on 04/12/2010

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My boy is 10 months old now and he does wave but doesn't clap his hands yet. I wondered about that too but i think every baby is so very different so i wouldn't worry too much at this stage. x

SHARONDA - posted on 04/12/2010

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No honey not at all. All babies are different, trust me when he is ready to do all those things he will. My daughter just turned 10 last week her corrected age is 7months. She was born 3months early, and the doctors and ECI and everybody else told me she was going to be slow and not be on time with this and with that. She started crawling 4 weeks ago started saying mama and dada 6weeks ago. She trys to feed herself and does everything the doctors said she wouldn't do. So trust me when i tell you noone knows your baby better than you. Just give him a little time and he blow your mind. And keep in mind we as parents have always do things with our new babies to keep it fresh on their minds. i taught maya to clap her hands by clapping them for her everyday mostly when spongebob was on. LOL now everytime she hears taht song she claps claps claps till it go off. You have to start from birth teaching them new things. I'm sure you son will be ok.

Nicola - posted on 04/12/2010

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my son is also 10 months and he is crawling pulling himself up to stand with support, saying mum-ma, Dada and Nana.
but he also is not clapping and waving.
i don't think they are slow kids learn at different speeds, they reach milestones at different stages. im just trying to encourage my son and he will pick it up once he is ready.

Samantha - posted on 04/12/2010

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my little boy is 10 motnhs he dosent wave or clapp his hands all babies are different so dont worry

Amanda - posted on 04/12/2010

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i know how hard it is to not compare your child to another, i do it all the time haha. it's just instinct, we want our babies to be healthy and growing strong and we feel that if for some reason they aren't the exact same as another child their age or younger, something must be wrong, we are just protective thats all. my daughter is 10mths old, she has been waving since about 8 1/2mths, still doesnt clap, on purpose anyways...sometimes she will be flinging her arms around and her hands will smack together, it defiantely gets her attention, but thats about it. She just learned how to say "Mama"(best moment ever) BUT she isnt crawling, has no interest in it what so ever, since day 1 she has hated being on her tummy with a passion. But she has been cruising along furniture since about 7mths, but she can not pull up onto stuff by herself. Which I have been worrying about, cas alot of other babies her age and younger can...but they all are crawling aswell, so I think that helps them, as they are on their knees already and its easier to pull to stand from that position, rather than a sitting one.

Carin - posted on 04/12/2010

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All in their own time. My daughter was saying her first words, climbing, trying to walk, crawling, waving, etc at this age. My son is more focused on trying finger foods and walking. He claps, bounces, babbles, but doesn't crawl on all fours or wave. It's not a big deal at this point. If he's not doing these things in six more months, maybe you'll want to ask your doc.

Same info for Jaime on her daughter with holding her bottle. Don't worry. My son's just been getting into holding his drinks the past few weeks. Maybe try a sippy cup instead? Mason likes holding on to the handles.

Tracey - posted on 04/12/2010

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Not at all. My son just started clapping his hands this weekend. He's been doing this thing that we THOUGHT was a wave, but weren't sure. However, he is waving at everything now.

Jodie - posted on 04/12/2010

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all children are different. My son is 10 months and claps when I praise him, he picked up how to do it purely because we do it all the time. He also flaps his arms around every now and then to say goodbye but he has only picked it up. it doesn't mater if he doesn't clap or wave at 10 months

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With my first child, I stressed about all of the milestones and for some reason I am not so concerned with my ten month old. I feel that eventually they will reach all of their milestones. I would like to post the question about my daughter not crawling at her age. She screams every time we place her on her belly. Should I be concerned? The pediatrician told me that as long as she is pushing herself up with both hands while on her tummy then she should be fine.

Lesley - posted on 04/11/2010

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He's deinitely NOT slow!! My 10 month old can clap and wave and say "hi"....BUT...all the other babes, of the same age, in his play group are pulling themselves up to standing and cruising along the furniture...my son isn't and isn't even close to doing so, he still stands on his tip toes when we stand him up. I agree with everyone here, all babies are different and develop at different rates. Nothing to worry about...but I know that we first timers worry about everything!! I've decided, that I just need to relax and quit comparing my little guy to other children (easier said then done sometimes, especially when it comes to development).

Emily - posted on 04/11/2010

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i just asked this same question... wow i feel stupid now lol... thanks guys for answering her now i dont feel like im the only mom who worries about these things

Ashley - posted on 04/11/2010

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I wouldnt worry, every baby is different! My little man who is 10 and 1/2 months old excels in some places, like he is walking along the table and feeding himself with the pincher grasp, but is slow in others like waving bye bye or blowing kisses, he hasnt done either of those yet, he claps sometimes but not always..... I think it just comes down to every baby learns things at a different pace and there is no set order they have to do things in. As long as he is healthy and happy and hitting the major milestones like rolling and sitting up then I wouldnt worry yourself too much. But if you are still concerned you can always ask his dr at his next well baby, or give the office a call and talk to the nurse on call, they are always willing to talk to you about any concern you might have :)

Ashley - posted on 04/11/2010

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I wouldnt worry, every baby is different! My little man who is 10 and 1/2 months old excels in some places, like he is walking along the table and feeding himself with the pincher grasp, but is slow in others like waving bye bye or blowing kisses, he hasnt done either of those yet, he claps sometimes but not always..... I think it just comes down to every baby learns things at a different pace and there is no set order they have to do things in. As long as he is healthy and happy and hitting the major milestones like rolling and sitting up then I wouldnt worry yourself too much. But if you are still concerned you can always ask his dr at his next well baby, or give the office a call and talk to the nurse on call, they are always willing to talk to you about any concern you might have :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/11/2010

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No, he's not slow! I have twins, and one waves, and the other does not. The one who does not wave, can clap, but the other can't! No big deal, just make sure he's meeting milestones. Waving and clapping are not milestones ;)

Amber - posted on 04/11/2010

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I'm sure there are plenty of things that he's doing that clapping, waving babies aren't! They all develop differently, and I don't think your son is a bit slow! He'll figure it out eventually; try not to worry!

Jessica - posted on 04/11/2010

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He's not slow, that's normal! Babies just do things at different rates. My 10 month old isn't clapping, barely waving, and also doesn't hold his own bottle or sippy cup. They'll get there eventually!

Kat - posted on 04/11/2010

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my son just turned 10 months today, and he cant clap (the normal way, but he can do it with the palm of his 1 hand on the back of his other hand), and he cant wave "bye" yet. but i think all babies develop differently, so i wouldnt worry about it.

Gabriela - posted on 04/11/2010

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Nothing to worry about. My son is 10 months and he doesn't clap his hands and wave "good bye" yet. I'm not worried at all. I think that in some things he is faster than others (had 7 teeths with 7 months, eats very well, sleeps great, is a great observer) and therefore he might be a bit slower with other things. Babys don't develop at the same speed at all. As long as he makes small steps (in playing, crawling, eating, etc.) I'm not worried at all. I'm sure that you're son is doing perfect too!

Jaime - posted on 04/11/2010

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I have a question regarding this too. I'm a first time mom and my baby is 9 months old and she's still not holding her bottle. I know it's not good to compare but I have a niece that was holding her bottle at 6 months. should I worry?

Lisa - posted on 04/11/2010

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I agree with Emma. It's hard looking at what other kids are doing and wondering why your's isn't doing that. Don't worry he'll catch up.

Emma - posted on 04/11/2010

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I don't think your son is slow one bit. The milestone ages they give are just an average, not an exact timeline. So if your son is 11 months and clapping/waving bye bye that is fine too (just an example). Some babies do go slower but there are things (if you like) you can do to help them along. When someone says bye bye to my son I wave his hand to show him that he should be saying bye bye too. When we do games and he should be clapping, I take his hands and clap them together so he knows he should do it.

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