New Teen mom

Aishling - posted on 02/03/2010

heya ashley, freaky im called aishling and my son sean was born june 9th aswel:)im only 19 and i understand how u feel, i do get lonely and fed up bcoz i be tired and most of my old friends dont speak 2me anymore because i rarely get 2c dem as im workn a full time job now aswel but im lucky that im still with my babys father and that i have good babysitters that i can go out and work and have a few nights out, you are been so strong and id say your a brillant mammy, i know i coudnt cope if i wasnt with my babys dad but you keep ur head up bcoz u wil find some1 who will treat you right xx

Rebecca - posted on 01/31/2010

Hey Ashley, Sorry to hear bout ur friends n the father of ur baby. I had a goregous baby girl on the 1st june n im also no longer with the father....he wasnt very nice n told lots of lies so we r better off without him!! We r doing extremelly well n i look forward to her future :) Well done on this GED thing, im not sure wot it is but it sounds important :) Yes parents r very helpful sometimes, mine WERE not happy when they found out i was preggers but they soon got over it n love her to pieces now n spoil her rotten lol. Take care n good luck.

Jamie - posted on 01/30/2010

Nice to meet you Ashley. I am proud of you for going through with this! Sorry to hear about your friends not sticking around, it really makes you realize who really is your true friend. I am a 27 year old mom to a baby boy who was born on June 3rd. I am also glad that you are finding time to get your GED. I know how busy life can be once you have a child, I barely have time for friends. I have a full time and a part time job. I am a part time college student. I know it's not much time with my son, but in the long run I will have a better paying job to be able to support him and also like what I am doing. I know you can do it if you put your mind to it. Online courses are awesome if you are good at disciplining yourself with keeping up in the class. I work on my homework on the weekends mainly when my son goes to bed.

Heather - posted on 01/30/2010

I was in your position about 16 years ago. I am now 33 yrs old and my daughter is almost 16 years old, and everything is great! Just love that little boy and make him your totally priority. Good luck.

Amanda - posted on 01/29/2010

hi Ashley my name ia Amanda, I also was a teen mom with my first she is now 14yrs I also have a 12 year old and my son is 7 months old he was born june 19th. my friends also stopped talking to me when I had my 1st I guess they just thought we had nothing in common anymore. well anyway just wanted to say hi....:)

Nicole - posted on 01/29/2010

Hello Ashley,

Congrats on being a responsible parent to your child, and sorry to hear that your friends are not there for you when they should be there and help you out. My name is Nicole and I have a 7 month old daughter and a 4 yr old daughter, I am a single parent, but have a fiancee that is wonderful to both my girls. If you need someone to talk to I will be your friend.

Emily - posted on 01/29/2010

Hi Ashely,

Congrats on little Trevor! I also have June babies, mine were born on June 24. I'm an old lady though =) at 31, but my best friend in high school had her first when she just turned 18 and I remember a lot of what she went through. She was and still is one of the best moms I know to her now three children, and it sounds like you are a wonderful mom as well. Good for you for getting your GED, that can't be easy with an active little guy around!

Sucks that your friends felt that way, but hang in there, you'll make so many better friends (I know, I know, easy to say =) But you will!). The friends that stick with us through thick and thin are rare and to be treasured, and you'll meet other friends who think Trevor is just as great as you do. If you ever want to chat about our June babies, drop a line!

Emily

Siobhan - posted on 01/29/2010

Hiya ashley. My names siobhan. I am also a young mum. i had aidan when i was 18 i am not 19.
He is also 7 months and was born on the 17th June. Im not with his dad as he left when i was 5 months pregnant because he missed his social life and i get VERY lonely as i moved the day after i found out i was pregnant. i have my family and i work part time so i get out the house but the days when i dont work i really struggle with how lonely i get. If you ever want to talk add me on facebook and we can exchange numbers x x

Amneh - posted on 01/29/2010

Hang in there, Ashley. As we grow, we find the wrong people fall off our path and we meet new friends all the time, who deserve our friendship. My son was born June 10th, and is also very active. You gotta love those Geminis. =)

Amanda - posted on 01/29/2010

Hello,



My I am 26 yrs old and had my first child on June 24th. he is also a very active boy. Feel free to message me anytime

Adrienne - posted on 01/29/2010

hi ashely!!!! how are you going? great to hear you have a gorgeous little active boy! i have 3yr old Samuel and 7/5mth old Thomas, born 12th june. I might be silly but whats GED mean? I am 31 next month, and we are planning our 3rd sometime this year, crazy i know, but its a challenge i am willing to take! i havent used this app before, but if you need any help or questions, just ask, am happy to help out! no question is every too silly!

Ed Dii - posted on 01/28/2010

Hallo Ashley, nice to hear about u. My name is Edna.Am older 32, and i have a 5 year old boy and a 7 months old boy both on the 3rd June. Sad to read about your situation. Just be remainded that u have a heavenly father who love u more than anything in this world. Take time to pray and read the bible. I used to be so lost until I get to know the lord and i had so much peace. Try Jesus he will never leave nor forsake u.



Love

Ednah



Solomon Islands. Pacific ocean.

Steph - posted on 01/28/2010

Heyy, i no how you feel, ive got a 7month old baby who was born on the 9th june, I dont see much of friends anymore, before i had jacob my mum past away, sad that she isnt here to see jacob grow up , x

Nichole - posted on 01/14/2010

hi ashley im a mom of 2 a almost 4yr old daughter and a son born june 20th...i was 19 when i had my daughter and it can be hard to be young and a parent but i believe its worth everthing...and you are strong to be doing it through all the negatives thrown at you...and as for the dad you are TOO GOOD for him!!! trust me! my daughter doesnt know her real dad he turned out to be a jerk and it was better that way neway...lol...but i met my sons father when my daughter was 1.5yrs and he is amazeing.....if u want to talk.....im available

Sarah - posted on 01/14/2010

Hello Ahley,

My name is Sarah. I am also 17 and my baby boy was born on June 7th. His name is Aedan. I'm still with Aedans dad and we got married in September. A lot of my friends have decided not to hang around me either, so I know how you feel. My parents hated me at first, but now love their grandson. I hope you are having a great time being a mom and I know its not easy being a teen mom. Just keep your your head high and never give up.

-Sarah

Charlotte - posted on 01/14/2010

Hey there Ashley.. My son was born on the 28th june.. but i also have a 4 yr old who was born when i was 19 i understand too well how it is to be a young mom and ur friends desert u my best frined at the time when i had my eldest didnt bother with me too much once she found out i was pregnant so know how hard it can be dealin with that and the dad not being there too, although im lucky with my sons dad we r still together and he adores the eldest as his own.. i am currently studying for my degree in nursing u need to stick at it n stay strong after all ur doing it to better urself for ur son and his future.. if u ever wat to talk feel free at any time to message and im sure we can swap advice and share info and wat not!! good luck with ur GED congrats n get going chin up n be strong.. glad to see ur parents r supportive :) all best xx ♥

Olivia - posted on 01/14/2010

Hey, I'm olivia.
I got pregnant at 18 and had my son at 19. Maddox was born june 17th and is also VERY active. I am now 20, and also a single mom...as of last week actually, so i'm in the same boat. My parents pretty much had the same reaction...the initial shock wore off and they now enjoy every minute they get with him.

nice to meet you,
later

Rachael - posted on 01/13/2010

Hi Ashley, my name is Rachael. I am 29 years old and I have a 7 month old baby girl. If I could give any advice, that would be not to worry about your friends, you just keep loving and spending time with your little one. Your friends will one day know what you are going through and that is when they will come back around.

Kris - posted on 01/13/2010

hi ashley, i'm kris and my little boy was born the same day as yours :) . he has a 4 yr old sister. i'm 29, but was amopngst the first in our group of friends to have a baby. we lost touch with som eof our friends along the way, though have reconnected with a few since they've now become parents. glad to hear that your parents are being so supportive and helpful!

Jovan - posted on 01/13/2010

Hi Ashley, Im Jovan, I have a 4 yr old boy and 7 month old girl... I know how it is to a young mom.. i had Dontis at 16 and Gabriella at 20... Usually ur friends dont stick around if they dont have kids too.. So screw em.. But if u have any questions or need advice im here..

Clare - posted on 01/13/2010

its all fun and games isn't it, i love it but it is exhusting with the 2 of them

Rebecca - posted on 01/13/2010

Hi i know how your feeling im 19 with a 3yr old and a 6month old who was born 28th june and is also very active

Cassie - posted on 01/12/2010

Hi, my name is cassie. My daughter was born june 10th.

Jennifer - posted on 01/12/2010

hi ashley, my son was also born on june 9th! HOW IRONIC!?

Crystal - posted on 01/11/2010

Hiii :] I'm Crystal I had my son on june 30th L]. i was 17 when i had him, i'm glad your family was so suportive...not all families are. Mine disowned me. Trentons dad took off when i told him I was Pregnant.

Chelsea - posted on 01/11/2010

Hi , I had my son June 23rd also . I am 16 and had the same problem with friends . If they arent able to be your friend because you have a child , then they were never a true friend to begin with . I mean it sucks dont get me wrong . But what can ya do right . I like to try to find other moms to talk to because they are easier to relate to then some of my other friends .

Brandi - posted on 01/11/2010

hello ashley ..my name is brandi .. i had my first baby at 17 .. it was hard but so worth it cause he is a grea kid 15 years later .. u loose some things and u gain others .. good luck on gettin ur ged ..i just had my 6th baby june 1st :). im here if u ever wanna talk :)

Alyssa - posted on 01/11/2010

Hey Ashley! My daughter Elizabeth also shares the same birthday as your little boy. (I can't believe how many of us there are). I am so amazed at how you and other teens do it sometimes. I"m 28 and sometimes feel overwhelmed with a baby. I can't imagine trying to balance school on top of it all. I'm glad your parents are supportive and that you are continuing on to get your GED. I know it's hard, but make sure to take some time for yourself too. Do try to get out and make some new friends, ones that will be supportive and helpful. We're all here for you and will give you whatever support we can. Good luck!

Brittney - posted on 01/11/2010

Hey ashley, my son was born june 9th as well!..im 22 and pretty much lost all my friends once they found out about my pregnancy! Being a mom is the best gift ever, you have your best friend right next to you :) hope all is going well, and good luck with the G.E.D

Meggan - posted on 01/11/2010

Hey Ashley, I was 19 when i got pregnant, and similar thing happened to me, most of my friends suddenly had no interest in being friends with me (including my best friend) but didn't let it get me down. I did however notice that alot of other parents seemed to look down on me since i seemed so young, however i loved how my son proved them all wrong when he was achieving milestones way ahead of his age. There is nothing wrong with being a young parent, and congrats on your little boy! Fantastic to hear you parents are supportive :) I hope you have made new friends, maybe some that have kids and understand what you are going through...it seems there are quite a few mums hear that understand you situation. xx

Sam - posted on 01/11/2010

Hi Ashley, my daughter, Maia, shares your little boy's birthdate. I was a relatively young mum with my eldest daughter and you do find that you lose a lot of old friends, but I'm sure you'll make new ones... or even reconnect with the old when they start having babies! I have a niece who is only a year older than you and has a 16 month old boy and she's just started talking to her old friends again... and has made new ones as well. Congratulations on getting your G.E.D. soon... it's great that you didn't give that up!

Kimberly - posted on 01/10/2010

He Ashley. I am Kim, 21 and have a 7 month old boy. I didn't loose friends because of having my son but things have changed between my best friend and I. She is married, as I am, going to school full time and working two jobs. Needless to say she is busy and I am lucky to see her once a month if that. That is why this site is great! I stopped going to church because they made me feel bad about my lifestyle. I was living with my fiance and then we got pregnant. We are now married but that doesn't matter to the people that knew before hand. It is sad that people are so judgemental these days but really nice to be able to meet people that are going through the same as you are. Stay strong and as long as you put your mind to something you can do it!

Abbey - posted on 01/10/2010

Hi Ashley,
So I think I am the old lady of this thread, but I just stopped working as an Early Head Start homevisiter and over the 10 years I grew to know a lot of young mommies and I can tell you love knows no age. I think its so cool you have your parents supportive. My son was also born on June 9th and it is the best! We have wanted him for a long time and now he is here and some times it still feels unreal, but I still get burnt, way to go at the G.E.D that is determination for Trevor!

Elizabeth - posted on 01/10/2010

Hi Ashley, I admire you for being such a strong person. I too had problems with my friends not hanging out with me after I found out I was pregnant. I'm a bit older than you (45 but had my first child at 35) but the point is friends come and go at any age but our children will love us and be with us forever. It took me awhile to get over the hurt but I finally realized that we all need to take different roads in life, and I was the blessed one to have to take the road with my baby daughter. Get your GED, I did at your age. You need it, and try to go on to college. You can do anything without a man, my mom raised me by herself and we have such a great relationship. Just as you and your son will have. God bless you and your beautiful new baby.

Clare - posted on 01/10/2010

hi, silana, just read your post, saw your bit about mum baby groups, i know how you feel i was 20 when i had my first baby he is 3 now, i went to one and never went back, they were all so clicky and seemed to look down on me because i was you, i alos look much younger than my age, im 24 now and also have a 7 month old little girl born on the 4th june, i go to the local mum baby group where i live now and it is great, they are so much nicer than the one in my old place, you should try the childrens sure start centres they are great places, and so manty different ages go there.

hope this helps abit x

Silvana - posted on 01/10/2010

Hi Ashley im silvana im 20years old, i have a litttle girl who was born on the 8th june, im willing 2 have chats with u about ur child and mine, be nice 2 talk 2 other mums, ive never been 2 a mum and baby class before i felt like they will look at me different because of my young age. Its a shame about ur child's father he hasnt stuck around 2 see ur little lad grow up, hope his paying money towards nappy's and things its not easy being a parent. hope 2 see a reply soon take carexx

Gladys - posted on 01/09/2010

hey i feel u im a 19 yr old mom n i have a babu girl she is the world to me.,y Parents were tough on me but now we are all happy yeah i feel lonely somethimes bc i only talk to like 2-3 friends
but i will like to get to know u better n we can help each other
if tats ok wit u

Ashley - posted on 01/09/2010

Hello there! My name is Ashley and my daughter Natalie was born the day after your son. I'm a new mom too, so if you'd like to exchange tips and tricks, I'd love to help you. Also, if you need to vent, since your old friends have deserted you, feel free to send me a message!

Hailey - posted on 01/09/2010

Heya :) my names hailey im 17 to with a lil girl born on the 19th of june most of my m8s are the same but iv worked out that well that aint true friends are they

Holly - posted on 01/08/2010

Hello ashley, I am 19 ( I was 17 when I became pregnant) and I have a seven month old daughter who was born june 3rd. I know what you mean about friends, and it sucks. One thing I have learned is that those who do not wish to be around your child, as well as you, are not worth you time. You will make new friends. Good luck

Jennifer - posted on 01/08/2010

Hi Ashley, Your son and my son were born on the same day!! I know exactly how you feel. I had alot of problems with my friends when I had my daughter (she is now 3) Its nice to hear that your parents are helpful! Its nice to have the support.

Abby - posted on 01/08/2010

Hi Ashley! Congrats on being a new mommy & handling your responsibilities as a single young mom. Two of my sisters had babies at 15yrs so I can sort of relate to younger moms. I became a 1st time mom at 23. Your so young & although you have a child with someone, doesnt mean you have to give up who you are to make them happy. And he just wasnt a strong enough man to be with you is how I see it!

Abby

Clare - posted on 01/08/2010

i agree, i'm fairly lucky that my best friend and i were expecting together, although some things have really changed now that i have two children, but i love it and the friends that are still around are the true ones, and i cherish them alot, thank goddness for circle of mums, i also had my first out of wed lock although not planned but love him more than anything, and my little girl as well x

Alicia - posted on 01/08/2010

I had that issue w my friends as well... they were very judgmental about my having a baby out of wedlock, even though I'm 25 and was planning him! So I understand the lonliness... I have a couple friends I see once in a blue moon, but it's hard making plans w a baby! It's nice to have other moms to talk to, esp w babies around the same age, because I think we can relate better anyway :)

Clare - posted on 01/08/2010

hi ashley, my name is clare, im 24 and have a 3 year old boy and a 7 month old little girl,



glad you have decided to join June Babies, such a shame about your friends, this is a time they should cherish with you especially if you are one your own, well i hope you find lots of online friends here, xx