Standing in crib at bedtime??

Amy - posted on 06/08/2010

My daughter does the same exact thing. She learned something new lol. I just let her stand and play until she gets tired and she just passes out. As long as he's fed & dry he should be fine. I wouldnt get used to the rocking this because my daughter wouldnt fall asleep unless she was held for 2 months its a bad habit to try and break

Bathobile - posted on 06/08/2010

My baby does the same thing it can be that he is feeling cold or is scared to sleep alone take him to bed with you in that way u will not wake up, u will only give him a bottle with you in bed. When he is fast asleep you can but him in his bed or sleep with him in your bed. Baby at times need change a same routine can be kind of boring for them, even an adult gets bored too.

Stepahnie - posted on 06/07/2010

Lullabies are magic! My son is almost a year and still wakes up a couple times a night. Holding him doesn't help- only lullabies. I found a playlist on YouTube and it's just awsome! I let it play throughout the night and it works for us.Good luck to you

Courtney - posted on 06/07/2010

I can imagine how frustrating, He is probably doing his continuous standing up act because he just figured out he can stand up and walk. My daughter just turned a year old a few weeks ago we kind of broke her from waking up for a bottle at night, she was waking up between 1 and 3 times for a bottle. She is still waking up but I am trying to give her a sip of water/juice from her sippy, hoping soon she will remember its in her crib, and get a drink if need be and put herself back to sleep. It will get better just stick to your guns dont give in (better said the done) :) Hope this helps

Fern - posted on 06/07/2010

i'm a new mom too and yet to experience ur challenge... but i'm also a nurse who did alot of research on childcare and coping with the difficult child etc. your child is just going thru a phase.... he is excited about his new "skill" and wants to show u them...u have to beat him to it by praising him when he stands up and also allowing him a little more time on the floor.Still read him his story and u must pretend u r going to sleep...as long as the crib is safe that he cannot climb out u should b okay to go to a bed in the same room and lie down....eventually he will put himself to sleep when he realises that u r " sleeping".that should do the teick....it takes a few days but it will pay off!

Charlotte - posted on 06/05/2010

just keep laying him back down my son did the same thing but if you keep laying him down every time he gets up he will get the idea and it will stop he just impressed with his new skill

Catherine - posted on 06/04/2010

It sounds like your son is trying out a new thing! He couldn't do it before and now that he can, he's excited about it! The sleep thing once they start walking really sorts itself out. The more they walk, the more tired they get by the end of the day! My son started walking at 9 months and he just had to do it all the time as much as he could, and he started sleeping straight through the night. Sorry I can't be more of a help in the crib area as my bf and I do the family bed thing, which for us works amazingly. He doesn't need to be rocked or cuddled to sleep, we just lay down, read a book and he lays down and sleeps with his own space now! But your son will sleep soon! He'll be too tired not too lol

April - posted on 06/04/2010

As a mother of 11.5 month old twin girls I understand your frustration. Unfortunately it takes time and patience. Luckily only one of my girls is crawling and standing in her crib so far. It is hard not to go in when she is crying but learn the different cries. She sometimes gets stuck sitting up in the corner with her feet hanging out and this makes her mad so her cry is more intense. I have learned the other softer cries are to get me to come in and see her standing in her crib, as she smiles at me and laughs. She is proud of her milestone and so am I, but it gets very irritating. The last week I have not gone in when she cries and I think she is up and down so much she wears herself out sometimes doing it for 1 hour+!! The downfall is she keeps her sister in the next crib awake. Now she is teething again so she only wants her binky. I have also started feeding her more at dinner as she does not care for the bottle, letting her stuff herself seems to help followed by bath time. I think I am lucky with twins also because they play together and tucker each other out, bath time is a hoot!!! She has a very high metabolism and is only 17lbs, sister is 23lbs but loves her bottle and not food. Now she will softly cry/whine for 5-10 minutes then sit/stand/play for 10 mins then cry but is now only lasting about 1/2 hour or so. I give her about and hour and then go in and check and cover her up and it has been working.
As dad reminds me I need to let her cry sometimes. If she is crying to get attention and not hurt, let her. It is part of my "mommy training" and it is hard and nerveracking but it is improving for me and her. Especially if you are going back to work the seperation training is going to be hard for both of you. Best wishes and luck with your little one, it will get better.
Also I talked to the girls doctor and by 11-12 months they should only need maybe one bottle at night, she suggested not jumping up at 2am to get a bottle but to let them whimper a little and they will go back to sleep and it is working!!!
Just remember no one knows your baby like you so do what is comfortable and your pediatrician is only a phone call away for advise.
Hope this helps or lets you know you are not alone in your frustration.

Octaviana - posted on 06/03/2010

going to bed becomes increasingly difficult. Will begin to tease you and try to convince you to take him in her arms - and is so adorable when it starts, it's hard to resist! But now all trying to push the limits - how can escape unpunished. Keep bedtime routine, however, you will need both of this in the coming months.

1 year baby sleeps approximately between 10 and 11 hours night and day and sleep once or twice. As always, during sleep needs vary from case to case.

Tip: One can tell that afternoon nap becomes increasingly shorter, and that seems to be sufficient to play a bit in the cot before you call. Leave him some toys to encourage this behavior. Be careful not too big - could learn to put one over the other and get out of the crib.

Debbie - posted on 06/02/2010

if you think he is getting up just to have a bottle, then maybe try weening him off it by adding more water than milk,until the bottle has just water in it. he then might think there is no point waking for just water.

Yolanda - posted on 06/02/2010

I wouldn't get into the rocking routine, although you do only have them at this age once...I tend to be more of a "Ferberizer" :) My son is 11 mos, he sometines does the same. My routine is this, I lay him down, cover him up say "I Iove you ", and "Nite, Nite", then turn around and walk out the door (whether he gets up or not)...my routine does not falter. He may be crying, talking, playing...standing, sitting who knows...the bottom line is he stays in his crib for the duration of nap time or evening bed time. The longest he has stayed awake was 40 mins, but even if it was over an hr, I wouldn't get him up until the allotted time was up. That's just me, you have to do what is right for you. We have 4 other kids, he is the youngest and this is what works for us:)

April - posted on 06/01/2010

To Halona: We use a small heater that has a thermostat in our son's room. That way we can keep the rest of the house as cool as we like it, but his heater will kick on if it drops below 70ish in his room.

Amanda - posted on 05/31/2010

Buy the book.."Solve your childs sleep problems" by Dr. Richard Ferber. Follow the books outline on controlled cry it out. Your little one will be sleeping in 2 or three nights and will sleep the whole night thru!

Megan - posted on 05/29/2010

My son started doing that a while ago. He does not walk yet, but he does stand and jump in his crib if he is not too tired. Now that it's nice out (We live in Wisconsin) I try to get him outside every day. That usually makes him fall asleep better at night. As for waking up over and over again- My son JUST started doing this again. He was sleeping through the night, and we used a little bit of Crying it Out. It works unless something is wrong. When my son started sprouting teeth, he was in pain, so we would get up, give him his tylonel and rock him back to bed, well now he wakes up whether or not he is teething for the most part. It's really hit or miss. I tend to not get out of bed unless he is crying. I also usually wait a few minutes into the crying just to be positive he won't put himeslf back to sleep. Sometimes he does, and sometimes he does not. I try not to rock him until he is passed out cold, simply because he tends to wake up more fussy than if he puts himself to sleep. He also usually wants to fall asleep on his own after his nighttime bottle.

@Lyla. First off, how old is your son?? I would try to slowly ween him off of theses night time feedings if he is old enough (Say at LEAST 6 months). My son was waking up and getting 6 ounces of formula. I started going down to 4 ounces and he slowly started sleeping longer. If you are comfortable with letting him cry, try letting him cry for 10 minutes (as long as it is not a painful cry it won't hurt him). I listen to see if my son is giving a fussy cry, tired cry, or ticked off cry. If it is any of those three I tend to let him cry for a bit. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.

A - posted on 05/29/2010

My daughter did this for a lil while after she learned how to stand up. That was about a month ago. She sleeps through the night unless she's sick or something is wrong. My advice is to let your little one just stand and play or whatever. They will tire themselves out and fall asleep on their own. The more you rock them the more they will depend on that to go to sleep and wont learn how to fall asleep on their own.

Aileen Marie - posted on 05/29/2010

i just let my daughter play, roll, stand crawl whatever she wants to do until she got tired and sleep. I even played with her if i can.

Evalee - posted on 05/28/2010

When my little girl was having sleep issues (waking up several times a night) I talked to the Dr and she said to make sure she gets enough sleep during the day as if you wait until she's exhausted then any sleep she does get at night won't be super restorative and she'll keep waking up. I realize it sounds counterproductive, but now that she gets her naps during the day she sleeps from 8pm - 8 am straight unless she's teething or not feeling well. We also just stand by her crib and rub her back and tell her we're there for her if she's upset about going to bed. Also, at this age eating at night is more of a habit rather than a need if they're eating enough during the day. I was able to cut out the nighttime nursings by getting up with her, changing her diaper and then putting her back to bed without feeding her, it took maybe 2 nights and she wouldn't even wake for them, as there was no point. Something I read in the 'No cry sleep solution' was if everytime you woke up someone gave you your favorite thing, wouldn't you want to wake up more often?
And for the mom worried about the temperature, my daughter still sleeps in a sleep sack. They have them for kids up to 36 months and they work great as it rolls with her and that way I don't have to worry about her kicking off blankets. Some of them also come with a room thermometer that even tell you what clothes to put them in depending on the room reading. Also it prevents her from standing up and trying to climb out of her crib.

Naomi - posted on 05/28/2010

Thanks for all the advice, I'm still having a hard time getting him to sleep some nights though! I've been trying to keep him up most of the day so that he is exhausted (but not overtired, he still gets one short nap a day usually), I've tried slowing down his bedtime routine and letting him just crawl/walk around in his room while I read him a story or five, lol.... if I can get him tired enough and he is completely asleep by the time he's done his bottle, he's down for a while but then up at least 2-3 times between 12am-7am for bottles or just to be up and needs to be rocked back to sleep. If I let him cry he stands up and cries and won't lay back down... i'm all for crying it out, it's how I trained him to go to bed at night in the first place... but all of that work seems to have gone out the window now and I don't know if he knows to lay down and go to sleep after screaming for a while.. he gets up before I even finish laying him back down.... I'm getting really frustrated now, 3 more days and I'm back at work for 6am. ERG. Any other tips that maybe I haven't tried?

Janessa - posted on 05/28/2010

It all depends on what you are willing to do. Honestly not taking him out and just letting him cry it out will work eventually. It takes determination and not giving in, and looking at the long term, not the short term. When you let him cry and lay him back down, and then take him out after awhile, it only tells him that if he keeps it up long enough you'll take him out, so he'll keep it up for a long time the first time you decide to not give in, but after a couple of times, he'll figure it out. You don't have to ignore him, you can go in there and lay him back down, give him a pacifier, or other soothing thing, but make sure he knows he is not coming out. This has worked for all 3 of mine. My 11 month is standing up now too and taking some steps. At night he plays for a little while and then goes to sleep. Only when he cries do I go in, and then I just give him a pacifier and lay him down. This will work, if it is worth it to you. He won't think you love him any less. My little guy is as happy as can be and knows I love him, but he also knows I have my limits as does he. This is an important learning stage for him. I hope this helps.

Becca - posted on 05/28/2010

I just let my son stand up. He goes to sleep when he is ready. :)

Carrie - posted on 05/28/2010

You didn't mention anything about him fussing when he stands up... If he continues to stand him up when you lay him down, just let him stand up. My son does that occasionally (because he's in the same room with his 3yo brother) and I let them talk a little and eventually Matthew lays down and goes to sleep. Even if he does fuss, he's probably doing it because he's now in the habit of your coming to get him, perpetuating the problem. My kids have all had that issue -- I feel bad so I go in, but it creates a cycle that they turn into a habit, and you're stuck. Better to break it earlier if you can, otherwise it'll ride itself out. If you do feel the need to lay him back down yourself, make sure you're not talking to him when you go in. He wants the interaction, so just kiss & lay him down and walk out. Remember, a little crying isn't a bad thing. :)

Karen - posted on 05/27/2010

I would try and teach a little "tough love". Thankfully my son is very easy to put to bed. He gets a bottle around 7:30 and then we just plunk him in bed. He usually rolls over and goes right to sleep. Naptime is very similar but he has started getting a little fussy and cries out, but I tell him in a sweet voice that it is time for nite-nite and that I love him as I walk out of the room and don't look back. That way his sad eyes don't guilt me into going back because that just starts a very long cycle. As for waking up in the night, do you think your son is getting enough food during the day? I have heard many times that you need to "tank them up" during the day and not just at bedtime. And he could be used to getting up and down at night. I definately agree about a consistant bedtime routine (bath, bottle, snuggle, bed). And you have to teach him that bedtime means bedtime. You will all be better off in the long run especially when you go back to work. As for the mother who worries about temperature I have done the same. I now have a programmable thermostat and rely on that. It is much better for them to be a little cool than hot and I have found that if either one of my children are cold they cry out and let me know. Hope all this rambling helps!

Rhiannon - posted on 05/27/2010

My Son use to do that aswell but i followed one of tizzie hall's methods and as soon as he is put in the cot he knows its bedtime and on rare occasions needs a bottle to sleep. Put him into the cot and let him stand up then gentley place him on his back. If he stands up again (which is highly likely) place him on his back again....do this 15 times then walk out of the room for as long as you can.....he will eventually fall asleep. My son when we fist started using the method would stand up and id walk out up, i would secretly watch him and i could see that he was putting himself to sleep, he eventually sat down and fell asleep in the sitting position. After 5 mins i moved him to his back and he stayed asleep.

If you have to go back into the room before he is asleep put him on is back and place a hand on his belly this should help him stay down and fall asleep. Alternatively once you go back into the room once you place your child on his back offer him a bottle and i can guarantee he will fall asleep.

Hope this helps,

After following this method within a week my son whenever he is put in the cot hardly ever stands up and goes to sleep either just with his dummy or bottle.

Halona - posted on 05/27/2010

i agree with debbie - best to let 'em figure out on their own that they are tired and WANT to lay down! (or does your baby get "stuck" standing and can't? that's more difficult) my son, 11.5 months old, has also been standing and sitting in his crib at bedtime for a couple months now, i sing and talk to him and lay him down a few times to let him know this is what we do now, if he insists on still getting up after this, i kiss him and tell him good night and leave the room. seems to work almost always, he quiets down and eventually sleeps, even if he first complains for a few minutes. he also thinks it's hilarious to stand in the crib and "fall down", knocking his head on the sides a bit...(of course i don't!) i do think your son may have come to expect and need your rocking him to sleep, which is strenuous in the long run for you, especially if you have to go back to work...i "make the rounds" at night too, as debbie says --- MY problem is that i am constantly insecure about temperature, because my son will NOT keep any blankets on him when it's cold out, and i'm afraid the fan or ac will cool him down too much when it's hot out...advice anyone?

Charmaine - posted on 05/27/2010

When my son stands up on his crib, it gives me a signal that he's really not that tired and sleepy.. and instead of rocking him to sleep, I turn on Elmo's world DVD and let him watch it, with him sitting on my lap. The next thing happens is I just find him asleep on my lap. It works every time. I suggest you do the same, instead of rocking him, get his attention to something else like watching tv... later, they'll fall asleep. I hope it works for your son too.

Stacey - posted on 05/27/2010

Yea your right, bedtime routine is the best, rocking your children to sleep makes your child want you to rock them to sleep every time they wake up, we have dinner at 5.30, little one has her bottle while my boy plays, then bath, teeth, story and bed, good luck

Debbie - posted on 05/26/2010

i kind of have to agree with stacey...i have never rocked, patted or sat beside any of my three kids to get them to sleep. i have just kept to a very strict night routine, 5.30pm dinner, followed by shower/bath, 7.00pm bottle (i never give a bottle in bed, as this helps rot their teeth), 7.30pm story/bed. and my 8 yr old still follows it (except for the bottle). my youngest (1 next week) has been standing in his cot for a couple of months now, i put him to bed and he stands straight back up, but i say good night and walk out. i can hear him through the monitor talking and playing, but i let him go. then just before im ready for bed, i do the rounds of the kids (put blankets on, etc). the only time he wakes now in the middle of the night, is if he is teething. if he isnt crying, let him stand up and say good night, and walk out. good luck

Nix - posted on 05/26/2010

mmm my little girl doesnt sleep thru either and she loves standing in her crib also and is standing at the moment after numerous attempts to rock her back to sleep i usually put her in bed with us and she falls asleep straight away maybe its just he wants mommy and daddy? Good luck:)

Stacey - posted on 05/26/2010

you lot are all mad! I had these problems wiv my first, i asked health visitor for advice and done controlled crying and he sleeps though the night now, since my little girl started sleeping thru i left her to settle herself, she went through the standing in the cot phase 2 weeks ago and i left her to it, just went in to put her down and her dummy in, within 3 days of staying up an hour she had given up and now sleeps thru and goes to sleep on her own

Nicole Clarice - posted on 05/26/2010

My almost one year old daughter used to be sooo easy to put to sleep. She'd drink her bottle then I'd lay her down, she'd roll over and go right to sleep. She's slept through the night since she was 5 weeks old, with a handful of exceptions. But the last month or so she's refused to just go down, instead she stands up and cries. It's been taking an hour to get her to go down and she's been crying in her sleep several times a week as well. I'll go in to check on her just to find that she's still asleep. I've found that, at least for bedtime, I put her down a half an hour or so later (bedtime was 7pm and is now closer to 7:45) and then if she cries, I give her 5-10 minutes. Within that time I can tell if she's going to get more upset or quiet down. Most of the time she quiets down and goes to sleep. If she doesn't, I go in, take her out and rock her for another 5-10 minutes and try again. I give that 2-3 cycles and if she's still awake (only has happened once!) I let her crawl around with some toys for a half hour then tried again and she went right to sleep.

Caren - posted on 05/26/2010

My son does the same thing! Its really aggravating. We just let him cry himself to sleep because he thinks its funny for him to stand up and then us come in and put him back down. Eventually he knows that when we lay him down, he goes to sleep and doesnt stand up. It's all about training!

Nikki - posted on 05/25/2010

My son just started walking last week too, they are excited they just reached another milestone and they are so busy mastering it, once he is walking more hell settle down and go back to sleeping. When my son was learning how to crawl he did the same thing would practise in the crib and wake up numerous times to do it again, they are learning new and fun things there is too much going on right now, just be patient , hell be so tired from walking around all the time hell just pass out

Naomi - posted on 05/25/2010

Thanks for all the help so far.... We've just been rocking him until he is sound asleep then putting him in there... it's working a little better to get him to sleep, but he still wakes up 3-4 times a night standing up and wanting to be rocked back to sleep. erg. And I would just let him play, but he gets upset after only about 5 mins and wants to be held... he won't lay himself down once he's standing. I think he is going through a growth spurt though, he has been eating like crazy which is unusual for him. And he probably knows something is up, that I'm going back to work and he is starting daycare. If anyone has anymore ideas please continue to let me know, I'll take any advice at this point!! Thanks so much!

Sharon - posted on 05/25/2010

my little girl stands up and plays too. I only go in to her if she gets upset (then we check nappy or try some more milk). A good rule i learned was if they are still awake after 1/2 an hour, get them up and try again later.

Melissa - posted on 05/24/2010

Good Luck to make him just sleep.. my son is almost a year old and still does not sleep straight through the night but he does not wake for a bottle. What I have been doing lately to get him to sleep in his bed is I put him in when he is tired and sit or lay on the floor with him until he falls asleep. He does stand up, crawls around plays a little but he wears himself out and goes to sleep. If he starts to cry I just put my hand through the crib to let him know I am there but I never try to make him lay down. The first night it took 30minutes from then on it has only been 15minutes. I hope this helps... I don't like the cry it out program it does not work for us.

Brittany - posted on 05/24/2010

My son just started cruising on the furniture a few weeks ago (still no walking yet). He also started standing up in his crib at bed time (and he shares a room with his 2 year old brother, so they talk all night lol). With my little guy, I just let him play. As long as he is not crying, I just leave him alone and let him do what he wants. If he cries, then I will go back in and comfort him and lay him down, but he usually just gets worn out after playing in his crib (his new favorite is jumping in it) and just lays down within an hour of going to bed. Good luck!!! My son still does not sleep through the night on a regular basis (although I have had a few lucky nights : ) )

Lyla - posted on 05/23/2010

Must be what ppl call a groth spurt ? My son gets rocked untill he passes out always and he wakes up for feedings every two hrs

I would love to see more replys to your post for help too

sorry i couldnt help