I'll have 2 under 1..

Tamika - posted on 01/21/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I'm looking for honest feedback not what you think i want to hear or what's nice wither.. treat me like your oldest friend :-)

My first is Riley 6 months and I'm due with my second in June 2010. Yes doing the maths we didn't wait very long at all.

BUT I'm actually really really happy that I'm having another one so close together.

But I'm SO SICK OF THE FLACK that people think they can just dish out to me.. Total strangers (yes like you who i'm asking to be honest) think it's okay to say "wow, didn't like to close your legs", "hmmm eager are we", "erm.. wow"

I had one stranger HIT my partner and say couldn't he respect me and wait.. WTF??? why can't it be me... :)

A sales assistant looked me up and down then said "I don't think we can help you you breed too fast" (I was looking for a double pram)

So I'm over the moon i'm pregnant but i'm a little hesitant to tell people as I feel like I have to justify myself to them.......... Has anyone else been in this situation.. Even having 2 under 2 years?

*sigh*

thanks again for reading and helping me.

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Tricia - posted on 04/10/2012

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Keep your head held high and proud of your beautiful creations.

Tina - posted on 03/25/2012

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that's disgusting people are so rude. My second was due on my sons birthday the 28th of June came on the 20th I've had both good and bad comments. I'm happy they're close together. It can be hard you're in a rush alot of the time but it's good too. It's takes a while for the eldest to get use to a baby but it gets better. Congratulations and don't worry about what other people say tell them to mind their own business

Christi - posted on 03/21/2012

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Who care what people say! I hear all kinds of stupid stuff as a mother of twins. Hope things are going well for you.

Nykee - posted on 03/02/2012

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Look the people who give you flack square in the eye and tell them that every child you have is planned and you wouldn't have it any other way, and that those comments are rude and unwelcome. They should worry about planning their own family, and leave yours alone. If my preschoolers can learn that they should keep their mouths shut if they don't have anything nice to say, they should be capable too.



I have a 3 1/2 year old, 2 1/2 year old, and an 11 week old. I get it. When I announced the last two pregnancies, I got so many comments like, "Oops!" "Surprise!" "Did you get lost on the way to the drug store?" or "You need a new hobby."



Really!? In what realm is any of that appropriate to say to ANYONE whether their child was planned or unplanned?!



Haha, we should look around the room when they say stuff like that and when they ask what we're looking for, tell them you're looking for the tact that they just lost.



Anyway, congratulations! Enjoy all of your babies!

Rose - posted on 05/15/2010

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What ever floats your boat and if you think you can handle it thats your deal people need to mind their own business!! I am due any day now and my daughter is only 2.

Lawryan - posted on 05/10/2010

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I kinda know what ya mean. I am a single mother of 1 right now with #2 due june 20 (they will be 27 months apart) with no job or degree and living with my parents. To top it off, i am still legally married (been seperated for almost a year and a half) and will have two kids by two different men. Dont worry bout what other people say. If yall are happy, then that is all that matters.

Beth - posted on 04/19/2010

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I have had the same problems. I have told people outright to mind their own business. Don't worry about what the other people are saying, there are always ways to point out that they are being jerks, and as soon as you do, they will probably shut it right then and there! People need to mind their own P's and Q's! By the way, I will have three children 3 and under. Granted #3 was not planned, but no one else needs to know that!

Michelle - posted on 04/16/2010

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I will have 3 under two. But I have 4 kids with the oldest being 5. It doesn't matter what other people think of you, but what your preferance is. It is really none of their business! I love my two youngest right now being so close and when Tayla gets here it will add her to the mix!

Jennifer - posted on 04/15/2010

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Don't worry about what other people think. Im due June 17th just a week after my 1st will turn 1yr old. I was nervous about what people would say but I realized its none of there business and I have the right to what I want. I think my boys will be close and I know i can do it so poo on them.

Ashleigh - posted on 03/23/2010

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Im in the same boat as you are, I have a 8 month old little girl and im due again June 29th. Im a single active duty military mom and my command is on me about having my girls so close together. But i could really care less about what other people say, i know that my girls are taken care of and will always have each other! Who cares if my girls are only 51 weeks apart, i know they dnt :) Hang in there and i keep telling myself you cant make everyone happy just the ones that matter...your babies :)

Karen - posted on 03/12/2010

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Yaye im in your shoes aswell... Im due in June, my lil girl was born last year in June 2009. I get hassles aswell, mainly cause I work with all blokes... I always get questioned about been eager and ppl get shocked when they ask about my daughters age and when im due. I luv my belly bean and am happy that they will be so close together!! We are blessed... Im having a boy this time which is amazing. Enjoy your babies :-)

Tami - posted on 02/28/2010

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my first daughter was born may 09 n im due with our 2nd june 30th so about 13 months apart ive had a few people make comments about it i just say its not of there business im a great mom n im happy they will grow up together and b close all of my bro n sis are 5 to 7 yrs apart we never got along til after we were all about 17

Ana - posted on 02/06/2010

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I'm not in your shoes, but my mom had my brother, then 10 months later, me, then 11 months later had my younger sister. We're all so close together in age, nowadays people think it's awesome and tell my mom how awesome she is for braving 3 kids in diapers and car seats at once. But she said when we were younger, people gave her shit for it all the time too.

So, don't worry about it! My siblings and I LOVE being so close in age, my sister and I are even in the same grade because her birthday is before August, so we got lucky in that area.

Trudie - posted on 01/31/2010

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Hi There, Dont worry about the attitudes of others! We have a daughter whos 2 In April a Son who will be 1 in July and another wee gem due June so well have 3 under 2 1/4!!!
We have found lots of people to be negative and have had all the snide comments you mentioned above and yes they do hurt but whats most important is that your happy about it! Enjoy your pregnancy and the joys of having your babies grow up together. Yes itll be hard work for a short time but well worth it in the end :)

Michelle - posted on 01/28/2010

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This is my fourth child. I will actually have 3, coming in at 2 yrs and under. If that makes you feel any better! My oldest is Ethan will be 5, Wyatt just turned 2, Chase will be 1 in a few days, and this little one is due in June. It doesn't matter what other people think anyhow. It is what you wanted and your preference. Hope that this helped u!!!

Shannon - posted on 01/21/2010

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Don't worry about what people think! Mine will be 20 months apart and I think it will be great to have two babies and do all the baby stuff at (relatively) the same time. Just think, unless you have more, you could be out of diapers in just a few years - completely! And you won't have to put loads of stuff in storage for several years etc.

Danielle - posted on 01/21/2010

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I am getting flack and mine will be 21 months apart! Everyone kept saying things about how fertile we must be... and things like that. I am happy to be having another one, and I wouldn't change anything either~!

Jessica - posted on 01/21/2010

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Don't stress about what other people think! If you and your partner are happy about this that is all that matters! Mine are not as close as yours...they are 17 months apart. I wouldn't change it for the world! They are best friends. I am due in June with my third, this one is going to be four years younger than my last born. I hope people quit bugging you!