My 3 week old always cries when i put her down, does anyone have any ideas on what i can do?

Tess - posted on 07/22/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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she wont let me put her down, or she requires me to bounce her continuosly, if im not jigging her or bouncing her or giving her my full attention she cries i dont know how to settle her, is this normal baby behavior?

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Grace - posted on 08/04/2010

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This is totally normal behavior for 3 week old! At that age they do not even understand that they are not still connected to you, so it is natural that your baby wants to be with you all of the time. This corrects itself with time--your baby's eyesight improving will help considerably! The best thing you can do right now is meet your childs needs--they are learning that the world is a safe place and that you will take care of them. You cannot spoil them right now and now is NOT the time to get them used to being away from you. Trust your instincts. The first 6 weeks are very hard for the reason you outlined--it gets easier and easier. I agree with the suggestion above to get a sling or carrier to help you get things done. This was not an issue for my 3 year old, but my DD (6/25/10!) does not like to be put down either, so I use Dr. Sears' Baby Balboa. It is very helpful and I can even walk at the gym with her in it. Good luck and this too shall pass.

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hmm Im a new mom so I cant say if its normal, but I might know somethings to help you out. DO you have a swing? If not you definately need one. SOmetimes my little man canget like that, and I pop him in the swing. I dont hear a sound from him after that. You might also need to let her cry. Babies need to learn how to self-cope. If you pick her up every time she cries or always bounce her till she's asleep then that's what she will always expect. I try to lay my son down in bed when he's still awake sometimes just so he can fall asleep on his own. Bed side mobiles or bright colored toys tied to the side will help keep their attention until they fall alseep. Music helps a lot also. My mom always tells me that you cant hold babies all the time bc then you will never get anything done and you'll be stuck holding the child until it moves out. lol I hope that helps a little.

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Stephanie - posted on 08/27/2010

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The boncy chair works wonders it worked for all 3 of my kids but they all eventually get fussy even in that but definitely the bouncy and the swing are excellent remedies! Good Luck

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We had the same problem so we put Kaia in a MobyWrap. This allowed me to carry her around close to me and still get things done. It's very healthy for her to have the contact.

I highly recommend a wrap over a sling as they are more versatile and you can put the babe in all different positions.

Angela - posted on 08/17/2010

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you cannot spoil your little bub for the first 3 months so if i was you, i'd enjoy every moment with her even if you have to hold her a lot more than you want too. You have to understand that your little bub has been inside you for nearly 10 months, all warm and snug. She is now in this new huge world....the best thing to give her right now is your warmth and comfort! My little girl was exactly the same the first 3-4 weeks and i was happy to hold her, comfort her and even help her fall asleep. She now is 8 weeks old and is a lot more independent with sleeping on her own and lying on the floor by herself. I think that intial comfort helped her 'trust' me more and learn that mummy will be back....good luck. It's not an easy thing to deal with as i know is can be overwhelming having to hold them all the time but i really believe at that age, it shouldn't matter how much you hold and comfort them. Enjoy being with her and allow for her to enjoy and trust you xoxo

Debbie - posted on 08/11/2010

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it depends on wot sort of cry it is wen u put her down!!! if she sounds like she id in pain she cud have a bit of reflux i went through it wiv both of my girls but if she is just doing it for attention then my advice is to leave her for a couple of mins at a time that is wot i have to do wiv my 9wk old ova wise u will neva get ne thing dun i no it sounds cruel but they do learn that they wont get picked up everytime they scream the house down

Stephanie - posted on 07/31/2010

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if the only reason your baby calms is when you are bouncing them or rocking them, usually it means they have an upset belly. even a single gas bubble can cause discomfort. try some mylicon infant gas drops or gas x infant gas drops. or if you lay them on their tummies, doing tummy time. i have 3 boys and the whole belly situation has been different for all 3 but my 5 week old gets very bad gas bubbles, so his doctor told me as long as im sitting right there and there are no blankets around him than its ok to let him sleep a little bit on his belly during the day only!! when they are on their belly it relives pressure which makes them more comfortable. Also if you lay them across your belly with their head on your chest that also helps. i would try the belly before the gas drops even if you dont let them sleep on it, if that helps than try the gas drops. swings also work, and running the vacuum cleaner as many times in one day as you can. i didnt think the vacuum cleaner made since until i tried it and it does actually work because its a steady sound, also running water. if none of this helps than your baby than i would ask your babies doctor :)

Kelly - posted on 07/31/2010

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try buying a wrap/baby holder to hold her close to you so you can get things done around the house... i cant give much advice sorry as both my boys have been great on this one, my baby is now 4weeks and i can put him int he rocker put the vibrate on and walk away and get things done as in dishes and washing and even shower and he is fine... only think i would reccomend is trying to get her out of being too clingy as it will make life easier and she needs to learn that you will go away but you will come back to her... but try that lesson when she is a little older - my son sometimes just wants a cuddle to get him off to sleep so yeah just remember at this yougn ages nothing is better then a cuddle with mummy as we smell the best and our heartbeat is soothing

Hannah - posted on 07/29/2010

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sounds exactaly like my daughter. she is 8 weeks now and still the same. i bought a yoga ball to sit on and bounce her because she needs to bounce. she wont even sit in her bouncer because its not bouncy enough. its so hard cause she also cries all the time. have you tried a swing? it calms my daughter down.

Dawn - posted on 07/23/2010

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I know this situation all too well. I had the same issue with my daughter. I would put her in her bouncy seat or in her swing and always be where she could see me. It worked for me.

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