Why do people go out of their way to boast about their child?

Serene - posted on 03/26/2011

I boast about both of my children because they are my WORLD. If i get on here and brag about my daughter about doing something then i should have the right to do it.... I don't mean to make anyone upset or think that there child is behind. All children develop different and My kids mean the world to me and I am excited what they do. YES I'm going to post it on here. This is a board about our children and what they are doing...

Nicole - posted on 03/17/2011

it annoys me too. everyone thinks their child is the cutest and most clever because they are our children, of course they are!

Kelly - posted on 03/13/2011

i agree with you some moms and dads take it over board.
Its all good to say your child is great but when parents say there kids are talking at like 6months and can say mama and dada and arent just babbling then they are lying and are talking up their kids which is annoying.
I love hearing what other mums kids are doing and i like to compare but not to the extent where someone gets upset.
Like me and my mate compare babies who are born 2weeks apart - not by compitition but to see how they are different.
They are all different so let them be different

Teresa - posted on 03/09/2011

I dont think it would be a mothers self esteem. I brag about my girl beacause she is clever and she does crazy awesome things everyday. I had an amazing childhood and got praise etc. A mother boasts about her child because of the obvious fact that its her child and she is proud of him or her. all children are different but i dont see why a mother cant tell someone about how amazing her child is. .........My girl is AMAZING :)

Cassandra - posted on 03/09/2011

I suppose it is actually a self esteem thing. Suppose being the operative word. Maybe for some, they havent felt their best in a while, maybe its the baby weight, maybe a rough prenancy, maybe it;s a reflection of their childhood and the voids or damage from it ( example: not receiving proper praise in order to develop a healthy self- esteem and now the mother wants to break that cycle), maybe all of the above but I do understand how it can be frustrating. Perhaps you could try to change the subject?

Robyn - posted on 03/09/2011

this is my first baby and i cant help but tell everylittle thing that he does bc im just so amazed at how hes grown every new thing just seems like such a big deal to me, so i dont meen to boast about him but he is my life and im so pround and excited about it that i cant help it, on the other hand i do not compare or try to convey that my baby is better than anyones, me and about 5 of my friends all had babys at the same time withina month or two of eachother so were constantly telling eachother the new thing that our babes are doing, but just bc one is crawling and the other is not doesnt meen im trying to rub it in there face that mines developmentally ahead of hers, and i think some people take it the wrong way...i think parents boast bc theyre so proud i wouldnt take it personally we cant help it, unless they are out right trying to one up u with there childs new skills

Pennie - posted on 03/09/2011

yep, totally agree!!

Kat - posted on 02/22/2011

Excitement & pride is one thing. I certainly don't discourage that. But if someone compares or refers one child's development against another child that peeves me off. I only tell people my children's exciting things to people I know feel the same way for my child. If I'm talking to someone who is competitive, I don't tell them anything.

Pennie - posted on 02/20/2011

I guess they are mummas being proud!!

Tina - posted on 02/18/2011

I wouldn't take it personally. I wouldn't think it was an attempt to annoy you it's just an exciting time for a parent seeing their child learn new things. I don't feel it's a competition every childs different some will develope some skills quicker than others. But at the same time there's probably other things they struggle with. Just enjoy your child. Enjoy watcing them grow up. People are going to show pride in their children and so should you regardless of when they do things. Don't worry too much about other people.

Shae - posted on 02/16/2011

every baby devlopes at different times...
i dont really talk to my friends about my son .
but i do BOAST about him alot to my family he is the first baby for everyone forst grand child first newphew so eveyrone loves hearing about it

i had this "friend" and she was CONSTANTLY trying to make it a competteion between our to boys.. they were abut two months apart ...i just couldn't handle it anymore and stoped all contact OBVIOSULY deep down we all think our children are better :P and thats normal your gunna love you children more OBVIOUSLY :P
and i dont know if you feel the same but when people go on about how there children have done this this and that earlier blah blah all you think is yeah i really dont five a fuck lol

Kat - posted on 01/31/2011

I do find it a little annoying when moms proclaim their kids to be geniuses because they are crawling or saying ma ma early. It doesn't exactly make you a rocket scientist, now, does it? LOL. I get as excited as the next mom about my little one's milestones, but I understand that every baby is different and it's perfectly normal for them to hit milestones within a wide time-frame.

Jasmine - posted on 01/13/2011

I can't say I feel the same way because a parent has the right to say "my child is only __ months and he/she can ___". I think it's more about being excited than anything. And if it is boasting, let them boast. If you choose not to, then don't....It is what it is!!

Concerned(AK) - posted on 01/12/2011

I agree with all of u. I think human nature is fraught with exaggeration and the hope that their child is somehow the best. A lot of mums lives just revolve around their childrens and when family and friends ask they some how project their wishful thinking into words. My only worry is that some mums may actually cause more harm than good by pushing their children into doIng things prematurely just so they cud brag about it. There little bodies may not be ready so please be patient and gentle .Hopefully all these kids will do well whether they walk at 9 or 15 months!

Dawn - posted on 01/09/2011

My older daughter did a lot of things when she was "supposed" to. And then she didn't do a lot of things at all. My younger daughter will do nothing for quite a while and then in a matter of a couple days, has hit 2 or 3 milestones.
Now I'm a rather competitive person, just ask my husband. But when it comes to our girls, they'll do it when they do it, and that's the end of it. I worry when it doesn' t happen when the books say it should, but if they seem happy and healthy, I'm happy, too.
That said, I agree with Rachel, that most mom's are just overly excited, but I think a lot of mom's tend to exaggerate things. For instance, claiming their child has said a full sentence, when perhaps, they've said "ma ba ba" in baby babbles.
I hear ya, it is a little annoying, but just take it with a grain of salt, and know that it probably isn't what they say it is, and if it's true, they are not the norm.

Rachel - posted on 01/07/2011

i think some times it is boasting but most of the time mums might just be excited on how there children can do things early... i have a daughter and shes my first and i get so excited when she does new things and tell everybody lol