Flipping inappropriate clothing for kids...

Tah - posted on 08/03/2011 ( 165 moms have responded )

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So I was shopping today and saw a shirt for little girls that "pop it like it's hot"....I really don't care that it had two pop tarts and a toaster..we all know the songs drop it like it's hot..which isn't talking about food I'll tell ya that...and pop that...ahem..you get it..so I found it offensive...

What clothing have seen that belongs in the 25 and up section?

Do you think clothing has crossed the line for kids?

Would you have bought that shirt for your daughter or am I overreacting?

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Barb - posted on 09/22/2011

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Maria, i'm really trying to understand the logic that says it's not just okay, but a cool idea, to put suggestive ads on little kids.. If i were to see an adult wearing a shirt like that it would be my first clue they are lacking in self esteem. So to see a child wearing it is evidence the parent is just passing down the low self esteem.

I don't know, maybe it's because i'm older and i look at things differently now than i did when i was a young mom. I've made mistakes with my own children that i regret now. I've hurt their esteem simply because i was ignorant about the right thing to say or do for their best interest.. not societies. I totally agree you should dress your kid how you want to as long as how you want to, is developing a healthy, confident, well rounded individual. Do you really think clothes with these words on them aides you in doing this?

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Why does anyone care if you have money or not...No one said anything about being a snob because you have money...your a snob because you dont care about anyone but yourself and dont listen to what people say. Your are not God's gift to this earth and people can have a different view on things. I think its sad when someone has to mention they have money just to make themselves sound important when they arent...money cant buy happiness and you seem like a very unhappy person.

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Maria and Tah,

I'm interjecting here (is that allowed? lol):
I'm not an administrator, but you two are both taking personal shots against one another, and that just causes defensiveness rather than understanding. None of my affair, I know.
Everyone else who is reading your posts understands where each of you are coming from.

Tah, Now you know who buys those shirts - we all know the market is driven by consumers.
Maria: Just because you are a-okay with words and slogans, doesn't mean everyone else is "up-tight," they just find it inappropriate for their family.

We as a society do over sexualize girls in many ways, clothing is just one component. I don't want to see slogans, and high heels on little girls (or boys for that matter! lol) I personally see it as an issue of self-respect; I believe my family doesn’t need to be offering free advertising for anyone, and I don’t need anyone to be staring at my kid’s butt trying to figure out the message printed on her shorts. (Hence, no messages on butts in my house.)

Other mothers obviously believe otherwise.

I want my daughters to be taken seriously. There will be plenty of time and space for sexy romanticism in their personal life when they are grown, but as they are growing up they don’t need to be distracted by innuendo and suggestiveness on their shirts and pants. I want their friends and teachers to see them as an individual and capable person, and for me a shirt that says “Pop it like its ‘Hot’” doesn’t convey that message.

Tah - posted on 09/22/2011

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1) i can't stand when people who are about 2 years old call me honey...please don't do that.



2) my panties aren't in a bunch,they fit quite nicely, smooth and even across each cheek.. i was explaining, so that you would understand that the tights are the ones that you wear outside, not stockings, because you seemed lost, you still do, but hey, you can lead a horse to water....



3) As parent's it's our job to see things that the children don't and to anticipate things, like the message clothing is conveying and how it will be interpreted by others. If thats not how you parent, then thats your children's loss, nothing i can do about that. You can blame me for protecting my children, my son blames me for ruining his social life because he can't stay out until 11pm, doesn't bother me either so ill take that, but i can also blame you for not protecting yours. some things come with maturity and age. soon you'll understand..or maybe not..again..not my cross to carry...

Tah - posted on 09/22/2011

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you can find it tacky, and yes it's just you. im not talking about stocking tights..im talking about regular black tights that really arent even tight, The ones that come with the long shirts as a set, the ones that are made to be worn alone, do you know what im talking about now. she has tigher jeans than those tights. the shirt came down mid- thigh and was loose as well...but i don't have to defend my daughters tights when you would allow your child to wear a shirt that says how many licks...puhlease. If you think that shirts that say things like that are the best...you may want to raise your standards a smidge...As i said i don't have a problem with trendy clothes, my children wear them as well. I have a problem with clothes that are suggestive for children. There are enough things going on that make children grow up too fast, im not going to contribute to mine. I know there are sickos out there and im not about to put a spotlight on my kid for them sorry, wrong mama...

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Alexis - posted on 10/28/2012

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I agree, along with the music that is more for adults and maybe older teenagers being listened to by tweens.

Bobell2 - posted on 09/17/2012

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No, you are not overreating at all. My friends kid was attempting to wear a shirt to church "Life's a beach", the 12 yr old didn't think of it as adults do, but the mom had her to change it anyway. We have to explain inappropriate to our kids.



I explain alot to my daughter, wish I didn't have to, she will be singing along to some nasty mess until I tell her what it means - she's DONE...I'm so greatful. I agree the clothes are outrageous also...there is no primetime any longer....we have to take it back!

Chaya - posted on 07/25/2012

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Just refuse to buy them. That's why I shop at thrift stores. I can't find regular jeans, (as opposed to low rise) at the gap, etc. So I spend 10% of that price for something that can hide my underclothing, or my surgical scar,tat, or whatever I'm trying to hide.
I'm proud of my tat, but I intentionally put it on a place I can show off or hide.
We need to be the parents. We have final say on what our children wear.
I don't like bikini's, especially not on my 17 y/o, but other than that, my daughter dresses quite modestly, by choice. I told her many years ago, to dress modestly. I didn't clarify, she needed to choose. She won't wear tank tops, short shorts, or short skirts. I told her when she was 12, that she could have a bikini when her husband bought her one, so her dad went and bought her one. You may notice I'm not taking him back

Valerie - posted on 07/23/2012

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I honestly don't find that shirt inappropriate since the picture is just of two pop tarts... But if there was a picture of something racy I definitely would complain. I've seen some pretty bad clothes out there like sweatpants with "lets have fun" written across the butt and t-shirts with "you wanna piece of it?" on shirts. It honestly disgusts me. Thankfully, my daughter doesn't wear those kind of annoying graphic tees.

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yeah compleely overpriced and completely worth it (or was when made in canada now I think they pill a touch after long time). but seriously those things are so comfy and suck it all in and still feels good. jkt barb...frumpy? no soo cute. wanted cause covers really well (ass, head) for walking babies/dog when raining. still, not laying out that much. my k-way style does sorta just fine. but sorta.

so yeah yo do see girls wearing these pants with short tops. women too. but isn't awful. and not surprised in seattle cause so similar to van. they do free yoga classes too. smart company. get you in and gt you to drop your cash when doing something 'free.'

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I was wonder what that store was. It's in a local mall, but Vancouver is 3 hours away. I just saw it as an overpriced yoga store (of which that mall has 3).

Barb - posted on 10/09/2011

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That jacket is cute, although cutest from the backside, the side view looks frumpy to me

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http://www.lululemon.com/

a fortune but soo comfy and never tacky. I lived in a pair (not the skin tight ass ones but a roomier version during my entire pregnancy. and post til weight loss.). have they hit the states? a fortune but last forever.

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I like leggings and long tops. don't even mind shorter ones (on others) if leggings are proper leggings and thick enough to suck it all in and not be the tacky see through kind. even with larger women, if its worn as in pic amy showed I think its fine. comfortable and easy. plus looks great w/tall boots. not that I dress for success these days. dress for comfort and easy to gt ass out door when have to be fast. how can leggings on a kid be innapropriate? not like we see them (hopefully) in see through ones. at least in my area. here its all about lululemon. a great yoga clothing store that also does street wear. canadan but oh yay once again outsourced to china. now it say's designed in vancouver (canadian city the company originated in) made in china. give me a break. and 2nd wealtiest man in canada apparently.

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I refuse to wear leggings myself. But I was tormented with them as a child. I didn't understand that it was the style of the early 90s. I just thought I was too fat for jeans.

At the same time I agree that leggings are nice on active girls to prevent the panty/diaper showing while they run around. My daughter is also sporting the leggings and dress thing. The dress is one of those shirt dresses, so it is a bit short for stockings.

I have to wear tights under the dresses that fit over my belly right now. One gust of wind and oops. Uh, no thank you.

Merry - posted on 10/08/2011

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I love tights or leggings under skirts! Or under long shirts too. Girl, or adult. If it's done right it's quite nice looking.
In fact my baby girl is wearing leggings and a skirt shirt right now!

Amy - posted on 10/08/2011

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ps - i prefer leggins and tights any day over nakedness under the skirts. i think it adds modesty. And I've even worn some under longer skirts because, hey, it gets windy and no one but my husband needs to see my panties!

Amy - posted on 10/08/2011

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My daughter was gifted these stupid disney princess heels by her cousin. Thanks. ugh. Whatever. was a gift and PLAY shoes. Well, little snot decided it would make a great weapon against little brother. gone. trash done.

now the boots....wow. "pageant school costume bike"? uh..run that by me again. does that translate into "toddler bad bitch biker boots"? and guess what, there are3 available!!

And..I wear leggins and tunic tops for exercise and around the house. Husband likes that over raggy sweats and sweatshirts.

http://www.victoriassecret.com/clothing/...

But Gigi wears them all the time. Or a skirt and her leg warmers. She's so 80s. I let her have her own style. She's almost 5. But leggins let her wear skirts in colder weather. Sorry, she likes girly. She's the girliest tomboy I know. For kids...leggins and skirts look like rainbow brite to me.

Barb - posted on 10/08/2011

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okay, what in the hell are we talking about with leggings? Are we talking about full leg pantyhose tights? or are we talking about leggings that have the bit of lace on the end and come down just below the knee? or are we talking about stirrup pants?

Tah - posted on 10/07/2011

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well my daughter is 9 and i like the way her leggings/tights look with a long belted shirt and boots...its cute...but every one has an opinion

Isobel - posted on 10/07/2011

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ok...I should've been clearer. My daughter is 10...leggings/tights on anybody over 5 or so is tacky

Jenni - posted on 10/07/2011

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I just don't get it! They're not going to be kids for long, what's with the rush to dress them like mini-adults?

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Whoa, if it wasn't for the sizes I would have totally thought those boots (both) where for an adult. Why are we reverting to the 1700s? I thought we all decided that binding, dressing, and making our children act like adults right away was bad for them?

Merry - posted on 10/05/2011

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Oh good lord, those boots looked waaaaayyyy too sexy to be on toddlers! Even I don't have sexy black leather lace up heeled boots like that and I'm a married adult!
Yuck, I hope I'm not in for a hard time finding Fierna appropriately adorable shoes.
Cuz that's what I'm going for, adorable.

Barb - posted on 10/05/2011

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That is a good point Tah, what is wrong with children's style? And is buying adult style giving the message to kids that there is something wrong with being a kid?

Tah - posted on 10/05/2011

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SHUT THE FRONT DOOR BARB...did you see those boots..i mean i know you saw them but i dont think my boots are that adult. and they are in grown up style..and why is that??..is there something wrong with a childrens style..you know whats sad, someone is ordering them for their 4 year old right now.....



Edit to add:..about sydneys shoes...you know what the biggest problem is..i have a pair almost exactly like them so i went in her room and said "sydney why are my shoes in here..have you been closet shopping again"..she said "no mommy they are mine...so i went to stick my foot in them and yes, they were hers....smh...

Tah - posted on 10/05/2011

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thats so funny Barb i was thinking about starting a thread about if people think kids are little adults but had to stop to give some tylenol. i hear people say it all the time but the truth is kids are kids and they are that for many reasons.

Barb - posted on 10/05/2011

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Exactly Tah! she has her whole life to wear heels, it doesn't have to be done now and it is NOT cute.. they are not little miniature adults, they are kids! they are still growing, their bones, cartilage and muscles are still forming.

And oh Tah, i hope someone gets a talking to about that! so not cool. And i also hope you talk to Syd about why you feel that way about heels for her or any kid her age

Merry - posted on 10/05/2011

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I agree barb and tah! No 3 yr old should have heels, and no 9 yr old needs heels snuck in behind moms back!

Tah - posted on 10/05/2011

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so i go in sydneys room and she has another pair of heels..okay..so where did they come from..her stepmothers sister bought them for her. i really wish people would check with me before they buy certain things. she is 9 years old and i dont want her in heels. sneakers fine, cute flats fine, but to buy her heels is something else and needs to be discussed with her mother first..well IMO anyway

Tah - posted on 10/05/2011

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exactly Barb, because there isnt enough time to wear heels when they grow up, they must do it now..

Barb - posted on 10/05/2011

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I am reviving this debate because i'm shopping for winter boots for Lilly, a THREE year old, will be 4 in March and they have winter boots with a heel, leather and buckles.. aka little whore line.. wth?! who puts a heel on toddler shoes?

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Wow i'm off here 24 hours and this convesation has taken like 20 different turns!
I love oneies. My daughter when she was learning how to walk refused to walk if she had pants on so she lived in onesies and shoes lol.

Stifler's - posted on 09/23/2011

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my kids are both currently wearing a singlet and nappy. if we go somewhere renae wears a onesie with no pants and logan wears a shirt and shorts or sometimes i'm just lazy and take him down to the shops in his nappy and a shirt.

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I like the dresses with the ruffle bum part to cover the diaper on beth, other than that shes in sleepers. later on it'd probably be jeans and a T like Aiden, like me too I'm pretty basic.

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isn't it funny how a debate about how we dress our kids is such a popular one? cause we all have sooo much extra time on our hands. shouldn't we be discussing...oh I don't know...climate change or how we can do our part to help war torn nations or something? ...nah...wh am I kidding. we all need a break from day to day. call me shallow but talking about kids clothes is fun. but don't and I repeat DON'T call me honey or tacky :)

Jenni - posted on 09/23/2011

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My husband and I like surfer styles for our son. My hubby always wears surfer styles even though we live in the middle of Canada surrounded by lakes! But I love the beach look and it totally suits my son with his highlighted blonde hair. But most of my kids clothes are Mexx, Old Navy, H&M and Children's Place. He also has a lot of Rugby, Soccer and Football clothes. As well as trendy geekwear like Star Wars and comic book Superheros. I love faux long sleeved shirts under T-shirts and hoodies!



My SD is usually dressed casual. Jeans and T-shirts. She too has lots of Super Hero clothes. Hello Kitty (her aunt is obsessed). Leggings with a jean button up long shirt and a cute waist belt. And I absolutely adore sundresses on girls. Both my girls have tons of sundresses.



My youngest daughter (16 months) has tons of leggings! Guess those are tacky? Sundresses. Jean dresses. I love tights on babies... they are too darn adorable. Especially in horizontal stripes or with little bows on the ankles. Most of her clothes are from Children's Place.



I also love trendy, knitted sweaters. Some styles for kids are just timeless classics. I'm also all for bringing back the "Muff". A friend of mine and I wanted to start our own "Muff" accesories businesss for children/teens/adults. lol



I always get compliments on how my children are dressed. Even if I'm not always dressed the best! lol My children are always dressed nice. ;)



I think shirts with sexual innuedo's on girls and women for that matter... are trashy, no offense to anyone... just my opinion.

Merry - posted on 09/23/2011

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Haha I like Eric dressed up like a skater boy or in sort of preppy clothes, I love button down Hawaiian style shirts on him. But no tucked in shirts, and no short boy shorts, and no skulls. He looks super adorable in jerseys and long shorts with his long curly hair and bright blue eyes. He's just adorable!

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girls should look tough and kickass! as in give me a doll so I can rip her head off and use my great gross muscles to really work them! and give me that big ass truck to push around that playground and really strut my stuff!
but yeah, of course I like her to look cute and sweet. just don't wnat her to know that :)
oh and like eli to look cute and sweet too. jsut not take his mosnter truck and throw it as has been his latest addiction.

Merry - posted on 09/23/2011

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I like leggings on girls, but they have to have a shirt long enough to cover the butt. In diapers it looksweirdand in under ware it looks suggestive.
Girls should look cute and sweet.
Or my big weakness is girls dressed in clothes like a classy woman would wear to the office. THATS cute!

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hey wait a minute my daughter wore tights with a regular length t ystrdy. I'm tacky :(
but they weren't see through although at 22 months what would ya see...her diaper. although do have to admit one day I did have her in a t and pink tights with a long top over. did the spy mom thing sitting on toilet looking at daycare playground and saw it was hot and they took off her long top. they were see through. oh...those are see through. that looks kinda shitty. but hey the diaper showed so hardly something sexy. and she was comfy! but made mental note to keep those leggings for long dress tops. my favourite pants for her are what I've been told technically (if we wanna get technical here) are called jeggings. tights colour of jeans. but don't think its a word in websters.

and I maintain...22 months. tights and t's not tacky. I'm not tacky DAMNIT! but then again I'm old so what do I know.

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do you hve time for a clogged inbox for ratings? or wasted vicki moscoe responded blah blah (sorry for cloggng all others :)

Amy - posted on 09/23/2011

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seriously, i spend ONE day at the hospital and you guys go crazy. lol. Where's barb's simmer down thingy? I do love debating and most of you ladies dearly...but six pages..I do not have time for.

Stifler's - posted on 09/23/2011

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baha ha haha my panties fit smoothly across each cheek. love it.

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