Denikka - posted on 12/06/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
Just watched an episode of this show on TwistTV.
I just can't believe some of what these poor girls are being told.
In essence, it's a (British) show about a group of young (15/16yr old moms) who have opted to go in for, basically mom training. They are all living with their young children in a communal home with help from nannies and therapists to learn how to cope with things on their own.
Stripped down to that, I think it's a wonderful idea.
But some of the advice the girls are being told, just makes me cringe. One of the moms wants to do demand feeding and wants to allow her child to basically set his own routine. The nanny is completely against it and has told her that unless she has her baby on a strict (not just a general, but a STRICT routine) routine, she is going to be unable to know what her baby's needs are and that she's just creating a nightmare for herself by not making her child sleep in his own crib and be asleep at 7:30pm.
Okay, I have nothing against routines. If that's what works for you, GREAT!! But not every baby can handle being fed ONLY every 4 hours, or sleeping for 12 hours straight. You HAVE to listen to your own child.
Not to mention the bull about being unable to know what the baby needs if they're not on a schedule. WTF?? A small baby only has a few needs; comfort, food, cleaning. I'm not talking about colicky babies or whatever, I'm talking about just regular, general needs. I'm sure that anyone can figure it out.
It just bothers me that this program is pushing ONE style of parenting and saying, not only that other styles are wrong, but that you are actually unable to care for your child's needs if you choose a different style.
Has anyone else seen this show? Did I completely miss something, or am I on the mark with this one?
I completely do NOT approve of the message that this show is sending.