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Would you rather hold out for a fancy/expensive engagement ring even if it meant that it was delaying not only the wearing of such ring but also the wedding itself or would you prefer to have something less flashy for the sake of tieing the knot sooner?
As most of you know hunni and I are engaged, my promise ring was lost several months ago and my finger feels naked without it. So he's brought it up a couple of times how he wants to go above and beyond with the ring and the proposal and the wedding and the honeymoon and I've tried my best to explain that none of that matters to me really I'm committed he knows it and I'd be just as happy with a plain ring and a trip to city hall and for us to start our life as a married couple, we're already commonlaw and our friends and family view us as a married unit anyway but you married ladies I'm sure can agree actually being married is quite different. Now he makes comments about the wedding I deserve and a ring I can brag to all my friends about and thats nice, I know he only wants the best for me and I want the best for him....that includes not working himself into an early grave for a piece of jewellery though. His plan is to get me an expensive ring, have a huge wedding to accomodate all our family, and to go to Italy for our honeymoon. I'd be happy with an inexpensive ring, small intimate wedding in town and tickets to some place warm when said tickets are on sale lol. I guess whats frustrating me is that the more expensive his plans get, the farther away from setting the date we get. It's not that there's a huge rush for me exactly so if it were a matter of bidding time which I'm 98% sure its not then thats fine but if it really is just about the money well wth. If we don't base anything else on money then why is the price tag on a ring standing in my way of being happily married as opposed to happily engaged? If it really is about what he thinks I want or deserve why wont he listen when I say what I want is just to be married in the near future not in 10 years lol. Anyway what he thinks I deserve gets more expensive each day while what I really want gets progressively further away, he just can't seem to grasp the fact that THE ring for me is whatever ring he gives me not neccessarily the biggest sparkliest rock in the cabinet. I just really hope it doesn't end up being 10 years from now and him saying that he hasn't saved enough yet...I mean one of his paychecks could afford me a beautiful ring that I would be more than happy with but he's so hung up on saving for long enough to buy me a ring that most likely in this town will get robbed from me anyway. Call me crazy I'm not comfortable walking around with expensive jewellery, so long as its pretty I'm happy :)