Alida - posted on 04/12/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )
I have a fantastic new husband, 2 amazing girls and a pretty decent relationship with my ex-husband. I find out yesterday that my 10 yr old said my husband slapped her and left a mark...a month ago. She posted this on FACEBOOK with his name for all to see. Her father told her that she needs to speak to me about it as it "happened" at our house and not his. My 10 yr old never approached me, as she fears talking to me (according to my ex) so it was left alone. It came up yesterday. My husband is mortified that she would make the accusation and my ex doesn't believe he would do it either. I spoke calmly to her on the phone yesterday, as she is visiting her dad, and asked her to explain what happened. Claiming I wasn't home, which according to the date I was, she told me what happened.
Now three things about this puzzle me
1) Should I be taking her Facebook away permanently as a consequence as my husband could be hauled away by the police, or temporary?
2) How do I deal with such exaggeration she puts on things?
3) How do I change things so that we have healthy communication so she doesn't "fear" speaking to me? I've never hit her BTW